Sunday, August 14, 2011

-164- The Slander of Aisha (RA) [revisited]


THE SLANDER OF HAZRAT AISHA (r.a.) (revisited)
by Shaikh Abdullah Faisal

(morning dars: 8.14.11)




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Bismillah...

The slander of Aisha (r.a.) was a great trial
-in the life of her and the Prophet Muhammad (saws)
-but this was a good thing even though it's a fitnah to slander a pious Muslimah
-Allah can turn a bad situation into a good situation

“Do you know what backbiting is?” They said, “Allah and His Messenger know best.” He then said, “It is to say something about your brother that he would dislike.” Someone asked him, “But what if what I say is true?” The Messenger of Allah said, “If what you say about him is true, you are backbiting him, but if it is not true then you have slandered him.” (Muslim)

“How wonderful is the affair of the believer, for all of it is good, and that applies to no one except the believer. If something good happens to him he gives thanks, and that is good for him, and if something bad befalls him he bears it with patience and that is good for him.” [Narrated by Muslim, 2999]


An example of how Allah tala
-turns a bad situation into a good one:
-example if Yusuf who was dumped in a well and those from Syria found him there
-eventually he saved Egypt from starvation

~~EVERY DISAPPOINTMENT, w/ ALLAH IS A NEW APPOINTMENT~~

Another example:

-Salman Rushdie wrote the book, THE SATANIC VERSES
-but many people came to know Islam from that book
-the media attention drew 1000’s to embrace Islam

Stay away from the seven destroyers. "They said: O Messenger of Allah and what are they? He said: "Associating with Allah in worship, sorcery, the taking of a life which Allah has sanctified except rightfully, consuming interest, consuming the property of an orphan, fleeing on the day of intense battle and slandering innocent, unknowing, believing women." Muslim & Bukhari

The Slander of Hazrat Aisha (Radhiyallahu-Anha)


-this situation took place 6 years after
-the Rasool (sallallahu-alayhi-wasallam) made hijrah
-her sister migrated when she was 27 and Aisha was 17 when she migrated
-this means, she was 19 years old when she married the Rasool [not 9 as some report]
-the Sahabahs who were older and senile were taken w/ grain of salt
-so since he was in Iraq and so much older, he miswrote that Aisha was 9 years old;
-she was really 19 years old

The Battle of Uhud
-she was at the Battle of Uhud and no one was taken to battle under the age of 15

According to many Ahadith in Bukhari, it is believed Aisha participated in the both of Badr and Uhud battles. Furthermore, in Bukhari's Kitabu’l-Maghazi, Ibn `Umar states: "The Prophet did not permit me to participate in Uhud battle, as at that time, I was 14 years old. But on the day of Khandaq battle, when I was 15 years old, the Prophet permitted my participation". So, since it was not allowed for Muslims younger than 15 years old to participate in Uhud battle, Aisha, who participated in Uhud, must have been at least 15 years old in those battles; thus her age was at least 13 to 14 at the time of her marriage.

-the Rasool turned away a boy of 14 years old
-because he was not old enough for jihad
-so how could he have taken Aisha at age 9
-but not take the 14 year old boy? He wouldn't!
-so Muhammad (saws) was never a pedophile, as he married her when she was 19, not 9
-you will never find the Sahabahs marrying 9 year old girl
-[when you read Bukhari, Tirmidhi [and such Sahih hadeeth]
-to marry a 9 year old girl puts a great burden on her
-because it's not easy to take care of a husband
-we shouldn't rob those young girls of their childhood
-when you quote this hadeeth, you play into the hands of the Crusaders
-who want to slander the Rasool (pbuh)

THE LESSONS WE LEARN FROM THE RASOOL'S ACTIONS and AISHA'S SLANDER:

LESSON 1: THE RASOOL (sallallahu-alayhi-wasallam) DIDN'T SHOW FAVORITISM

-when he dealt w/ his wives, he was just because he had them draw lots
-to see who would go on his travels w/ him

It is related that 'A'isha said, "When the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, wanted to go out, he would draw lots between his wives, and the Prophet* would take with him whoever had her lot come out. He drew lots between us on an expedition on which he went and my lot came out and I went out with the Prophet* after the veil had been revealed." Bukhari 61, 2723

LESSON 2: A WOMAN IS ALLOWED TO GO TO BATTLEFIELD IF SHE HAS PERMISSION OF AMEER

-the first person to embrace Islam was a woman, Khadijah
-so we see women on the battlefield w/ the permission of an ameer
-the Rasool was Aisha's ameer (Commander-in-Chief)
-women play a vital role in the spread of Islam (past and present)
-all historians record that Aisha (r.a.) was happy w/ her marriage to Muhammad
-even though this is a repeat dars, the lessons might
-be different because Shaikh speaks from his heart
-so each dars is different even if you heard it before
-Thursday he spoke for nearly 4 hours to complete a dars and it was a blessed event

