Saturday, September 24, 2011

Radio Program: [The Role of Women in Society]

THE ROLE OF WOMEN IN SOCIETY
by Shaikh Abdullah Faisal

(Radio show: 9.24.11)

QUESTIONS by Dr. O’Connor (Jamaican herbalist)
ANSWERS by Shaikh Abdullah Faisal (Jamaica)



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Bismillah...

QUESTION: WHAT WAS THE SITUATION OF WOMEN BEFORE THE ADVENT OF ISLAM?

ANSWER: BEFORE the advent of Islam, the plight of women was documented and well known

Women didn't have the right to life

-girl children were buried alive then
-why? because they feared poverty
-they thought it was better to bring up a boy to fight wars
-they thought girls couldn't do that
-the more boys in the tribe, the stronger the tribe

1. THEY FEARED POVERTY
2. THEY FEARED INDECENCY

Arabs make sure their girls get married; they don't dabble in s-x outside of marriage

Many people might think burying children alive
was in the past
-but this is not true
-but in India, even today, they fear the dowry for their daughters will be enormous
-so they do not want to have a daughter
-they consider daughters financial liability
-millions of daughters are buried alive

SHAIKH IN LONDON
-he was living in an area where there were a lot of Indians
-their policy was not to tell the parents the gender of the child to be born
-and in China, there are many girls being aborted because they have a 1 family - 1 child policy
-this is not something in the past

THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A PAST: BECAUSE HISTORY REPEATS ITSELF

There was homs-xuality and black magic in [the past] and it exists today, as well

QUESTION: WHAT'S HAPPENING W/ FORCED MARRIAGES IN PAKISTAN AND THE MIDDLE EAST?

ANSWER: THIS is a pandemic problem there

See 4:19

O you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their will... (An-Nisa 4:19)


This ayah speaks out against forced marriages; Islam condemns them!
-some people do their own thing though,
-so some will force marriage and blame it on religion
-the same way some bomb buses and then blame it on Islam, but this is not Islam
-as the racism, people say the Bible is against black people

Even w/ slave trading, the ship was called "Jesus"
-to fool the people into thinking they were going "to" Jesus
-look at Sadaam Hussain, he used the word, "jihad" [even though he was not religious]

QUESTION: PLEASE DESCRIBE FEMALE GENITAL MUTILATION [aka FGM]

ANSWER: This is pandemic in Africa, as Shaikh was there visiting and learned how prevalent it is

Men do this because they think

-if the women are left their female private parts
-that the women will be promiscuous
-they don't want the women to 'cheat' on their husbands / 'sleeping around'

THE PROPHET (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) HAD 4 DAUGHTERS AND
-he did NOT tamper w/ the private parts of his daughter

In Europe, the girls wore chastity belt to prevent them from having zina [s-x]
-so they can only go to the toilet, but not have s-x while wearing this belt

With, FGM, these girls are slit w/ a razor
-some of them have emotional problems [and die, too]
-shaikhs must pick up the pieces from their condition

Surah 4:119 condemns FGM

Verily, I will mislead them, and surely, I will arouse in them false desires; and certainly, I will order them to slit the ears of cattle, and indeed I will order them to change the nature created by Allah." And whoever takes Shaitan (Satan) as a Wali (protector or helper) instead of Allah, has surely suffered a manifest loss. (An-Nisa 4:119)

QUESTION: WHAT ROLE DID WOMEN PLAY IN THE SPREAD OF ISLAM?

ANSWER: The 1s person to embrace Islam was a woman: Khadijah

Greatest scholar was Aisha (r.a.)

-her knowledge alone tipped the scales from all the ummah
-Muhammad married her to teach her Islam

Sumaya: 1st women to die FOR Islam
-Best friend of Muhammad (pbuh) was a woman: Fatima (daughter)
-when Muhammad was @ Battle of Uhud, Umm Amaara saved his life
-women played important roles in Islam, past and present
-women are the 1st madrassa, so if you have an intelligent wife,
-she will be teaching them!
-we're told to stay away from foolish women, or she passes it on to the kids

IF YOU TEACH A WOMEN, YOU TEACH THE MASSES
IF YOU TEACH A MAN, YOU ONLY EDUCATE HIM

The 1st school is the lap of a mother,
-so keep this in mind when choosing a wife
-"do I want her to be the mother of my kids?"

