Wednesday, March 30, 2011

5 Types of Love- Shaikh Faisal

5 types of Love
Shaikh Abdullah Faisal
(evening dars 3.30.11)


Love- a strong and tender feeling of affection and devotion to someone or something

--People are given love according to their merit
Jihad (holy fighting in Allah's Cause) is ordained for you (Muslims) though you dislike it, and it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allah knows but you do not know. (2:216)

5 types of love:

1. Emotional love [parents and siblings]
--The Prophet (saws) loved his uncle, Abu Talib, a kaafir – when he refused to take his Shahadah, Allah swt revealed that we can’t guide those to Islam just because we love them
Verily! You (O Muhammad) guide not whom you like, but Allah guides whom He wills. And He knows best those who are the guided. (28:56)
And never (O Muhammad SAW) pray (funeral prayer) for any of them (hypocrites) who dies, nor stand at his grave. Certainly they disbelieved in Allâh and His Messenger, and died while they were Fâsiqûn (rebellious, - disobedient to Allâh and His Messenger SAW). (9:84)
Verily, you will find the strongest among men in enmity to the believers (Muslims) the Jews and those who are Al-Mushrikûn (5:82)

2. Spiritual love [when you love a person for the sake of Allah, is a good Muslim and mindful of their duties to Allah swt]
The Prophet (saws) said: There are seven whom Allah ill shade in His Shade on the Day when there is no shade except His Shade: a just ruler; a youth who grew up in the worship of Allah, the Mighty and Majestic; a man whose heart is attached to the mosques; two men who love each other for Allah's sake, meeting for that and parting upon that a man who is called by a woman of beauty and position [for illegal intercourse], but be says: 'I fear Allah', a man who gives in charity and hides it, such that his left hand does not know what his right hand gives in charity; and a man who remembered Allah in private and so his eyes shed tears.' [Narrated by Abu Hurairah & collected in Sahih al-Bukhari vol.1, p.356, no.629 & Sahih Muslim English trans.) vol. 2, p.493, no.2248]

Narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: 'You will not enter Paradise until you believe, and you will not believe until you love one another. Shall I not tell you about something which, if you do it, you will love one another? Spread salaam amongst yourselves.' [At-Timidhi 2513]

--we’re to be helpers, supporters, friends and protectors of each other; forbidding the wrong and enjoining the right, they pay zakat, and they respect the salat

The believers, men and women, are Auliyâ’ (helpers, supporters, friends, protectors) of one another; they enjoin (on the people) Al-Ma‘rûf (i.e. Islâmic Monotheism and all that Islâm orders one to do), and forbid (people) from Al-Munkar (i.e. polytheism and disbelief of all kinds, and all that Islâm has forbidden) AuthenticTauheed18: they perform As-Salât (Iqâmat-as-Salât), and give the Zakât, and obey Allâh and His Messenger. Allâh will have His Mercy on them. Surely Allâh is All-Mighty, All-Wise. (9:71)
In their hearts is a disease (of doubt and hypocrisy) and Allâh has increased their disease. A painful torment is theirs because they used to tell lies. (2:10)

Conditions of Shahadah:
1. Knowledge
2 Certainty
3 Acceptance
4 Submission and compliance
5 Truthfulness
6 Sincerity
7 Love and hate for the sake of Allah

Giving salaams:
--Give it first
--Young should give to the older
--Walking should give salaam to the sitting
--Small crowd should given salaam to a larger crowd
--Don’t go 3 days without giving salaams to your brother (it’s as if you killed him)

"When you are greeted with a greeting, greet in return with what is better than it or (at least) return it equally. Certainly, Allah is Ever a Careful Account Taker of all things." (4:86)

--“As’salaam aleikum” should be replied
--“Yarhamukallah” is proper response to a person sneezing who says, “Alhumdulillah”

Rasul(saw) said, The Muslims in their love and affection for each other is like one body, when one part is affected the whole body feels the pain. The Rasool (saw) also said: Muslims are like a solid structure

The Rasul(saw) said sweetness of eeman: Allah / Rasool become dearer to you than anything else ~ love a person for the sake of Allah ~ hate going back to disbelief like hate being thrown into hellfire

6 Rights over Muslim Ummah
1. When he seeks your advice, give it sincerely
2. If you’re invited to walima, you must go (unless there’s free-mixing)
3. When he gives salaam, you respond
4. When he sneezes, you say “Yarhamukallah” / “Alhumdulillah”
5. When he’s sick, you go to visit him
6. Go to their janaaza

3. Physical love – physical attraction/ chemistry
-–marry whom you’re attracted to/ The purpose of marriage is to lower your gaze!

