Western Prostitution VS Islam's Polygamy
Shaikh Abdullah El Faisal
(evening dars 4.28.11)
--Polygamy means to be married to 2, 3, or 4 women who are halal for you
--to have more than 4 is zina
--polygamy = more than one
--if you are married to Buddhist or Sikh is also zina (because they are haram for you)
--Prophet(saws) was married to more than one wife, so was Prophet David
--Bible verses: 2 Samuel 12:8 and: 1 kings 11:3
And he had seven hundred wives, princesses, and three hundred concubines: and his wives turned away his heart (Kings 11:3)
--Polygamy was NOT started by Islam - but practiced by the previous prophets
--Suleiman had 700 wives and 300 concubines
--Abraham had 2 wives (Sarah and Hagar) and Jacob had 4 wives
Allah has not only permitted, but encourages polygamy
then marry (other) women of your choice, two or three, or four but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one or (the captives and the slaves) that your right hands possess. That is nearer to prevent you from doing injustice. (4:3)
--Marry women of your choice who are pleasing to you but if you fear you can't do justice, then stick to one
--Allah swt started by saying marry 2, so the norm is to have 2 wives
--exception to the rule is to have 1 wife; the norm is 2
From the narration of Sa’eed ibn Jubayr who said: “Ibn Abbaas asked me: “Have you married yet?” I answered no, so he said: “Marry! For the best of this ummah are those with the most women” [Collected by Al-Bukhaaree in the book of Marriage, chapter: Plurality of Women [no 5069] Al-Haafidh said in Al-Fath [10/143]
--The best of my ummah is the man with the most women
--Each time you go to bed w/ your wife, you get baraaka
--The more wives, the more baraaka!!
--Wives are in your care so you're looking after them (the wives)
--Allah is the all-wise and all-knowing and he has permitted it, if you accepted His wisdom then you won't have a problem w/ polygamy
--If your tawheed is weak you will have a problem w/ polygamy
--If you're a Muslimah and you believe in Allah and He (swt) has allowed polygamy: who are you to rebel against Allah's deen, His Shariah?
--it Isnt just polygamy you are having problems with
--You have problems w/ other aspects of the deen:
--such ppl also don't listen to their husbands or dress properly, etc
--Who are we to rebel against Allah's Shariah?
--Men also have a problem w/ Allah’s hakimiyya not only women
IF YOU UNDERSTAND WHO ALLAH IS, THEN YOU WILL EASILY ACCEPT POLYGAMY
Man is incapable as law-giver
--Man can not be the law-giver because he is insecure and selfish
--his laws are to protect himself only
--white men of Europe have low libido / low testosterone so they don't want more than 1 wife, they can't handle even 1 wife
--so he makes it illegal so others can't enjoy polygamy (he is selfish)
--the law of monogamy is idiotic, he calls it bigamy!
--Since he can't satisfy even one wife, he outlaws polygamy so he doesn’t look bad
--In Nigeria where the Christians have 2 wives; the law against polygamy is accepted in Europe because of their low testosterone but in Africa, they have high testosterone
--Man can not be the law-giver because he legislates according to his whims
--Allah on the other hand has nothing to gain from Shariah and nothing to lose
Allah allowed polygamy because it's a necessity
--Allah said that there will only be 1 man for 50 women because of kharaj (killing)
--we can see that if 100 men are being matched w/ 100 women, yoou find:
10 are in jail - 10 more are gay - 10 more are players (won't settle down) - 10 more are in the madhouse - 10 more are dope addicts and have erectile dysfunctions - 10 more are wife-beaters/temper issues - 10 more have dodgy Aqeedah (Sufi, MADkhalis, Democrats) - 10 are murtad/apostates – finally 10 died on battlefield in Afghan or Somalia or Chechnya or Iraq
--so there are 10 men left to marry 100 women!
--Close examination of men shows most men are not really suitable for marriage
--not every male is a man
--We have already eliminated so many, so it’s a lie when they say: for every man, we have 3 women, in fact the reality is: there is 1 man for every 15 women!
--a man in jail is classified as a wasted-man (the rest are gay, a player, mentally ill, etc)
MEN WHO ARE MARRIAGE MATERIAL ARE LIKE GOLD RIGHT NOW
--men who have taqwah, physically fit, right Aqeedah, work, etc
--many sisters in their 30s in Africa and elsewhere are single because they say the men are weak and dodgy)
--you should be teaching sisters to understand polygamy and accept it
--not promoting monogamy, by doing so you are exacerbating the problem and not offering any solution
--one of the signs of the last days is we will have killings so for every man, there will be 50 women for every man– ratio 1:50
--the west has same problems, so they support monogamy
--if you have 2 wives, they say you have done bigamy
--although their Bible says their prophets had several wives
And he had seven hundred wives, princesses, and three hundred concubines: and his wives turned away his heart (Kings 11:3) **Bible verse
“From among the portents of the Hour are the following: Religious knowledge will be taken away; General ignorance (in religious matters) will increase; illegal Sexual intercourse will prevail: Drinking of alcoholic drinks will prevail Men will decrease in number, and women will increase in number, so much so that fifty women will be looked after by one man” [Bukhari Volume 7, Book 62, Number 158]
--they teach trinity yet it's not in the Bible ~ they reject polygamy and it is!
