Friday, May 6, 2011

Notes: The Ideal Muslim Women- Shaikh Faisal

Women in Islam: The Ideal Muslim Woman
Shaikh Abdullah Faisal
(evening dars 4.06.11)

Khadijah = 1st woman to embrace Islam
Sumaya = she refused to give up Islam even though she was persecuted
Aisha = greatest scholar of Islam (of the women)
--Aisha's knowledge outweighs all the knowledge of the ummah
Fatima = she was closest woman to Rasool (saws); the favorite child
Umm Amaara = saved the life of the Prophet (saws)
--whether he looked to the right or left, she was always fighting battles
--she participated in jihad w/ the permission of her amir
Khansaa = made the greatest sacrifice:
--she gave all 4 of her sons to the Rasool (saws)
--when she learned of their death, she made a dua (“alhumdulillah”)
Khawla bint al Azwar = she was a muraabita
--the kuffar of the west have a well-oiled propaganda machine so the women rush to

"The best woman (wife) is the one whom, when you look at her she pleases you, when you command her she obeys you, when you are not in her presence she safeguards herself and your belonging. Ibn Majah, 1/595/ kitab al nikah, bab haqq al- zawj.

The 16 portfolios of a good wife:
1) when you look @ her, she pleases you
2) she obeys commands and
3) when you leave the home, she doesn't betray you
4) mother and a teacher, too
5) nurse
6) economist
7) arbitrator between the kids
8) politician who shares her love
9) psychologist
10) motivational speaker
11) good cook
12) breadwinner
13) lawgiver
14) law enforcer
15) spiritual leader
16) every time she goes to bed with her husband, she gets baraka

--Fatima asked for a maid and the Rasool (saws) refused her - say “Allahu AKkbar” 34x and “alhumdulillah” 33x and “Subhan’Allah” for 33x
Narrated 'Ali: Fatima complained of what she suffered from the hand mill and from grinding, when she got the news that some slave girls of the booty had been brought to Allah's Apostle. She went to him to ask for a maid-servant, but she could not find him, and told 'Aisha of her need. When the Prophet came, Aisha informed him of that. The Prophet came to our house when we had gone to our beds. (On seeing the Prophet) we were going to get up, but he said, 'Keep at your places,' I felt the coolness of the Prophet's feet on my chest. Then he said, "Shall I tell you a thing which is better than what you asked me for? When you go to your beds, say: 'Allahu Akbar (i.e. Allah is Greater)' for 34 times, and 'Alhamdu Lillah (i.e. all the praises are for Allah)' for 33 times, and Subhan Allah (i.e. Glorified be Allah) for 33 times. This is better for you than what you have requested." (Book #53, Hadith #344)
--the man only has one job if he works outside the home
--The husband should help his wife to fulfill these duties
--Muslim man can't contradict the wife in their home
The believers, men and women, are Auliya' (helpers, supporters, friends, protectors) of one another, they enjoin (on the people) Al-Ma'ruf (i.e. Islamic Monotheism and all that Islam orders one to do), and forbid (people) from Al-Munkar (i.e. polytheism and disbelief of all kinds, and all that Islam has forbidden); they perform As-Salat (Iqamat-as-Salat) and give the Zakat, and obey Allah and His Messenger. Allah will have His Mercy on them. Surely Allah is All-Mighty, All-Wise. (9:71)
--only marry pious people (not those between Islam and kufr)
--Umar was harsh with women: “you women are enemies of yourself and they said you're so harsh and even the shaitan thinks so”
--A woman was afraid to go to Umar because she was pregnant bit he was investigating if she had an affair; she was so afraid she miscarried her baby.
--and he asked the scholars if he should compensate (Ali said it was Umar's fault); and his compensation was 5 camels.
--The Rasool (saws) took a woman to hajj and the driver was driving the caravan too fast, Rasul(saw) asked them to slow down; be like the Prophet (saws), he looked gentle to women

Ibn Hibbing narrated that the Prophet(Sallallahu alaihi Wasallam) said, “If a woman prayed five prayers, fasted in Ramadan, protected her honor and obeyed her husband; then she will be told (on the Day of Judgment): enter Paradise from any of its(eight) doors.”
1) Pray, wears hijab, fasts in Ramadan and protect her private parts
2) be a woman whose husband was pleased w/ her
--when she dies, she goes to Paradise
3) Breastfeeds her baby
4) Gives birth, dies in childbirth = she dies shaheedah (all sins forgiven)
5) If he take on a second wife and she is please with it
Her husband’s marrying another wife is regarded as a test and trial for her, and if she bears that with patience she will have the reward for being patient in the face of a trial, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): [Source ” This Hadeeth was classed as Saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’ al-Sagheer, no. 660]
The Prophet said “teach your children the prayer at age 7. Spank them at age 10 (if they don’t pray) and separate the two genders from the same bed.” Narrated by Abu Dawud from the Hadith of Abdullah ibn Amr.
6) Every time she goes to bed w/ her husband she gets Baraka