Friday, June 17, 2011

-84- Islamic Psychology: Our 5 Needs

Islamic Psychology: Our 5 Basic Needs
by Shaikh Abdullah Faisal

(evening dars: 6.17.11)

1. Spiritual need
--we were created to worship Allah (tala)
--when we don't we suffer pain, sorrow, mental diseases, emotional and spiritual needs
--to function in society as a happy person, we need to cater to our spiritual needs

Methods to cater to Spiritual needs:

1. Be in the company of the righteous Muslims
--avoid the company of the zindeeq and apostates, the kaafiroon, and the pagans
--don't die unless you die as a Muslim

And die not except in a state of Islam (as Muslims) with complete submission to Allah. (Aali Imran 3:102)

--some Sahabahs apostated and followed a false prophet
--how did they meet the Prophet Muhammad (saws) and then apostate?

(They say): "Our Lord! Let not our hearts deviate (from the truth) after You have guided us, and grant us mercy from You. Truly, You are the Bestower." (Aali Imran 3:8)

--our hearts don't remain the same so they turn over all the time
--so Allah tala gave us a dua in case we're in a change of heart
--changing our heart might be something as canceling a nikah, we say, "my heart has changed"

One sign of last days:
--man goes to bed as a Muslim and wake up as a kaafir

Nay, you prefer the life of this world; (Al-A'la 87:16)
Nay, you prefer the life of this world; (Al-A'la 87:16)
Although the Hereafter is better and more lasting. (Al-A'la 87:17)

The heart is fragile
--in order to die as a Muslim, you must take care of your heart
--the same as if you were given a rose: it needs water and plant food, so the same
--as our heart dying spiritually
--therefore, take care of your spiritual needs
--so please be in the company of the righteous people

Hadith: Before the Hour comes, there will be a tribulation like patches of dark night. A man will get up a believer and go to sleep a kaafir, or will go to sleep a believer and get up a kaafir. (Abu Dawud.)

O you who believe! Be afraid of Allah, and be with those who are true (in words and deeds). (At-Tawbah 9:119)

Keeping company w/ the believers:
--how often do you go to chatrooms where they mock Qur'an and Sunnah
--or one made up to solely insult Muhammad (saws)
--this is not a chatroom, we are a CLASSROOM

This is NOT a chatroom but a classroom, where we discuss everyday topics facing the Ummah and acquire BENEFICIAL ILM.

--if you're not serious about Qur'an and Sunnah, this room is NOT for you
--we love Allah tala and His Rasool (peach be upon him) so we teach of like-minds
--why do the Admins work hard to bring hujjah and keep the room open 24/7 so you can learn

"Ah! Woe to me! Would that I had never taken so-and-so as a friend! (Al-Furqan 25:28)

"Woe unto me, I wish I didn't choose so and so for my friend” see 25:28

HADITH: On the authority of Abu Hurairah, may Allah be pleased with him, who narrated that the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “A man is upon the religion of his best friend, so let one of you look at whom he befriends.” [Sunan Abu Dawud, Book of Manners, #4833, Hasan-good]

--when you're weak in personality, you can't say not to haraam things
--so be in the company of righteous people
--we're only to have righteous friends
--be in the company of sincere Muslims

O you who believe! Be afraid of Allah, and be with those who are true (in words and deeds). (At-Tawbah 9:119)

--these are smear, sneer & jeer campaigns
--when you go to these chatrooms to debate w/ them, you're not a kaafir
--when you go just to hang out and socialize, you become a kaafir

And it has already been revealed to you in the Book (this Qur'an) that when you hear the Verses of Allah being denied and mocked at, then sit not with them, until they engage in a talk other than that; (but if you stayed with them) certainly in that case you would be like them. Surely, Allah will collect the hypocrites and disbelievers all together in Hell, (An-Nisa 4:140)

--the hypocrites and disbelievers will be in the Hellfire together
--Shaikh was bounced from a Christian room for quoting Leviticus 11:6

And the hare, because he cheweth the cud, but divideth not the hoof; he is unclean unto you. (LEVITICUS 11:6) KJV

HADITH: The Prophet(pbuh) said: "There is a lump of flesh within the body. When it is sound, the whole body is sound. But if it is corrupt, the whole body is corrupt. Indeed it is the heart (al-Qalb)" - ~Saheeh al-Bukhari & Saheeh Muslim~

"Lo! Verily, there is in the body a small piece of flesh; if it is good the whole body is good and if it is corrupted the whole body is corrupted; lo! it is the heart "

(more) Methods to cater to Spiritual needs continuing

2. Join a study circle
--learn your deen from a sincere scholar
--avoid those from modernists, philosophers

3 types of scholars:
1. Sinful (he has a girlfriend and you don't know about it)
2. Wicked (makes up his own "Hislam")
--he makes haraam, halal

HADITH: Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah (d. 728H): “Whenever a person makes halal what is haraam by consensus or makes haraam what is halal by consensus or replaces the Sharee’ah that is agreed upon by consensus, then he is a Kaffir by the agreement of the scholars of Fiqh.” – “Al-Fataawa”, Vol. 3/267.