--the infidels have made up their own religion so they want to do the same for Islam
What happens to Excess unmarried Women in the Dajjal Society?
--eg, France/UK has 3 million surplus women each
--these women are forced to be girlfriends, escorts, mistress, prostitutes - not proper wives
--prostitute is defined as someone who sells her sexual services
--but the Islamic definition of prostitute is: any women who commits zina/ fornication/ adultery
--therefore, in the west, 90% of the women in the west are prostitutes!
--according to Islamic definition, these women are prostitutes (even cheaters)
--infidels allow fornication and adultery (but not polygamy)
--a friend of Shaikh’s had a second wife in the UK. Scotland Yard wanted to arrest him, They didn't because he lied and said she is my girlfriend the kaafirs allow adultery but not polygamy!
--they allow gay marriages - but not polygamy (in UK they are called "sir")
--if you are "sir" you are apostate because you're part of the taghoot
--in Sweden they allow bestiality but not polygamy
--if you have 1 wife + 10 mistresses, the kaafir are ok with it
--incest and they are ok with it, but not polygamy!
--the kuffar criticize the Islamic family structure
--they are married to a horses or other animals! Astaghfirullah
--The FREE MASONS and ILLUMINATI are the forerunners of the Dajjal
WHAT IS BAD, THEY PAINT AS GOOD AND WHAT IS GOOD, THEY PAINT AS BAD
Fairness is a Requirement for polygamy
--any man w/ 2 wives must treat them fairly or on DOJ he is resurrected w/ part of his body Paralyzed
"When a man has two wives and does not treat them equally he will come on the Day of Resurrection with a side hanging down" [At-Tirmidhi and Abu Dawud]
--in gifts and division of wealth and attention, he must always be fair
--if you buy a gift for 1 wife that is $50 you must give the other wife $50 as well
--with your TIME, you must split it fairly
--if you have 2 wives, give 2 nights w/ 1 and 2 nights w/ the other wife
--daytime belongs to the man, NIGHT TIME BELONGS TO THE WIFE
--Because the man is the bread-winner so he needs the day to earn a living
--After Maghrib, he can be with his wives
--if it is one wife’s night, he can go have jimaa w/ another wife but he can't stay there all night
--this is Sunnah (Rasool(saw) went to bed with all 9 wives w/ only 1 ghusl)
--wife can demand for husband to make love to her (not haraam, it is Sunnah)
“The Prophet of Allah (Peace be upon Him) would distribute everything justly amongst his wives, then say: O Allah! This is my division for what I possess, O Allah! Do not blame me for what You alone possess while I do not (ie emotions of the heart) [Abu Da`wood, Tirmidhi others, but with a weak chain]
People try to use the Quran to attack Polygamy wrongfully
You will never be able to do perfect justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire, so do not incline too much to one of them (by giving her more of your time and provision) so as to leave the other hanging (i.e. neither divorced nor married). And if you do justice, and do all that is right and fear Allah by keeping away from all that is wrong, then Allah is Ever Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. (4:129)
--people try to use Qur'an to fight Qur'an (but this is not proper)
--Quran has allowed/encouraged polygamy, but if you can't do justice, stick to one
--then this surah says you will NEVER be able to justice
--so they falsely claim polygamy is haraam but it is the Sunnah
--they try to use Qur'an to cancel polygamy
--but our deen doesn't come from jealous women
--the correct tafseer of the ayat is: If you love one wife more than the others, Allah doesn't judge us because of this because it's beyond you're control
--human emotions (love) can not be controlled
--Rasul(saws) loved Aisha more than the others
--Umar told his daughter she'd never be like Aisha and the Rasool(saws) didn't stop him from speaking (he actually smiled)
--however, you will be judged for not sharing your time equally with your wives!
Who are not permitted to have 2nd wife?
--an impotent is not permitted to seek a 2nd wife
--someone financially incapable- can't take on a 2nd wife
Oppression is not allowed in Polygamy
--Hadith in Abu Dawud - Rasool distributes w/ fairness
--Rasool (saws) did not use Aisha (ra) to oppress other wives
--do not show one wife that you love her more so as to turn another wife into a 'hanging' wife
--a “hanging wife” is one to whom you don’t give her - her rights
--set her free, if you can't give her - her rights
--oppression is haraam
When is polygamy needed?