LESSON 3: AN ARRANGED MARRIAGE CAN BE VERY SUCCESSFUL IF THE WOMAN IS NOT FORCED
-love marriages are not always the best and
-there's more barakah in arranged marriages
-arranged marriages are a blessing if your parents
-are guided to the sirat al-Mustaqeem
-not all arranged marriages are good; they are only as good
-as the one arranging the marriage
-example: if a Shia or Barelvis are doing the arrangements,
-they will find Shia men for their daughters
-many Pakistani sisters in the UK went to Shaikh for him
-to find them a husband so they would
-not be forced to marry a kaafir (Shia or Barelvis)
-because to marry them is a sin and your marriage would be bautil

LESSON 4: WHEN YOUR PARTNER HAS TAQWAH and POTENCY, AGE BECOMES AN IRRELEVANT FACTOR

There was a difference in the age between Muhammad and Aisha
-(and also, Muhammad and Khadijah)

-the Rasool was given the potency of 40 men so Aisha was very happy!
-in the Pakistani community, arranged marriages are given a bad name
-they use forced marriages, which is not proper for us in Islam
-see Nisa 4:19
-the kaafir media do not make a difference
-between arranged marriages and forced marriages

O you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their will... [An-Nisa 4:19]

-there's no need to give more than 1 ayah that forced marriages are forbidden
-but the ummah is weak so Shaikh tells us "16 Aims and Objectives of Jihad"
-or "18 Merits of Ramadan" so the ummah knows to fast in Ramadan
-to encourage the believers to pray, fast, or do jihad,
-get married, we often need to repeat ourselves

LESSON 5: IT IS PERMISSIBLE TO ATTACK THE KUFFAAR IN THE FORM OF AN AMBUSH
-when they least expect it
-as the Rasool did it at the Battle of Mustaliq
-he attacked them and conquered them when they least expected it!

Narrated By Ibn Aun: I wrote a letter to Nafi and Nafi wrote in reply to my letter that the Prophet had suddenly attacked Bani Mustaliq without warning while they were heedless and their cattle were being watered at the places of water. Their fighting men were killed and their women and children were taken as captives; the Prophet got Juwairiya on that day. Nafi said that Ibn 'Umar had told him the above narration and that Ibn 'Umar was in that army. [Sahih Bukhari, Vol 3, Book 46, Hadith 717]

LESSON 6: IN ORDER TO BE SUCCESSFUL AS AN ARMY, YOU NEED TO HAVE SECRECY w/ YOUR PLANS

-the more successful the army is, the least information other people know about them
-the hypocrites of Medina would have tipped of Banu Mustaliq
-if they knew, but they didn't
-because the Prophet did not tell anyone but a few chosen people
-he was so wise and did not have a big mouth
-he would have risked the lives of the Sahabahs if he told anyone,
-so he kept as the secret
-this is how important it is to keep our secrets from the enemy

ON THE OUTSKIRTS OF MEDINA, they camped out that night
-it's not the Sunnah of the Prophet to return home in the night time. Why?
a) you'd be waking up the ummah and scaring them
b) women should have notice so they can pretty themselves up for their husbands

LESSON 7: IT IS NOT THE SUNNAH TO RETURN TO YOUR WIVES @ NIGHT

-when the women wear make-up for their husbands,
-it can only be appreciated in the daytime

Aisha had her hawdaj
-(a small tent placed on top of the camel so no one can see the woman inside)
-it as curtains around it to give her privacy
-she went for nature and while she was gone, the Sahabahs
-put her hawdaj back on the camel
-without realizing she was not in it!

LESSON 8: OBESITY WAS NOT KNOWN AMONG THE WIVES OF THE PROPHET
-as a Muslimah, you should not be obese or anorexic
-obesity is weakness
-if you are, it means you live to eat and not eat to live
-these weaknesses come from the Satan
-such as w/ bulimia, where you are skinny but
-the Satan convinces you that you're fat

PRADER WILLIE SYNDROME :
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prader%E2%80%93Willi_syndrome

A believer eats in one intestine (is satisfied with little food) and a kaafir (unbeliever) or a hypocrite eats with seven intestines" (Bukhari)

-the fattest state in the US is Texas and the fattest country is the UK
-because they tend to follow America

LESSON 9: AISHA'S TAQWAH CAUSED HER NOT TO BLAME HER BROTHERS FOR LEAVING HER BEHIND
-she made excuses for her ummah

"If a friend among your friends errs, make seventy excuses for them. If your hearts are unable to do this, then know that the shortcoming is in your own selves [ibid]"

-if we practiced this hadith, divorce would not be so rife (abundant)
-Shaikh has counseled women who'd been married 5x!
-the sisters expected to marry an angel but they were disappointed
-this is how Khawarijj act

So Aisha made 70 excuses for her ummah ...