3. Sincere scholars

--you're not permitted to insult one of the 4 great scholars
--Imam Shafi'i, Imam Malik, Abu Hanifa and Ibn Taymiyyah

When you grocery shop:
--you buy pure orange juice, not one w/ acid
--you buy the best food to cater to yourself physically, so also
--you should put proper food into your heart and mind re: the deen
--what you put in your heart MATTERS, physically and spiritually

Don't take your deen from:

--a fatalist (he blames Allah's qadr for everything haraam in his life)
--some men blame Allah 'tala for their mistakes and crimes and ills

(more) Methods to cater to Spiritual needs

3. You need to have the DVDs and CDs in your home ~ do you have them?
--when you're saying it's all online, then spend your time online learning your deen
--many online classes to go to online and here on PalTalk
--get e-reader
--spend 8 hours a day online learning your deen
--don't have the movies of Hollywood and Bollywood
--they can cause you to become a hypocrite


HADITH ON CRYING: Ibn Abbas related that he heard Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) saying: "The fire will not touch the two pairs of eyes; one that sheds tears out of fear of Allah and the other that keeps watch throughout the night in the cause of Allah." (Nasa’i, Tirmidhi)

Shaikh Faisal doesn't preach poverty

--and Allah tala said not to die unless you die as a Muslim
--Umar said "poverty leads to kufr"
--Umar said, "if poverty was a man, I would kill him w/ my own two hands"

Shaitan (Satan) threatens you with poverty and orders you to commit Fahsha (evil deeds, illegal sexual intercourse, sins etc.)(Al-Baqarah 2:268)

--Shaitan uses poverty as a weapon
--this is a reason some women resort to commit zina for money

Ibn Abbas related that he heard Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) saying: "The fire will not touch the two pairs of eyes; one that sheds tears out of fear of Allah and the other that keeps watch throughout the night in the cause of Allah." (Nasa’i, Tirmidhi)

Shaikh-Faisal: khawla bint al azwar
--Khawla bint al Azwar did Jihaad and ribaat
--she helps in the Fuhaat ash-Sham

HADITH Narrated 'Aisha: The Prophet used to seek refuge with Allah (by saying), "O Allah! I seek refuge with You from the affliction of the Fire and from the punishment in the Fire, and seek refuge with You from the affliction of the grave, and I seek refuge with You from the affliction of wealth, and I seek refuge with You from the affliction of poverty, and seek refuge with You from the affliction of Al-Masih Ad-Dajjal." (Bukhari Book #75, Hadith #387)

4) Go to salah of Jumu’ah and listen to khutbah that will touch your heart
--the same way you need to charge your cell phone,
--you need to charge your eeman by going to Jumu’ah and listening to a great khutbah

In 2008, Shaikh spent Ramadan with Dr. Hakim Quick
--He told Shaikh couldn't become an Imam to all masjid because Shaikh is extremely outspoken
--Shaikh spoke @ over 100 masjids in South Africa
--Shaikh spoke over 100 masjid in South Africa
--but they all had their politics so he couldn't speak on every topic
--don't go where they can't deliver khutbah to touch your heart
--when Hasan went to masjid he said either there is a disease in my heart or his heart
--because the khutbah didn't move him
--so establish your own jummah [3 people are all you need]
--don't pray behind Khawarijj and those who call the mujahideen, 'terrorists'

~~WE HAVE 100's of lectures they can teach from the notes and the audios~~

Many of our sisters find the haqq in university
--then they come home to Barelvis family, what to do?

(more) Methods to cater to Spiritual needs

5. Go to the front line
--Taifa al Mansoora is the mujahideen, the elite of the ummah
--firqa naajia are ahlul sunnah wa jama'ah (the saved sect)

And whosoever turns away (blinds himself) from the remembrance of the Most Beneficent (Allah) (i.e. this Qur'an and worship of Allah), We appoint for him Shaitan (Satan ¬ devil) to be a Qarin (an intimate companion) to him. (Az-Zukhruf 43:36)

--the peak of the matter is jihad

The peak of the matter is Islam; the pillar is prayer; and its topmost part is jihad." Nawawi's 40 Hadiths, No. 29

"Shall I not also tell you of the peak of the matter, its pillar, and its topmost part?" I said: "Yes, O Messenger of Allah." He said: "The peak of the matter is Islam (submission to Allah), the pillar is prayer; and its topmost part is jihad.".... [Related by Al-Tirmidhi, who said it was a fine and sound Hadith]

5. do Dhikr constantly
--marry ones w/ taqwah

6. Marry a pious person
--show me your wife and I'll tell you who you are
--we'll know if you're ready for the frontlines
--you marry a man / woman according to the level of YOUR OWN eeman
--some use excuse they only started practicing a year ago
--that is an "excuse"
--Muslim girls who watch the UK TV shows turn into harlots and are spiritually destroyed
--you are what you read, see, listen to, the company you keep, places you go