And if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphan-girls, then marry (other) women of your choice, two or three, or four but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one or (the captives and the slaves) that your right hands possess. That is nearer to prevent you from doing injustice. (4:3)
And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour. (17:23)

--Aisya [ra] was looking at the physical characteristics of Khadijah and asking why you loved her but the Rasool (saws) responded with Khadijah’s characteristics that were her character not physical traits
--Love – you find them beautiful because of their character
--Lust – you are crazy just because of their looks / physical traits (short-lived)

3 Types of Divorce:
Khula – divorcing him because there’s no chemistry [must return dowry]
Faskh – he beats or does womanizing or doesn’t take care of you [you can keep the dowry & get an annulment]
Talaq - when he divorces her due to her bad behaviour

--When you love a person, you look over their blunders.
--When you don’t love a person, you magnify all their small mistakes and make a big deal out of them so marry a woman who’s pleasing to you [4:3]

3 crucial Ingredients for Marriage:

Symptoms of a cheating husband:
--Calls you by another woman’s name
--Doesn’t want to be in your company
--Asks for more space
Marriage makes or breaks you – the worst thing is to be in a love-less marriage!

4. Divine Love – the type Allah ‘tala has for His righteous servants
--Al-wadud--> one of the names of Allah
Surely Allâh loves Al- Mattaqûn (the pious - see V.2:2). (9;4)

--If you spend all the money in the world, you’ll never put enough love in each other’s hearts (only Allah ‘tala does that)
--Money can’t buy love.
--Eeeman is most valuable.
--The most important things in life have no monetary value

And He has united their (i.e. believers') hearts. If you had spent all that is in the earth, you could not have united their hearts, but Allâh has united them. Certainly He is All-Mighty, All-Wise. (8:63)
And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect. (30:21)

--The mother who is so kind and loves her newly born baby
--Allah’s love for you is more than that of the woman for her baby - alhamdulillah
--Divine love is special because it is only from Allah
--If you come to ALLAH with one hand span, He (swt) will come to you with ten hand spans - ----If you come to Him walking, He will come to you running - alhamdulillah

5. Unconditional Love – the love of a laafirfir (haraam love) (they love to a fault)

Muslims love unconditionally [sometimes]:
--Allah (subhan’watala)
--Rasool (saws)
--The 4 Caliphs [Abu Bakr, Umar ibn al-Khattab, Uthman ibn Affan, Ali ibn Ali Talib]
--The 4 Imams [Imam Malik, Imam Ahmad ibn Hanbal, Iman Abu Hanifa, and Imam Shafi’i]

--John Walker Lindh’s mother loves her Muslim son unconditionally but she is kaafir. “American Taliban” and is in jail; but she stood by her son:
--White people stand by their kids when they take Shahadah because they love unconditionally
--They love their sons even if they are homosexual
--this type of unconditional love is not allowed in Islam
--We love Muslims of today as long as they stay within the fold of Islam, but if they apostate, we hate them – this is al wala wal bara (one of the 7 conditions of Shahadah)
You (O Muhammad SAW) will not find any people who believe in Allâh and the Last Day, making friendship with those who oppose Allâh and His Messenger (Muhammad SAW ), even though they were their fathers, or their sons, or their brothers, or their kindred (people). For such He has written Faith in their hearts, and strengthened them with Rûh (proofs, light and true guidance) from Himself. And We will admit them to Gardens (Paradise) under which rivers flow, to dwell therein (forever). Allâh is pleased with them, and they with Him. They are the Party of Allâh. Verily, it is the Party of Allâh that will be the successful. (58:22)

>> Al wala wal bara: When you are blessed with eeman, that is when you can practice and fulfill al wala wal bara