LESSON 10: THE SAHABAHS MINIMIZED THEIR INTERACTION w/ WOMEN

-they didn't "free-mix" in order to avoid the fitnah
-they didn't peak inside her hawdaj to see if she was inside
-or ask even if she was there

“I have not left behind me any fitnah (temptation) more harmful to men than women.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5096; Muslim, 2740

-they minimized their interaction

Why was Aisha left behind?
-she gone for nature and lost her necklace so she went to look for it

LESSON 11: WHEN YOU BORROW THE PROPERTY OF YOUR UMMAH, YOU SHOULD RETURN IT

"There is no faith for the one who has no trust, and there is no religion for the one that does not fulfill his promises." Ahmad


-even though the necklace [we're told it was Asmaa's] was not real gold
-Aisha has an obligation to return it
-Shaikh knows brothers who had so many books they loaned out
-that were never returned
-according to Shariah, we should return the property of others

LESSON 12: IF YOU'RE ABLE TO FALL ASLEEP BEFORE A BATTLE, IT'S A GOOD SIGN
-it means you're cool, calm and collected
-even DURING a battle
-it's a good sign to be able to fall asleep in these situations

LESSON 13: AISHA HAD TAWAKKUL [she knew she'd be reunited w/ her husband]
-it means she trusted Allah to reunite them

It was the duty of Safwan b. Mu‘attal (Allah be pleased with him) to remain behind the army and pick up the luggage dropped from it. When he saw me sleeping, he called out in distress ‘inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji‘un’. I awoke with his exclamation and I veiled my face with my mantle. He did not say anything and brought his she-camel to me and sat it down. I mounted it and he began walking in front, holding onto the bridle of the she-camel, until we caught up to the army from the rear. Sahih Muslim and Sahih al-Bukhari

Safwan bin al-Muattal is who found her left behind
-he'd seen her before the niqaab was fard
-so he was able to recognize her
-today, in darul harb, give a woman a choice re: niqaab
-but in darul Islam, it's ok to impose niqaab
-however, hijab is always required
-Shaikh bin Baz said the niqaab is fard once sisters reach puberty
-but Shaikh Albani used a hadith to say it's not fard
-the hadith said that Bilal was able to describe
-a woman to the point of a mark on her cheek
-stating that the niqaab could not have been fard or
-he wouldn't be able to describe her
-[circa early 1980s]
-the Saudis deported Sh Albani because he was not Saudi
-and he checkmated their Saudi Shaikh
-Aisha is the one who mentioned the niqaab, as she said
-Safwan recognized her and WHEN he'd seen her
-some scholars said that niqaab was fard for the 9 wives of the Prophet

Jabir ibn Abdullah reported: I observed prayer with the Messenger of Allah on the Id day. He commenced with prayer before the sermon, without adhan or iqama. He then stood up leaning on Bilal and he commanded (them) to be on guard (against evil for the sake of) Allah and he exhorted (them) on obedience to Him, and he preached to the people and admonished them. He then walked on till he came to the women and preached to them and admonished them and encouraged them to give alms, for most of them are the fuel for Hell. A woman having a dark spot on her cheek stood up and said, "Why is it so, Messenger of Allah?". He said, "For you grumble often and show ingratitude to your spouses". And they began to give alms out of their ornaments such as their earrings and rings, which they threw in the cloak of Bilal. [Sahih Muslim, Book 4 #1926]

Safwan bin al-Muattal could have left Aisha behind, rushed to Muhammad and said:
-I found your wife, I know where she is
-but he did Ijtihad [used his own judgment] and it was correct and wise
-as he did not abandon a Muslimah in a war zone
-he could have abandoned her till someone else found her but he didn't abandon her
-Aisha said that he didn't speak to her on their journey back home

LESSON 14: DO NOT ABANDON THE UMMAH WHEN THEY ARE IN DANGER
-it's not halal to leave them in danger, especially if you can help them

When Safwan took her back, a rumor was already spreading

the Leader of the Hypocrites, ‘Abd Allah b. Ubayy slandered us, and upon reaching Madinah, he flared up this propaganda. Sahih Muslim and Sahih al-Bukhari

Who started the rumor? Abdullah bin Ubai

-he lost his throne in a battle so he carried a personal vendetta
-against the Rasool (saws)
-his rumor was that Aisha and Safwan had an affair
-he said they were staying behind on purpose
-he thought making the Rasool look bad would hurt him
-his rumor, he thought would make Muhammad look bad because women have affairs
-when things are not going well in the bedroom w/ their husbands

LESSON 15: WHEN PEOPLE HATE US, THEY WILL SLANDER US

LESSON 16: A MUNAFIQH WILL NEVER MAKE ANY EXCUSE FOR US

-they like to slander Muslims

The Prophet said, "Whoever has the following four (characteristics) will be a pure hypocrite and whoever has one of the following four characteristics will have one characteristic of hypocrisy unless and until he gives it up. 1. Whenever he is entrusted, he betrays. 2. Whenever he speaks, he tells a lie. 3. Whenever he makes a covenant, he proves treacherous. 4. Whenever he quarrels, he behaves in a very imprudent, evil and insulting manner." Bukhari (Book #2, Hadith #33)

-if you are coming out of a pub, maybe to use the toilet
-a munafiqh will assume you were drinking alcohol
-if you went into Kentucky Fried Chicken during the daytime of Ramadan,
-a munafiqh will assume you were not fasting in Ramadan
-it's not in their interest to make excuses for us because they hate Muslims

Umm Ruman was Aisha's mother
-her hadith narrated how the slander affected Aisha

Narrated Umm Ruman: Who was 'Aisha's mother: While I was with 'Aisha, 'Aisha got fever, whereupon the Prophet said, "Probably her fever is caused by the story related by the people (about her)." I said, "Yes." Then 'Aisha sat up and said, My example and your example is similar to that of Jacob and his sons:--'Nay, but your minds have made up a tale. So (for me) patience is most fitting. It is Allah (alone) Whose help can be sought against that which you assert.' [12:18] (Bukhari Book #60, Hadith #213)

Narrated Yunus bin Yazid: I heard Az-Zuhri saying, "I heard 'Urwa bin Az-Zubair. Said bin Al-Musaiyab, 'Alqama bin Waqqas and 'Ubaidullah bin 'Abdullah each narrating part of the narrative concerning 'Aisha the wife of the Prophet. 'Aisha said: When I and Um Mistah were returning, Um Mistah stumbled by treading on the end of her robe, and on that she said, 'May Mistah be ruined.' I said, 'You have said a bad thing, you curse a man who took part in the battle of Badr!."