Prophet (pbuh) said: "A man marries a woman for four reasons: for her property, for her rank, for her beauty, and for her religion (and character). So marry the one who is best in the religion and character and prosper". (Bukhari and Muslim)


7. Marry a pious sister
--one who will sprinkle water on your face to wake you up for Fajr

THE 2nd of 5 NEEDS is

2. Emotional need
--we need to feel love

“May ALLAH have mercy on a man who wakes up at night, prays, and wakes his wife to pray; and if she refuses, he sprinkles water on her face. And may ALLAH have mercy on a woman who wakes up at night, prays, and wakes her husband to pray; and if he refuses, she sprinkles water on his face.” [Abu Daawood]

--we need to give love

Narrated Abu Huraira: Allah's Apostle kissed Al-Hasan bin Ali while Al-Aqra' bin Habis At-Tamim was sitting beside him. Al-Aqra said, "I have ten children and I have never kissed anyone of them," Allah's Apostle cast a look at him and said, "Whoever is not merciful to others will not be treated mercifully." (Bukhari Book #73, Hadith #26)

HADITH: Prophet (pbuh) said: “If a Muslim loves his Muslim brother, he should inform him.” (Tirmidhi)

I marry women. Whoever turns away from my Sunnah is not of me.”(Sahih Bukhari and Sahih Muslim)

--it is haraam to live by yourself
--you must get married for nikah is half of your Deen, you must get married
--you love your fellow Muslim for the sake of ALLAH****

HADITH: Aisha that the Prophet said, "The best of you is he who is the best to his family, and I am the best to my family". (Ibn Hibban)

3. Physical Need
--food, drink, clothing shelter

Prophet (pbuh) said: "The best among you is the one who is the best towards his wife" (Muslim, #3466)

--food, drink, clothing, shelter, oxygen, take rest,

The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) once asked a companion: "(Is it true) that you fast all day and stand in prayer all night?" The companion replied that the report was indeed true. The Prophet then said: "Do not do that! Observe the fast sometimes and also leave (it) at other times. Stand up for prayer at night and also sleep at night. Your body has a right over you, your eyes have a right over you and your wife has a right over you." - Sahih Al-Bukhari, Volume 7, Hadith 127

And have made the night as a covering (through its darkness), (An-Naba 78:10)

8 types of physical need
--food, drink, clothing, shelter, oxygen, sleep (taking rest) , sex, cleanliness
--food, drink, clothing, shelter, oxygen, take rest, intercourse, and Tahara
--if no ghusl, your salah is bautil
--after major impurity, ghusl is a must
--you may fast after major impurity, no connection between janabah and saum
--nikah caters your physical needs because you feel loved

But the Monasticism which they invented for themselves, We did not prescribe for them, but (they sought it) only to please Allah therewith, but that they did not observe it with the right observance. So We gave those among them who believed, their (due) reward, but many of them are Fasiqûn (rebellious, disobedient to Allah). (Al-Hadid 57:27)

--bida'h not to fulfill your physical needs
--catholic priests become pedophiles as we know it
--catholic priests and nuns are active but we do not know it
--bida'h not to fulfill your physical needs
--catholic priests become pedophiles as we know it
--ALLAH did not make physical relationships haraam
--they claim it brings them nearer to ALLAH, but ALLAH said it wrong relationships**
--catholic nuns have relations with the priests in the churches
--catholic priests and nuns are active but we do not know it

Sigmund Freud, a therapist said you are motivated by your physical needs (intimate needs)
--but girls have these needs from ago 11 and 13 and on
--when Sh lived in Guyana, many married at age 14 [customary]
--their husbands were not pedophiles
--as long as a girl menstruates, they are able to get married [it causes intimate needs]
--remember our 8 physical needs: food, drink, clothing, shelter, oxygen, sleep (taking rest), sex, cleanliness
--it would be more logical if age of intimate consent at age of 14

--we don't endorse honor killing but it is rife in those communities that do
--they said Umar killed his son because he fornicated but when war broke out,
--he was carrying the flag for Ali
--it's not Islamic to kill for fornicate:
--give 100 lashes and ban from the land for 1 year
--men are dogs, so when they sleep around (it's expected)
--but daughters are diamonds so we won't tolerate them fornicating

The prophet said: "Marry! For the best of this ummah are those with the most women." Collected by Al Bukhari in the book of Marriage, chapter: Plurality of Women [no. 5069].

Men are the protectors and maintainers of women. (An-Nisa 4:34)

4. Financial Need

“Allaah has decreed jealousy for women and jihad for men, so whoever bears that with patience out of faith and in the hope of reward will have a reward like that of a martyr.” This hadeeth was classed as da’eef (weak) by al-Albaani in Da’eef al-Jaami’ al-Sagheer, No. 1626.

5. Intellectual / Mental need
--it's important to finds someone to have a proper conversation
--anyone can find someone to go to bed with
--when you are conversing, you're stimulating your brain cells

Abu Hanifa and Ibn Hanbal and Imam Shafi'i....
--said if you are a doctor do not marry a janitor
--all three said to marry someone on your own level not beneath you