--if a woman abandons her rights, you can marry her (misyar)
--this is a misyaar marriage, which is permitted if her wali agrees
1. when the 1st wife is sterile (try to keep her as a wife to maintain her dignity)
2. if the wife is ill and can't fulfill her conjugal duties
3. the man has a high libido (appetite for jimaa)
4. some women menstruate is very long (over 10 days and brother can't wait that long for jimaa)
5. some sisters have lost their libido so they can't fulfill their conjugal duties
6. shortages of men due to war or imprisonment
Jimaa = sex
Why do people have problems with Polygamy?
--you must love for you muslim sister what you love for yourself
1) women want everything to their liking and don’t want to be discomforted
--most women want treat the dunya the way the kuffar do (like a paradise)
--they don't want to make hijrah, they don't want to discomfort themselves
--these women are usually proud, selfish, materialistic, w/ weak eeman, and
low self esteem
2) they are afraid of being outshined!
--some women divorce husbands because their husband did polygamy
--yet they become a co-wife a few years later!
--use the word "co-wife" not numbers (1, 2, 3, 4)
--in polygamous relationship, no wife is better than the other
--no wife is superior; they enjoy equal status
--in jahiliyiah, the girlfriend is a mistress w/o the same status of a wife
--laws of white man are evil
--by imposing monogamy on society, those who can't find husbands, are forced to become girlfriends, mistresses, prostitutes
--Allah has nothing to gain from shariah (and nothing to lose) so he (swt) impose polygamy for our own benefit
3) the kufaar hate everything descent
--European men are confused.com (not sure if they are straight or gay)
--they are insecure so they look to a man to satisfy their needs
--they say 10% are gay - but it’s higher
--they allow incest, fornication, adultery, lesbianism, gays, bestiality but not polygamy, this protects a sister
Shias say "A man can have sex with animals such as sheep, cows, camels and so on However he should kill the animal after he has his orgasm He should not sell the meat to the people in his own village, however selling the meat to the next door village should be fine" [Ayatollah Khomeini, Tahrirolvasyleh, 4TH Volume - Darol Elm, Gom, Iran, 1990 from Khomeini's book, "Tahrirolvasyleh" ]
Polygamy Respects Women
--solves problem of STDs and bastard kids
--if you are a Muslimah who loves Allah, then you can't rebel against what Allah has made halal
--Hanbali Madhab allows to have a contract saying: you are only allowed to marry one wife
--Maliki Madhab, however, has the correct opinion: you can't sign such a contract (dodgy)
--50:1 ratio of women to men in the last days
--don't aggravate the problem
--and love for your sister what you love for yourself
Men will decrease in number, and women will increase in number, so much so that fifty women will be looked after by one man" Bukhari, Volume 7, Book 62, Number 158
2 things you didn’t know about sisters / muslim women
1) sister prefers to see a sister apostate than to marry her husband as co-wife
2) a woman prefers her husband to commit adultery than do polygamy
[where he ends up in hellfire]
"You will not enter paradise until you have faith, and you will not complete your faith till you love one another" (Muslim)
Western Culture is a Dajjal Culture
--they allow prostitution--> many bastards kids and stds here but they don't see how bad prostitution is for society
--you claim to believe in Abraham and Solomon yet you don't follow what they did (polygamy)
--infidels always criticize you and they are hypocrites
--why did Reagan supply missiles and send cia officers to teach the mujahideen to use them against Russia
--why criticize for us having 2 women
--we do it in a decent way, we have no scandals
YOU DO PRETENSE MONOGAMY AND INDECENT POLYGAMY
--monogamy is cruel, barbaric, savage, contradicts qur'an and bible
--you leave the women w/ no choice to be descent than to do polygamy
--if you believe in allah's 99 names, you won't have a problem w/ polygamy
--He (swt) took into consideration the welfare of society
--the kuffar hang in between Islam and jahiliyiah
ALLAH DID NOT INTEND ISLAM TO BE A RUBBISH RELIGION, IT IS HERE TO SOLVE ALL PROBLEMS AND UPROOTS ALL CANCERS FROM SOCIETY
--one wife might not be good for you because she can use her private parts to control you, two wives allow you keep your dignity whereas monogamy takes away your dignity
--women are spiteful and revengeful
--some wives even want money to have jimaa
--daytime belongs to man
--if you have 2 wives, spend 2 nights w/ each wife
--if you have 4, then 1 night w/ each wife
--compulsion to have jimaa once every 4 days she can demand this of her husband!