QUESTION: SHOULD THE SABBATH STILL BE PRACTICED?

ANSWER: THE SABBATH is abrogated and should not be practiced today

It is obsolete

-the same as some technology is obsolete
-it damages the economy
-you can work 7 days a week if you want to
-what about doctors and nurses: saving lives on Saturday
-in Hong Kong, their society is 24/7

QUESTION: MUSLIMS HAVE JUMM'AH ON FRIDAY .. WHAT IS THE BASIS FOR THIS?

ANSWER: Judgment Day is on a Friday and the completion of the heavens/earth was on a Friday

Then when the (Jumu'ah) Salat (prayer) is finished, you may disperse through the land, and seek the Bounty of Allah (by working, etc.), and remember Allah much, that you may be successful. (Al-Jumu'ah 62:10)

We're to disperse and work after Jumm'ah

-we're to seek bounty and work
-the Sabbath was for the Jews, not us

QUESTION: HOW DID SUNDAY COME INTO BEING A SABBATH?

ANSWER: Christians think because it's the 1st day of the week, they should rest then

-but the proper day is Friday and we're not to abandon work on that day,
-if we want to work, we can
-Christians always digress from the topic when they are asking questions

QUESTION: IN OUR SOCIETY, WE FIND THAT ISLAM IS THE FASTEST GROWING RELIGION IN THE WORLD, BUT THE STUDIES BY EUROPEANS, SHOW TWICE AS MANY WOMEN ARE BECOMING MUSLIMS AS MEN ... TELL US ABOUT THIS:

ANSWER: The reason why these women are reverting to Islam so quickly is that they want a decent man to marry

They don't want a pedophile
or alcoholic for a husband (or one who uses cigarettes)
-they don't want a wife beater

The most perfect of the believers is the best of you in character, and the best of you are those among you who are best to their wives." - Tirmidhi

Women are no longer safe in this society

-the problem of "fatal attraction" hangs over their head
-many men in this society even cheat on their wives w/ another man !!
-there is a prison in Jamaica and we're sure they don't have 2 or 3 Muslim men there
-Islam gives you a good character to be role model for children
-and a good husband for a wife

QUESTION: What are the 18 roles of women in the home and in society?

ANSWER: THERE IS A VERY COMPLEX list of duties:

18 IMPORTANT ROLES FOR A WOMAN IN THIS SOCIETY, ESPECIALLY ISLAMIC SOCIETY

1. GOOD WIFE

-she has 3 qualities
-we will come back to the other points

2. MOTHER
3. NURSE
4. TEACHER
5. ECONOMIST

A believer eats in one intestine (is satisfied with little food) and a kaafir (unbeliever) or a hypocrite eats with seven intestines" (Bukhari)

Verily, spendthrifts are brothers of the Shayatin (devils), and the Shaitân (Devil ¬ Satan) is ever ungrateful to his Lord. (Al-Isra 17:27)

6. ARBITRATOR

-the parents must spread their love evenly amongst the children

7. POLITICIAN
8. PSYCHOLOGIST
9. MOTIVATIONAL SPEAKER
10. GOOD COOK
11. BREAD-WINNER, if necessary

-sometimes it's necessary
-some people forfeit their rights, though,
-as a man who does not support his family,
-loses his conjugal (s-x) rights

Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allah and to their husbands), and guard in the husband's absence what Allah orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husband's property, etc.). As to those women on whose part you see ill¬ conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful), but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allah is Ever Most High, Most Great. (An-Nisa 4:34)

12. LAW-GIVER

-lay down law @ home, such as w/ kids not going to certain websites
-homes w/o laws are total chaos
-same as one w/o an ameer

13. LAW-ENFORCER
-when children don't live according to home laws, then they should be punished

14. CLEANER
-cleanliness is half of your faith
-women can divorce their husbands if he is not clean/ has bad breath [same for a man's rights]

Abu Malik Al-Harith bin Aasim Al-Ash’ari: Allah’s Messenger said, “Cleanliness is half of Faith; the utterance of Allah (Al-hamdu lillah – all praise belongs to Allah) fills the scales of good actions; [Sahih Muslim, Book 2, Hadith #0432]

15. RIGHTEOUS ROLE-MODEL

-you're not an adulterer
-when women in Jamaica are lesbians and have kids,
-then they abandon their lesbianism
-they become good women then
-they know they need to be a good role model
-when you're a parent, you're forced to be righteous