Az-Zuhri then narrated the narration of the Lie (forged against 'Aisha). (Bukhari, Book #59, Hadith #359)

LESSON 17: MUHAMMAD DID NOT HAVE COMPLETE KNOWLEDGE UNSEEN (GHAIB)

Say (O Muhammad SAW): "I possess no power of benefit or hurt to myself except as Allah wills. If I had the knowledge of the Ghaib (unseen), I should have secured for myself an abundance of wealth, and no evil should have touched me. I am but a warner, and a bringer of glad tidings unto people who believe." (Al-A'raf 7:188)

LESSON 18: IT IS POSSIBLE FOR THE WIFE OF A PROPHET TO HAVE AN A AFFAIR

LESSON 19: WHEN YOU ARE DOWN, YOU NEED SOMEONE TO LOOK AFTER YOU

-especially a woman
-100s of women are killed every year in Pakistan

And most of them follow nothing but conjecture. Certainly, conjecture can be of no avail against the truth. Surely, Allah is All-Aware of what they do. (Yunus 10:36)

And verily, you (O Muhammad SAW) are on an exalted standard of character. (Al-Qalam 68:4)

LESSON 20: SABR IS A GREAT VIRTUE AND ITS A CHARACTERISTIC OF THE PEOPLE OF TAQWAH

LESSON 21: THE PROPHET HAD DHANN SO HE DIDN'T PUNISH HIS WIFE

LESSON 21: DHANN [DOUBTS] CAN NOT BE USED AS HUJJAH

And most of them follow nothing but conjecture. Certainly, conjecture can be of no avail against the truth. Surely, Allah is All-Aware of what they do. (Yunus 10:36)

Narrated Yunus bin Yazid: I heard Az-Zuhri saying, "I heard 'Urwa bin Az-Zubair. Said bin Al-Musaiyab, 'Alqama bin Waqqas and 'Ubaidullah bin 'Abdullah each narrating part of the narrative concerning 'Aisha the wife of the Prophet. 'Aisha said: When I and Um Mistah were returning, e narrative concerning 'Aisha the wife of the Prophet. 'Aisha said: When I and Um Mistah were returning, Um Mistah stumbled by treading on the end of her robe, and on that she said, 'May Mistah be ruined.' .' I said, 'You have said a bad thing, you curse a man who took part in the battle of Badr!." Az-Zuhri then narrated the narration of the Lie (forged against 'Aisha). (Bukhari, Book #59, Hadith #359)

Mistah is one of the kingpins in the slander of Aisha (r.a.)

LESSON 22: IT'S POSSIBLE THAT A PIOUS PERSON FALLS INTO A MAJOR SIN

-because Mistah was pious, he was a cousin of Abu Bakr
-and he fought in the Battle of Badr

Muhammad (saw) said, “If a man and a woman are alone together in an isolated place, then the third is Shaitan.” Bukhari

LESSON 22: IT'S POSSIBLE THAT A PIOUS PERSON FALLS INTO A MAJOR SIN

-people have 2 sides: angelic side and animalistic side

Narrated Abu-Huraira (may Allah be pleased with him); ‘The Prophet (SAWS) said: “Avoid the seven great destructive sins.” The people enquired; ‘O Allah’s Messenger! What are they?’ The Prophet (SAWS) said: To join others in worship along with Allah, to practise sorcery, to kill the life that Allah has forbidden except for a just cause (according to Islamic law), to eat up usury, to eat up the orphan’s wealth, to show one’s back to the enemy and fleeing from the battlefield at the time of fighting, and to accuse the chaste women, who never even think of anything touching chastity and are good believers.” (Bukhari)

-people like to brag about their animalistic behaviors
-but when you practice salah, zakah, make hajj, fast
-we're bringing out our angelic side

O you who believe! Observing As-Saum (the fasting) is prescribed for you as it was prescribed for those before you, that you may become Al-Muttaqûn (the pious - see V.2:2). (Al-Baqarah 2:183)

The whole of Medina heard of Aisha's affair

-but she was the last one to know
-her body became numb when she heard
-she couldn't even answer the call of nature

LESSON 23: VERBAL ABUSE CAN BE AS DEADLY AS PHYSICAL ABUSE
-if a man calls his wife a whore or wench, that verbal abuse can be far deadlier than physical abuse

