Thursday, June 2, 2011

-58- Fatal Attraction: Cain and Abel


By Shaikh Abdullah Faisal

(evening dars: 6.2.11)

What is "fatal attraction?"

--a person who is rejected turns to violence because of their rejection
--they turn to violence and murder, too
--rejected lovers become bitter and turn to violence

--it could have been a secret admirer; not always a lover
--When we hear, "I'm sorry, I'm not interested in you" - we might not be able to
handle it

--the rejected says: “no one else is allowed to have you, except me”
--this is a psychological disorder
--this is popular in the west because they think about ME ME ME
--sometimes, people say I LOVE YOU so they can get benefits from you

There are 6 types of fatal attraction:

1. When a rejected person kills themselves
--sisters don't usually propose to brothers because they aren't as capable to handle rejection

--this is a personality disorder among the kuffar, the zindeeq, the Murtads:
--a real Muslim doesn't commit suicide
--if you can't cope w/ rejection when sisters turn you down, be like Bilal:
--if she said yes, he would say ALHUMDULILLAH and if she refused, he would say ALLAHU AKBAR

and it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allâh knows but you do not know. (Al-Baqarah 2:216)

--we should say Allahu Akbar because sometimes in life, a thing is bad for us
--sometimes, rejecting ends us up in a 'mental' home
--sometimes we love food but it's bad for us (causes diabetes)
--sometimes people or countries are bad for us
--Faria Alam - she loved the UK but she became a harlot there, so it wasn’t good for her

--so Bilal accepted qadr (so should we)

Shaikh's shaykhs said the person who kills himself, is not a kaafir (he is fasiq)
--and this is the aqeeda of ASWJ

2. When he kills his love rival

--ie the man his wife was seeing or he proposes to a girl but she's in love w/ someone else (he kills that rival)

"He who commits suicide by throttling shall keep on throttling himself in the Hell Fire, and he who commits suicide by stabbing himself shall keep on stabbing himself in the Hell-Fire." (Bukhari, Janaiz 84)

**Why don't Muslims have personality disorder?

--because we believe in QADR (Allah's predestination)
--the kuffar have no concept of qadr
--Muslims are above this disorder (killing for s-x)
--this disorder is repellant and atrocious
--we would never stoop so low to kill for s-x

Shaikh in Saudi Arabia:
--woman was executed there and Shaikh's friends said she killed her co-wife
--Arab women (in Shaikh's mind) don't mind polygamy so one day he asked his wife,
--"Don’t you have a lot of Saudi friends - do they mind polygamy?"
--She said "Most of them can't cope with polygamy!"
--Some Sahabahs had 11 wives and they had to divorce them down to the 4, which is
permissible now in Islam

--so women say "My man is MY man"
--men kill for money, women and power

Shaikh in Belmarsh Prison:
--Shaikh met many men who were in prison for killing their girlfriend's lovers
--many might spend 25 years in prison for this

3. When a woman uses a knife to cut off the genitalia of her husband
--because he is having an affair ("your genitalia belongs to me")
--in the US, the famous case is LORENA BOBBIT
--she cut off her husband's genitalia w/ a butcher knife
--the plastic surgeon reattached the genitalia
--Mr Bobbit didn't say "alhumdulillah" (because he is a kaafir)
--he exploited his experience on TV to earn money
--sequential persuasion, which means he went from defending what happened to him
--to the other spectrum: acted in porn movies
--man is ungrateful to his Lord but a Muslim would say ALHUMDULILLAH


4. When you kill the person who rejected your proposal
--this is popular even in the Caribbean
--"if you leave me, I'll cut off your pretty face"

Shaikh in Belmarsh Prison:
--most of the murderers killed for sex
--even if it was for Paki brothers and fathers who killed to keep family honor
--some kill for money, drugs...
--some men kill a woman because she dumped him to move on to a REAL man
--he is thinking, 'um, she is having the same feelings w/ HIM that she had with ME?' --oh no!