16. BE A SOCIOLOGIST
-some kids lack social skills, this must be taught
-lacking social skills will make them offend others

17. SPIRITUALIST
-if your child is possessed by a demon, you should be able to detect it
-in Jamaica, they call it a dupee = demon
-children who have huge appetites or trouble sleeping,
-these are symptoms of being possessed
-when it's acute, the child is a girl but has a male voice
-there is no doubt THAT child is possessed by a demon
-the Qur'an will need to be recited over them IN ARABIC
-or it will be of no avail to the child

18. NUTRITIONIST
-make sure kids are properly fed
-some are obese or anorexic
-these skills come from the mother's teaching

QUESTION: WHY ARE THERE NOT MORE WOMEN IN GOVERNMENT / FEMALE RULERS ?

ANSWER: People think women don't have the gravitas [aura] to be a leader

People don't take women serious

-that they don't have gravitas [seriousness]
-they think, such as a male pilot, is better than a female
-or the captain of a ship: it's people's mentality
-that thinks women can't do these things

IS THIS ALSO A RACE ISSUE, TOO?
-well, when Nelson Mandela was air-lifted to Ethiopia,
-he saw black men flying a plane and he was panicking
-he realized he was being racist

QUESTION: WHY DO WE 'COMMAND' OUR WOMEN, WHY NOT 'INSTRUCT' THEM? WHY DO WE CALL THEM NAMES WHEN THEY HAVE NO CHILDREN?

ANSWER: EVERY MUSLIM WOMEN IS A PRINCESS AND SHOULD BE TREATED AS ONE [BY DR O'CONNOR]

ANSWER BY SHAIKH: WHEN a woman is given an instruction, it comes from the Holy Qur'an

-these instructions do not come from a man but the Qur'an
-see 24:31 and 33:59

Such as fasting: it's not coming from the husband that comes from the Qur'an

And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.) and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent (like palms of hands or one eye or both eyes for necessity to see the way, or outer dress like veil, gloves, head-cover, apron, etc.) or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful. (An-Nur 24:31)

O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) all over their bodies (i.e. creen themselves completely except the eyes or one eye to see the way). That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allah is Ever Oft¬Forgiving, Most Merciful. (Al-Ahzab 33:59)


-even going to bed w/ her husband,
-it's also instructing women to go w/ the husband
-when he calls his wife to bed
-see the hadith [hadith = words and doings of the Prophet Muhammad (saws)]
-this is pandemic in the west, to be disobedient

FEMINISM is a disaster and teaches women to be rebellious towards men

Even women who take care of their husbands in the home,

-they get their instructions from Qur'an AND Hadith
-if you die and your husband was happy w/ you, you go to Paradise
-the same as delivering a baby, breast-feeding and giving birth,
-if she dies then, she goes to Paradise
-if her husband takes a 2nd wife and the 1st is patient,
-when she dies, all her sins are forgiven
-we know polygamy is not permitted in Jamaica
-because they got their opinions from the white man
-in Africa, they allow polygamy because black men
-have higher testosterone so higher libido
-so man can not be his own law-giver

QUESTION: WHY DON'T WE CALL WOMEN PRINCESS OR QUEEN?

ANSWER: THE BEST LABEL IS MUSLIMAH: one who walks in the way of God
-the delight of the man/woman is in the LAWS OF THE LORD [quoting Bible]

QUESTION: TELL US ABOUT THE WORD "SHARIAH" ???

ANSWER: We are Muslims so we believe in the law of God and not the law of man

If you believe in the law of man, you're a pagan

-people in the west should not be surprised if those in Libya ask for Shariah
-the same as Muslims would not ask for Buddhist laws, for example
-man's own laws have brought him to total chaos

SHAIKH IN SAUDI ARABIA:
-cars were not stolen there for the 8 years he lived there
-but when he moved to London, his cars were stolen
-when there is no Shariah, there is more crime
-in 8 years, SH only saw 1 man's hand cut off for stealing
-Shariah discourages crime
-it is preventative
-there's no Shariah in South Africa, so there's more crime there
-Xenophobia = hatred of foreigners
-people commit crimes against foreigners
-countries w/ Shariah are safe countries
-no need to lock the door to the house

In the west, w/o Shariah, crime is rife [prevalent]
-as Muslims, mind your own business so we can implement Shariah
-we leave Christians alone to live by the Bible so leave us alone!