LESSON 24: THE GREAT STATUS OF THOSE WHO FOUGHT AT THE BATTLE OF BADR

LESSON 25: IT SHOWS THIS NOBLE CHARACTER OF AISHA

-she defended the character of Mistah behind his back

"If one conceals the private affairs (of others) it is like reviving a girl who has been buried alive, from her grave." (ABU DAWOOD, IBN HIBBAAN, AL HAAKIM, NASAA'I)

LESSON 26: THE TAQWAH OF THE FEMALE SAHABAHS

-because Umm Mistah's mother took sides against her own son

LESSON 27: PAIN, SORROW AND STRESS CAN DESTROY YOU PHYSICALLY

LESSON 28: THE CURSE OF THE PARENTS IS A REALITY NOT A FANTASY
-because Umm Mistah called down Allah's curse upon her son

LESSON 29: WHENEVER A CHILD IS SUFFERING, THEY NEED THEIR PARENTS TO BE THERE FOR THEM
-Aisha's mother was there for her when she went to her mother for comfort
-but she was upset w/ her because her mother didn't tell her about the rumor

LESSON 30: YOUNG GIRLS NEED OLDER WOMEN TO ADVISE THEM IN LIFE
-when you are a young Muslim girl, you need an older women to give advice w/ women problems
-girls used to bring their pads for menses to Aisha so she could tell them if their menses was finished
-this way, they would know when to make ghusl and start fasting and making salah

LESSON 31: EVERY GIRL NEEDS TO HAVE A GOOD RELATIONSHIP w/ HER MOTHER
-not only your mother but mother and father
-a daughter is a diamond of her father
-it's not good to have a strained relationship w/ your mother
-Aisha had an excellent relationship w/ her mum and
-they were able to discuss things w/ her
-and the best person to wash you when you die is your mother

...He said, "O Allah's Apostle! She is your wife, and we do not know anything about her except good." But 'Ali bin Abi Talib said, "O Allah's Apostle! Allah does not impose restrictions on you; and there are plenty of women other than her. If you however, ask (her) slave girl, she will tell you the truth."...[Bukhari, Vol 6, Book 60, No 274]

When the rumor broke out: Muhammad (saws) approached 2 men (an Arab and a black man)

-the Arab was Ali and the black man was Usaama ibn Zayd
-Usaama ibn Zayd and Ali were approached by Muhammad to ask for their advice
-he said, "what should I do w/ Aisha?"

LESSON 33: EVEN MUHAMMAD NEEDED SINCERE FRIENDS TO GIVE HIM ADVICE
-we all need sincere friends to advise us
-Ali said, “There's plenty of women in the world so you can do better”
-indirectly, he was saying to divorce her
-Usaama ibn Zayd said: "wallahi, I don't know anything bad
-about her so keep your family"

Buraira said, "I cannot accuse her of any defect except that she is still a young girl who sleeps, neglecting her family's dough which the domestic goats come to eat (i.e. she was too simpleminded to deceive her husband)." (Bukhari Book 48, No. 805)

-Aisha's maid was Barira and she was asked to give advice on Aisha's character
-and Barira said there was nothing bad to say about Aisha
-the Shias say that Aisha carried a personal grudge against Ali
-and some Sunnis who are influenced by Shia writings believe it, as well
-but those who are members of Ahlus Sunnah wal Jamm'ah
-know not to believe this because we do not know what is ghaib (unseen)
-remember that curiosity killed the cat

LESSON 34: WHEN YOU'RE A LEADER WHO HAS A CRISES, SEEK ADVICE FROM YOUR SUBORDINATES; DON'T BE PROUD

-the Rasool gathered everyone in the masjid for a khutbah [not on a Friday]

Allah's Apostle said, 'Who will support me to punish that person ('Abdullah bin Ubai bin Salul) who has hurt me by slandering the reputation of my family? By Allah, I know nothing about my family but good, and they have accused a person about whom I know nothing except good, and he never entered my house except in my company.' Sahih Bukhari, Vol 3, Book 48, No 829

-he said my wife is accused of having an affair w/ Safwan
-and I know nothing bad about Safwan
-he said, 'what can I do to the man who is starting this slander'
-(he didn't give Abdullah bin Ubai's name)
-someone said KILL HIM KILL HIM KILL HIM
-a Sahabah stood up during the sermon [it was Usaid ibn Hudaiy,
-from the tribe of al Aws] and he said
-if the man is from my tribe, I will chop off his head myself !!!!
-but if he is from my brother's tribe, [Khazraj ],
-then command me and I will do as you command
-tempers rose and people were yelling KILL HIM KILL HIM [re: Abdullah bin Ubai]
-Saad ibn Abi Ubaida [from the Khazraj tribe] said: “BY ALLAH, YOU'RE A LIAR ...
-if he were from your tribe, you would not have wanted to kill him
-you're only saying that because he's from my tribe”