5. He kills his love rival and then he kills himself
--he kills the man his wife is cheating with and then himself

6. He kills the woman cheating on him and then himself (double murder)
7. When he kills the cheating woman, her lover and then, himself (a triple murder)
8. He kills the woman, her lover, all their kids and then himself
--he kills the kids because he fears they might not be his

9. When two animals fight and kill each other over a love rival
--this is popular among whales and dolphins
--they are not fish but mammals
--dolphins are used in wars to search for mines in the sea
--a dolphin will help you if you are drowning or attacked by a shark


The Companions of the Rasool (saws) did not have this type of personality disorder

--they divorced and the sisters moved on to marry others
--in kufrdom use their beauty to cause fitnah
--the biggest excitement for a woman is for 2 men to fight over her
--another big excitement for a woman is to seduce a man of God (a Shaikh)
--also, there’s excitement when their husbands pin them down (fantasy of a married woman)


The Companions didn't have fatal attraction because they believed in qadr (Allah's predestination)

--belief in qadr saves you from many things, especially fatal attraction
--you'll be like BILAL and say alhumdulillah when a girl said yes and Allahu Akbar when she said no

--some men are afraid to propose to a girl because they are afraid of being turned down

Shaikh in the UK
--he had to find brothers wives because they are too shy and can't cope w/ rejection
--Shaikh has 99% success right (alhumdulillah)

A female came to the Rasool (saws) and said she had no chemistry w/ her husband
--the Rasool (saws) told the man to give her one divorce
--this is khula
--faskh (annulment)

Narrated Ibn 'Abbas (RA): The wife of Thabit bin Qais came to the Prophet and said, "O Allah's Apostle! I do not blame Thabit for defects in his character or his religion, but I, being a Muslim, dislike behaving in un-Islamic manner (if I remain with him)." On that Allah's Apostle said (to her), "Will you give back the garden which your husband has given you (as Mahr)?" She said, "Yes." Then the Prophet said to Thabit, "O Thabit! Accept your garden, and divorce her once." (Sahih Al-Bukhari)

--Khadijah sent her best friend, Nafisa to propose to the Rasool (saws)
--Arab women are shy
--Same as with Abu Dardaa (he approached a woman on behalf of a Salman, a shy brother)
--ie Abu Bakr and Umar were close almost like relatives; so their hearts were in-tune

So Abu Dardaa went to tell the girl of the proposal and she said, “YOU are the one I love, not Salman!”

--Salman said: it's qadr (and they left it at that)
--in today's times, if a brother went to propose to a girl on behalf of his friend,
--and she loved the one asking: the brother would snap!
--he would feel "under-cut"
--99% of Muslims today would have this attitude
--but Salman remained friends w/ Abu Dardaa and his new wife
--Once she felt neglected because Abu Dardaa was not concerned with the dunya but
the deen

--she was dressed disheveled and he was concerned
--Salman stayed over the night in their home trying to REPAIR THEIR MARRIAGE
--when Abu Dardaa got up to pray during the night, Salman told him to go back to bed
w/ his wife instead!!

--it's required that a man goes to bed w/ his wife once every 4 days
--not to go more than 4 days without your wife in bed
--so the 2 Sahabahs didn't fight over the girl; they believed in qadr

Then Salman said: ‘It is true that you owe your duty to your Lord, but you also owe a duty to yourself and to your wife. So you should carry out your duty to everyone.’ Then they went to the Prophet (sa) and related all that transpired to him. He said: ‘Salman was right.’” - Bukhari


Hold fast to my Sunnah and the Sunnah of the rightly guided Khalifa (Caliphs)[Bukhari & Muslim]

1st story of fatal attraction was CAIN and ABEL
--in the west men put their keys in a bowl, they blind fold their wives and they pick out a key from the bowl

--these women must go to bed w/ that man (wife-swapping)
--these breaks up many marriages: it's not just a fling
--the mistress is not a secret mistress anymore, so she hounds you
--this is only kaafir behaviour
--these people love democracy because it gives you your desires to worship


--both had twin sisters
--the Shariah of Adam said Cain would give his twin sister to Abel and vice versa
--Cain was a farmer and Abel was a shepherd
--Cain and Abel were required to turn over each other’s twin sisters but Cain refused
--so they made a sacrifice to God for Him to decide their fate or get His blessing
--Abel offered a premium lamb as sacrifice and Cain offered the worst of his
--Cain was upset that God accepted is brother's sacrifice but not his sacrifice

And (O Muhammad SAW) recite to them (the Jews) the story of the two sons of Adam [Hâbil (Abel) and Qâbil (Cain)] in truth; when each offered a sacrifice (to Allâh), it was accepted from the one but not from the other. The latter said to the former: "I will surely kill you." The former said: AuthenticTauheed9: "Verily, Allâh accepts only from those who are Al-Muttaqûn (the pious - see V.2:2)." (Al-Ma'idah 5:27)