SHAIKH IN NIGERIA IN 2008:
-the northern states implemented Shariah
-the Christians in the south were making noise
-but these were Muslim states, so why are they complaining
-about these northern states in Nigeria?

Cut off (from the wrist joint) the (right) hand of the thief, male or female, as a recompense for that which they committed, a punishment by way of example from Allah. And Allah is All-Powerful, All Wise. (Al-Ma'idah 5:38)

QUESTION: TELL US ABOUT THE PROPHET (SAWS) HAVING 9 WIVES:

ANSWER: People say how was he able to satisfy them s-xually?

-he had the strength of 40 men
-only one wife was a virgin (Aisha r.a.)
-he married widows [Umm Salama]
-when he married Zaynab, he didn't want to marry her
-because she was married to his adopted son
-but a verse came down commanding him to marry her
-so people learned the adopted son is NOT like biological son
-when he married women from different tribes,
-often the whole tribe reverted to Islam
-he didn't marry women for s-x
-Khadijah was the rich wife; she proposed to him

Say: "Who is he who can protect you from Allah if He intends to harm you, or intends mercy on you?" And they will not find, besides Allah, for themselves any Wali (protector, supporter, etc.) or any helper. (Al-Ahzab 33:17)

QUESTION: WOMEN IN JAMAICA WILL SAY, IF MY HUSBAND CAN HAVE 4 WIVES, WHY CAN’T I HAVE 4 HUSBANDS?

ANSWER: The Qur'an didn't start polygamy, but it allowed it and limits the number to only 4

But the Prophet (saws) was not limited to 4 wives

-because he had the strength of 40 men
-many women complain to SH that their husbands
-are not satisfying them in the bedroom
-one man can't satisfy more than 4 women
-and he can't go to bed w/ them at the same time
-even Muhammad (pbuh) would visit each wife in one night w/ only 1 ghusl

MEN DO NOT HAVE THE EMOTIONAL FEELINGS OF WOMEN,
-such as jealousy
-women would use 1 man against the other
-they want to give their husbands emotional insecurity,
-so they flirt w/ other men in front of their husbands
-when the woman is pregnant, we need to know who the father of the baby is

QUESTION: ARE WOMEN UNCLEAN DURING MENSTRUATION?

ANSWER: When a woman is menstruating, you can do everything w/ her except for s-x (jimaa)

-you can kiss her, touch her
-we don't treat women like a leper but we don't have s-x
-because the menstruation blood is unclean
-if you do, you must give away 4.25 grams of gold in charity [the husband must]
-you can cuddle and kiss her and she can prepare your meals
-some believe she can't touch the Holy Qur'an but YES SHE CAN TOUCH IT!

QUESTION: WHAT CAN WOMEN DO TO ENTER PARADISE?

ANSWER: SEVERAL ...

1 BE OBEDIENT TO HER HUSBAND
2 SHE PRAYS 5X A DAY
3 PROTECTS HER PRIVATE PARTS
4 FASTS IN RAMADHAN
5 IF SHE DIES IN CHILDBIRTH, SHE DIES AS A MARTYR
6 WHEN HER HUSBAND TAKES ON A 2ND WIFE AND SHE IS PATIENT
7 IF SHE WENT TO BED W/ HER HUSBAND WHENEVER HE CALLED HER TO BED, SHE GETS BLESSINGS

-the higher the libido, the more the blessings!

If you train a woman to obey her husband she will do it
-because this is required as per the Qur'an
-Muslim women will turn off the stove to go to bed
-when their husband calls them
-in the west, they say I AM BUSY!!

QUESTION: IN FRANCE, THERE'S NEW LAW MAKING IT ILLEGAL FOR THEM TO WEAR HIJAB IN SCHOOLS AND WORK; IF SHE IS CAUGHT WEARING A VEIL, SHE WILL BE LOCKED UP AND FINED ,,, WHAT'S GOING ON?