--the Tablighi Jammah - were upset by this
A New Wife
--if your new wife is a virgin, spend 7 days w/ her
--if your new wife is not a virgin, spend 3 days w/ her
--however, a non virgin has the right to request seven days
--Rasul(saw) offered to spend 7 days when he married Umm Salama (she accepted 3 days )
--old women or sick women are permitted to give her night away to other sisters
--lodge both in the same home if they have separate bathrooms (in the bedroom)
--wives must be in agreement regarding living arrangements
--if you have more than 2 wives, cast lots to decide who will go with you on the journey (this is Sunnah)
It is the Prophet's tradition that if someone marries a virgin and he has already a matron wife then he should stay for seven days with her (the virgin) and then by turns; and if someone marries a matron and he has already a virgin wife then he should stay with her (the matron) for three days, and then by turns [Bukhari, Volume 7, Book 62, Number 141]
The Reward for Accepting Polygamy
--if you are patient with polygamy, you will be granted PARADISE
QUESTIONS and ANSWERS after the dars
Q1: Shaikh did I hear u correctly, that it is allowed to have 2 wives in the same home?
ANSWER - NA'AM, YOU CAN HAVE 2 IN THE SAME HOUSE IF THEY HAVE SEPARATE BATHROOMS; IT'S THE BEST WAY, but THEY MUST AGREE
Q2: is it allowed to specify in the contract of nikah that if the man practices polygamy and the woman fears for her deen then she reserves herself the right to ask for talaq
ANSWER - BEFORE YOU ACCEPT A PROPOSAL, ASK IF YOU'RE GOING TO DO POLYGAMY, WILL I BE ALLOWED TO WEAR NIQAAB OR HIJAB, CAN I CONTINUE COLLEGE?
Q3: Asalamu alaikum, can u let me know, I want a second wife, my wife is not materialistic, and she wants to do hijrah, she does have low self esteem, but every time I mention getting another wife, she passes out and has a seizure, what is your advice?
ANSWER 3 - HANBALIS ALLOWED IT - MALIKI DOES NOT - SHAIKH AGREES WITH IMAM MALIK (BECAUSE YOU CAN'T MAKE HALAL HARAAM); YOU NEED COUNSELING
Q4: Asalamu alaikum, can u let me know, I want a second wife, my wife is not materialistic, and she wants to do hijrah, she does have low self esteem, but every time I mention getting another wife, she passes out and has a seizure, what is your advice?
ANSWER 4 - WOMEN W/ LOW SELF ESTEEM HATE POLYGAMY - THEY WILL WANT TO CHOOSE A WIFE FOR YOU (SHE MIGHT CHOSE AN OLDER WIFE TO LESSEN COMPETITION)
Q5: can it be said monogamy can better than polygamy in some cases or is this wrong? also can polygamy be haram for a man if he is gonna use and abuse the other wife?
ANSWER 5 - IT IS HARAAM IF HE IS GONNA USE THE OTHER WIFE ALLAH TALA SAID IF YOU ARE NOT CONSISTENT, STICK TO MONOGAMY
Q6: is it kufr for women to refuse being a co wife or major sin?
ANSWER 6 - NOT KUFR TO REFUSE.- FATIMA DIDN'T WANT ALI TO DO POLYGAMY W/ HER SO HE DIDN'T DO IT TILL SHE DIED
IT'S A WEAKNESS NOT HARAM- ALI WAS HER COUSIN AND HER HUSBAND
Q7: if your husband doesn’t treat you and you dabeena (other wife) equally is that a ground for divorce
ANSWER 7 - IT IS GROUNDS 4 DIVORCE BUT PREFER TO ASK FOR COUNSELING
Q8: what should a woman do if her husband has lack of desire for physical relations and the wife needs it more than him? She is getting fed up of being with him.
ANSWER 8 - SOME BROTHERS HAVE THIS PROBLEM HE NEEDS MEDICATION IF HE IS OLD, EVEN A YOUNG MAN CAN TAKE MEDICATION (THEY BOTH CAN) -
Q9: is it mandatory for me to gain a 2nd wife?
ANSWER 9 - IF YOU HAVE HIGH LIBIDO AND YOU ARE ON THE VERGE OF COMMITTING ZINA
Q10: if you’re no longer attracted to your husband, can you divorce? should you divorce?
ANSWER 10 - SHE CAN GET A DIVORCE W/O CHEMISTRY - YOU CAN'T FORCE HER TO HAVE CHEMISTRY
***Shaikh Faisal's notes are transcribed from his LIVE dars by his students. Any inconsistencies in spelling are because several different students are taking down the notes.