Sad bin Muadh Al-Ansari got up and said, "O Allah's Apostle! By Allah, I will relieve you from him. If he be from the tribe of (Bani) Al-Aus, then I will chop his head off; and if he be from our brethren, the Khazraj, then you give us your order and we will obey it." On that, Sad bin 'Ubada got up, and he was the chief of the Khazraj, and before this incident he had been a pious man but he was incited by his zeal for his tribe. He said to Sad (bin Muadh), "By Allah the Eternal, you have told a lie! You shall not kill him and you will never be able to kill him!" On that, Usaid bin Hudair, the cousin of Sad (bin Muadh) got up and said to Sad bin 'Ubada "You are a liar! By Allah the Eternal, we will surely kill him; and you are a hypocrite defending the hypocrites!" So the two tribes of Al-Aus and Al-Khazraj got excited till they were on the point of fighting with each other while Allah's Apostle was standing on the pulpit. [Bukhari, Vol 6, Book 60. Hadith 274

Aisha said that Saad ibn Abi Ubaida
-was known in Medina to be a pious Sahabah but on that day
-his asabiyya got the better of him
-asabiyya is tribalism, racism
-asabiyya was coming back from jahiliyya
-so the Prophet had to prevent this

LESSON 35: WHEN YOU SLANDER A WOMAN, YOU SLANDER HER HUSBAND, AS WELL
-when you hurt a man's wife, you hurt him

LESSON 36: THERE ARE 4 MATTERS OF JAHILIYYA THAT THE UMMAH WILL NEVER GIVE UP

“There are four matters of jahiliyyah that exist among my ummah and they will not give them up: boasting about one’s forefathers, casting aspersions upon people’s lineages, seeking rain by the stars and wailing for the dead.” [Sahîh Muslim (934)]

1. Asabiyya [racism, tribalism]
2. Seeking rain from the stars
3. Wailing for the dead
4. Boasting one's lineage

LESSON 37: THE SHAITAN HAS THE ABILITY TO USE ASABIYYA TO DIVIDE THE UMMAH

-when the slander of Aisha broke and people were saying KILL HIM KILL HIM
-asabiyya came back into the ummah

Aisha was crying when the rumor broke
-and she cried till her tears dried up
-one of her friends went into her home and cried w/ Aisha (r.a.)

“The believers, in their mutual mercy, love and compassion, are like a (single) body; if one part of it feels pain, the rest of the body will join it in staying awake and suffering fever.” (Narrated by al-Bukhari)

-the ummah is one body .. but this sister cried w/ her

LESSON 38: THE UMMAH IS ONE BODY ... WHEN ONE FEELS PAIN, THE OTHERS FEEL THE PAIN, TOO

Aisha said; So I continued to cry that day and my tears would not stop flowing until I believed that my liver would split open due to my tears. While I was sitting and crying, my parents were with me, and one of the Ansar ladies asked permission to enter and started crying with me.


-when the kuffaar are in Afghanistan killing our ummah,
-they are not just hurting Afghanis
-they hurt all of us, too

Muhammad approached Aisha
-and said there is a rumor you had an affair
-if you did have an affair w/ Safwan, make taubah
-he said this because it's possible for a wife of a prophet to have an affair
-as she is not a prophet but a wife of one
-Aisha said to her mother, Umm Ruman, "tell the Messenger I did not have an affair"

..."If you are innocent, then Allah will declare your innocence: but if you have committed a sin, then ask for Allah's Forgiveness and repent to him." 'Aisha said, "By Allah, I find no example for my case except that of Joseph's father (when he said), 'So (for me) patience is most fitting.' "

Then Allah revealed the ten Verses:-- "Verily those who spread the slander are a gang amongst you.." (24.11) (Bukhari, Book #60, Hadith #212)


-she was so afraid to get divorced and have the ultimate disgrace
-she pleaded w/ Abu Bakr Siddique to speak to Muhammad
-but he said he didn't want to speak that day
-and Umm Ruman said 'how can I tell the Prophet what to believe'
-she had SUCH taqwah; she knew he was receiving lessons
-everyday from above the 7 heavens
-and we see Muhammad spoke to Aisha in front of her parents

LESSON 39: WHENEVER SPEAKING TO SOMEONE, WE SHOULD SAY
-"assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh"
-Muhammad gave her salaam before he spoke to her about this serious matter

LESSON 40: WHENEVER WE ARE IN CRISES, WE SHOULD USE QUR'AN AND SUNNAH TO GUIDE US
-in order to accuse a person of having an affair, we need 4 witnesses
-to say they saw the "pen in the ink" [actually s-xual contact]
-but there were no 4 people who saw Aisha having an affair [because she didn't]
-so Muhammad didn't punish her and he didn't act upon his emotions
-in Pakistan every year, 100s of women are killed for having an affair
-but 99% did not have an affair and don't have 4 witnesses against them

Allah 'tala told Aisha not to consider the slander a bad thing
-because the slanderers have to give you their good deeds on Judgment Day

LESSON 41: WHEN SOMEONE IS ACCUSED, LET TAQWAH BE YOUR GUIDE
-Qur'an and Sunnah
-we must use Qur'an and Sunnah to be our guides

Aisha further said: Allah's Apostle also asked Zainab bint Jaysh about my case. He said, "O Zainab! What have you seen?" She replied, "O Allah's Apostle! I protect my hearing and my sight (by refraining from telling lies). I know nothing but good (about Aisha)." Of all the wives of Allah's Apostle, it was Zainab who aspired to receive from him the same favor as I used to receive, yet, Allah saved her (from telling lies) because of her piety. But her sister, Hamna, kept on fighting on her behalf so she was destroyed as were those who invented and spread the slander. Sahih Bukhari Vol 6, Book 60, No 274:

Muhammad asked Zaynab bint Jaysh what she thought about Aisha

-but she said, “Ya Rasulallah, wallahi I don' t know anything
-about Aisha other than good”
-she didn't slander her co-wife; she spoke sweetly about her co-wife
-women today would rush to get rid of the other wife
-but the wives of the Prophet were so pious they were
-called THE MOTHERS OF THE BELIEVERS
-they were not bytchy and spiteful
-this is how to practice polygamy; it's not a war .. it is companionship!
-we should protect our co-wives
-Shaikh met many pious women who handle polygamy gracefully

Muhammad WAITED 1 MONTH TO APPROACH AISHA ABOUT THE ALLEGED AFFAIR
-he told her Allah cleared her name after 1 month
-he was laughing till his teeth were visible

LESSON 42: THE PROPHET HAD EMOTIONS LIKE EVERYONE ELSE
-he was bashr like everyone else

Say (O Muhammad SAW): "I am only a man like you. It has been inspired to me that your Ilah (God) is One Ilah (God i.e. Allah). So whoever hopes for the Meeting with his Lord, let him work righteousness and associate none as a partner in the worship of his Lord." (Al-Kahf 18:110)

-the Barelvis want to say he was like the angels but he was bashr
-see 24:11

Verily! Those who brought forth the slander (against 'Aishah the wife of the Prophet SAW) are a group among you. Consider it not a bad thing for you. Nay, it is good for you. Unto every man among them will be paid that which he had earned of the sin, and as for him among them who had the greater share therein, his will be a great torment. (An-Nur 24:11)

And they brought his shirt stained with false blood. He said: "Nay, but your ownselves have made up a tale. So (for me) patience is most fitting. And it is Allâh (Alone) Whose help can be sought against that (lie) which you describe." (Yusuf 12:18)


-Aisha said: your evil souls have caused to you to concoct a lie:
-sabr is the best thing for me now
-and she sought Allah tala's help to expose the lie

Narrated 'Aisha: (when the slanderers said what they said about her): I went to my bed knowing at that time that I was innocent and that Allah would reveal my innocence, but by Allah, I never thought that Allah would reveal in my favor a revelation which would be recited, for I considered myself too unimportant to be talked about by Allah in the Divine Revelation that was to be recited. So Allah revealed the ten Verses (of Surat-an-Nur). 'Those who brought a false charge........' (24.11-20) (Bukhari, Book #93, Hadith #635)

Parvazis, who do not believe in hadith,
-needed an ayah in the Qur'an to show Aisha was innocent
-this is HOW wise Allah 'tala is

For the slander, the Prophet flogged Hassan ibn Thaabit, Hamna bint Jaysh and Mistah (80x)

And let not those among you who are blessed with graces and wealth swear not to give (any sort of help) to their kinsmen, Al-Masakin (the poor), and those who left their homes for Allah's Cause. Let them pardon and forgive. Do you not love that Allah should forgive you? And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. (An-Nur 24:22)

-now, Mistah was receiving financial support from Abu Bakr Siddique
-and Abu Bakr wanted to stop it but Allah' tala revealed 24:22
-and all Mistah did was SMILE - he did not verbalize an affair but he went along w/ the masses

LESSON 43: WHEN YOU ARE IN THE COMPANY OF A BACKBITER AND A SLANDERER AND YOU DO NOT DEFEND THE UMMAH FROM THE SLANDER, YOU ARE EQUALLY GUILTY

-slander is worse than backbiting, both hurt us terribly

“A sign of one’s excellence in his Islam, is ignoring what does not concern him.” (Ahmad, Malik & At-Tirmidhi)

“Do you know what backbiting is?” They said, “Allah and His Messenger know best.” He then said, “It is to say something about your brother that he would dislike.” Someone asked him, “But what if what I say is true?” The Messenger of Allah said, “If what you say about him is true, you are backbiting him, but if it is not true then you have slandered him.” (Muslim)

Muhammad took 1 month to mention the rumor to Aisha:
1. to teach the ummah how to behave
2. wait for Allah's guidance


Zaynab Bint Jaysh
-she was approached, 'what do you know about Aisha?'
-she defended the honor of Aisha
-she did this BEFORE the ayah came down

Aisha further said: Allah's Apostle also asked Zainab bint Jaysh about my case. He said, "O Zainab! What have you seen?" She replied, "O Allah's Apostle! I protect my hearing and my sight (by refraining from telling lies). I know nothing but good (about Aisha)." Of all the wives of Allah's Apostle, it was Zainab who aspired to receive from him the same favor as I used to receive, yet, Allah saved her (from telling lies) because of her piety. But her sister, Hamna, kept on fighting on her behalf so she was destroyed as were those who invented and spread the slander. Sahih Bukhari Vol 6, Book 60, No 274