"Allah only accepts the sacrifice of the pious"

"If you do stretch your hand against me to kill me, I shall never stretch my hand against you to kill you, for I fear Allâh; the Lord of the 'Alamîn (mankind, jinns, and all that exists)." (Al-Ma'idah 5:28)

"Verily, I intend to let you draw my sin on yourself as well as yours, then you will be one of the dwellers of the Fire, and that is the recompense of the Zâlimûn (polytheists and wrong­doers)." (Al-Ma'idah 5:29)

--so Abel was rubbing it in and Cain became envious of Abel and Abel's wealth
--"if you stretch your hands forward to kill me, NEVER will I stretch my hands to
kill you" ~ Abel

Narrated 'Uthman: The Prophet said, "The best among you (Muslims) are those who learn the Qur'an and teach it." Bukhari, book 61, no, 545

"If you do stretch your hand against me to kill me, I shall never stretch my hand against you to kill you, for I fear Allâh; the Lord of the 'Alamîn (mankind, jinns, and all that exists)." (Al-Ma'idah 5:28)

"Verily, I intend to let you draw my sin on yourself as well as yours, then you will be one of the dwellers of the Fire, and that is the recompense of the Zâlimûn (polytheists and wrong­doers)." (Al-Ma'idah 5:29)

Abel said:
1) I won't kill you
2) you will take all my sins upon you if you kill me

**when the bird went to Yemen and saw the people worshipping the sun, he said to Suleiman it was the shaitan causing their actions

**when a person says, "meet me by yourself" = do not go by yourself (smell a rat)
**don't meet a man by yourself (sisters) (he may want to rape you)

So Cain wanted to kill because his own sister was more beautiful and so he didn't want to give her up

This is the 1st murder in history

Allah sent the raven to teach how to bury the dead: so the two birds fought,

--one killed the other and the one dug up the dirt to bury the other bird
--Cain said WOE UNTO ME and was mortified because he couldn't feel like the bird (he was regretful)

--it didn't say he was making Tauba, he said that Cain was naadimeen (regretful)
--many scholars then say Cain was a kaafir

So the Nafs (self) of the other (latter one) encouraged him and made fair­seeming to him the murder of his brother; he murdered him and became one of the losers. (Al-Ma'idah 5:30)

--BSC (Bachelor's Degree in Chemistry) sometimes teach PHD (it's embarrassing) as it was for a bird to teach Cain how to bury his brother

Then Allâh sent a crow who scratched the ground to show him to hide the dead body of his brother. He (the murderer) said: "Woe to me! Am I not even able to be as this crow and to hide the dead body of my brother?" Then he became one of those who regretted. (Al-Ma'idah 5:31)

Because of that We ordained for the Children of Israel that if anyone killed a person not in retaliation of murder, or (and) to spread mischief in the land - it would be as if he killed all mankind, and if anyone saved a life, it would be as if he saved the life of all mankind. And indeed, there came to them Our Messengers with clear proofs, evidences, and signs, even then after that many of them continued to exceed the limits (e.g. by doing oppression unjustly and exceeding beyond the limits set by Allâh by committing the major sins) in the land!. (Al-Ma'idah 5:32)

Narrated 'Abdullah: The Prophet said, "None is killed unjustly, but the first son of Adam will have a part of its burden." Sufyan said, "...a part of its blood because he was the first to establish the tradition of murdering." (Sahih al-Bukhari, Volume 9, Book 92, Number 423)


1. people are prepared to kill for a woman
2. envy causes murder
3. historically, people have a problem w/ Allah's hakimiyya
4. Adam mourned the death of his son for many, many days

--prophets have emotions, as we do
--when Ibrahim died, the Rasool said he cried because he loved his son

5. the kuffar tamper w/ the stories of the Qur'an
6. the Shariah is that brothers were allowed to marry sisters
--the Shariah of Muhammad (saws), you're both killed (its incest)

7. Allah tala only accepts the pious deeds of the pious
--Mother Teresa did pious deeds but they are not accepted because she was a kaafir!

8. You bear the sins of evil deeds you established in the land
9. People can learn from animals (as Cain learned from the ravens)
10. Sibling rivalry is not a new phenomenon
11. The Holy Qur'an for history, sociology and psychology because history repeats

--also all the human sciences

In order to appreciate the Qur'an, you must learn the tafseer