LESSON 44: WHEN YOU ARE A PERSON OF TAQWAH, YOUR TAQWAH WILL SAVE YOU FROM CALAMITY AND CATASTROPHE

-Zaynab bint Jaysh was saved by her taqwah

LESSON 45: POLYGAMY IS NOT A WAR

LESSON 46: A GOOD FRIEND, (SINCERE FRIEND) WILL NEVER KICK YOU WHEN YOU ARE DOWN

Aisha said; So I continued to cry that day and my tears would not stop flowing until I believed that my liver would split open due to my tears. While I was sitting and crying, my parents were with me, and one of the Ansar ladies asked permission to enter and started crying with me


-they stand by you as Aisha's friends stood by her

PRESIDENT BILL CLINTON
-had an affair while he was President of the US
-his fellow Democrats rallied around him and he was able
-to keep his position because of their support
-he will be remembered for not having to resign (as Richard Nixon had to resign)
-when Aisha was down, her friends rallied around her; even her co-wife!
-may Allah bless all the co-wives in our ummah!
-even in darul harb, the kuffaar don't kick their friends when they are down
-so why can't we rally behind our friends in our own ummah?

LESSON 47: ALLAH REVEALED THE QUR'AN IN PIECE MEAL IN ORDER TO SOLVE PROBLEMS MUHAMMAD WOULD ENCOUNTER IN HIS LIFETIME
-ayah by ayah, surah by surah

LESSON 48: WHEN YOU PUT YOUR TRUST IN ALLAH AND MAKE A DUAA TO HIM, HE WILL ANSWER YOU
-don't make a duaa w/o having trust in Him (swt)

The Authority Of Abu Hurayrah: The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said : "Our Lord (glorified and exalted be He) descends each night to the earth's sky when there remains the final third of the night, and He says: Who is saying a prayer to Me that I may answer it? Who is asking something of Me that I may give it him? Who is asking forgiveness of Me that I may forgive him?" [An Nawawi's Forty Hadith, Hadith 035]

~~the distance between a problem and the solution
is the distance between your knees and the ground~~


LESSON 49: WHEN ALLAH LOVES US, HE TESTS US [the more he loves us, the more He (swt) tests us]
-the more He (swt) love us, the bigger the test

The Prophet (pbuh) said, “When Allah loves a servant, He tests him,” [Tirmidhi]

Hamna Bint Jaysh

-was the sister of Zaynab and she slandered Aisha
-she thought she was helping her sister by doing this slander
-she thought she was fighting a battle for her sister
-because Aisha was the biggest rival of Zaynab Bint Jaysh
-but Zaynab never asked her to fight a battle for her

LESSON 50: IT'S POSSIBLE FOR YOUR RELATIVES TO INDULGE IN ILLEGAL BATTLES ON YOUR BEHALF IN THE NAME OF ASABIYYA

Muhammad flogged the slanderers

-the Prophet flogged Hassan ibn Thaabit, Hamna bint Jaysh and Mistah (80x)
-but he didn't flog the hypocrites

Ibn Kathir in al Bidayah al Nihaya, Volume 4 page 160 writes the following: "Then he (prophet) went to the people and addressed and then recited what Allah revealed in Quran, then he ordered that Mastah bin Uthatha Hasaan bin Thaabit, Hamna bint Jaysh to be punished because they were among those who spread the allegation of adultery."

-he flogged the slanderers so they would not be asked about
-the slander on Judgment Day
-but he did not flog the hypocrites because it's IMPOSSIBLE TO PURIFY THEM

Verily, the hypocrites will be in the lowest depths (grade) of the Fire; no helper will you find for them. (An-Nisa 4:145)

LESSONS 51: IT'S IMPOSSIBLE TO PURIFY A HYPOCRITE



QUESTIONS AFTER CLASS:


Q 1 What's the characteristics of a hypocrite?

A 1
- Ramadan is a burden on them, jihad and zakah, are all burdens on them
-we will expose hypocrites one day

The Prophet said, "Whoever has the following four (characteristics) will be a pure hypocrite and whoever has one of the following four characteristics will have one characteristic of hypocrisy unless and until he gives it up.
1. Whenever he is entrusted, he betrays.
2. Whenever he speaks, he tells a lie.
3. Whenever he makes a covenant, he proves treacherous.
4. Whenever he quarrels, he behaves in a very imprudent, evil and insulting manner." Bukhari (Book #2, Hadith #33)


Q 2 - HOW DID THE RASOOL AND AISHA INTERACT W/ EACH OTHER DURING THE MONTH HE WAS WAITING FOR AN ANSWER like tell us how husbands and wives should act

A 2
- he was behaving cold towards her and she had fever at the same time
-so she asked for permission to go see her mother
-Arab culture is to curse the person who fell down
-and she wondered why they were cursing Mistah
-but he was never cold towards his wives and so she realized
-there was something wrong
-he told her to make taubah [this was before the verse came down] to him
-these Muslim women were SO pious they were called the MOTHER OF THE BELIEVERS
-co wives should have such piety

Q 3. What if you’re present where a Muslim is being slandered and backbitten then you can really say nothing to defend for some reason?

A 3
- WHEN YOU ARE IN THE COMPANY OF OTHERS BACKBITING, YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO DEFEND YOURS AND THEIR HONOR

-but if you smile even, you are guilty
-smile can be LOL [online]
-Mistah got 80 lashes for laughing, as in agreement
-he was guilty just for hanging around the slanderers and smiling