ANSWER: EUROPEANS are hypocrites because they say they believe in equality


These women can wear short skirt,
-it's acceptable but if a woman covers herself, she is charged
-they forbid chaste dressing
-the French made this law
-because the devil makes them jealous of woman's piety
-the devil would like to see us naked;
-he wanted this heavenly clothing taken away
-so he could see the nakedness of Adam/Eve
-he hates clothing; he is a nudist

O Children of Adam! Let not Shaitan (Satan) deceive you, as he got your parents [Adam and Hawwa (Eve)] out of Paradise, stripping them of their raiments, to show them their private parts. Verily, he and Qabiluhu (his soldiers from the jinns or his tribe) see you from where you cannot see them. Verily, We made the Shayatin (devils) Auliya' (protectors and helpers) for those who believe not. (Al-A'raf 7:27)

IT IS CLAIMED THAT THE TALIBAN are oppressing women

-but they are there to protect the women in Afghanistan
-there are reports the US soldiers are shooting pregnant women
-these videos are on LIVE LEAKS
-[the reporter was a white man w/ a Jewish name who exposed these soldiers]
-so the women there were safer under the Taliban
-the culture of the west is to kill women
-in the UK, every week there are 3 women killed
-but in Islam, we protect them and cover them up in piety
-heathens in the west dishonor women by putting them in pubs and discos
-their bodies are then commercialized
-they use the naked bodies of women on billboards
-put them in magazines / porn magazines / videos
-they sell the women's bodies for money
-when these women are addicted to crack cocaine / heroin
-it is called "the game" [prostitution]

US Special Forces Killed Pregnant Women, Covered-Up Deaths:
http://pubrecord.org/world/7357/obamas-afghanistan-special-forces/

US Soldiers Admit Murdering 2 teenage Pregnant Afghan Women:
http://www.liveleak.com/view?i=f5b_1316164748

-it's dangerous for these women
-because they can catch the virus that causes AIDS
-in 1950s, if you called a man GAY it meant he was happy
-but now, homos-xual men have claimed this word for themselves
-the shaitan / devil paints sin w/ pretty / nice words
-adultery = affairs or business

The tree forbidden to Adam and Eve,
-the devil called it THE TREE OF ETERNAL LIFE
-he paints sin w/ nice words
-some of these women have s-x w/ men and then sell their stories to newspapers
-uncircumcised men can give women AIDS
-it's pandemic [AIDS] in many places in Africa
-many people are HIV + [the virus that causes AIDS]
-it gives women cancer of the cervix
-then there are parasites / freeloaders [he doesn't work and lives off his wife]
-they call themselves "house-husbands'
-they give sin a nice name

QUESTION: IN GERMANY @ THE END OF WWII, MANY GERMAN MEN WERE KILLED SO THE WOMEN COULD NOT FIND HUSBANDS; WHAT WAS THE ANSWER THE WOMEN GOT FROM THE GERMAN GOVERNMENT?

ANSWER: The government said they would legalize prostitution [Dr. O'Connor]


The psyche of the west is to let you have 10 girlfriends but not 4 wives
-their mentality is satanic
-Men can't have 4 wives to be treated decently but these places allow 10 girlfriends!
-what is good, they make it look evil and what is evil, they make it look good

QUESTION: WHAT IS CIRCUMCISION?

ANSWER: THE PEOPLE WHO ARE NOT CIRCUMCISED CAN SPREAD AIDS ...

To be circumcised
is to remove the tip of the male penis [their foreskin]
-Prophet Ibrahim / Abraham circumcised himself at age 80 [w/ a sharp stone]
-men who are not circumcised are unclean and can give cancer of the cervix to women

Prophet, Peace Be Upon Him, says: "Abraham circumcised himself at the age of eighty, using a hatchet"(related by Al-Bukhari and Muslim).

QUESTION: SO CAN A MAN BE CIRCUMCISED AT ANY AGE?

ANSWER: YES, in many African countries, they are advertising to circumcise men for FREE

-Christians abandoned the religion of Jesus and followed Paul
-he destroyed the religion of Jesus

MEN WHO ARE NOT CIRCUMCISED ARE NOT BETTER THAN A DOG BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT CLEAN

Circumcision does not adversely affect their s-x lives

-women prefer it!
-Sikh women prefer Muslim men b/c they are circumcised
-some men kill their wives because of FATAL ATTRACTION
-he says to his wife: if you leave me, I will kill you
-he doesn't want another man to enjoy his wife
-sometimes he kills the wife and himself

WOMEN HAVE SO MANY PROBLEMS FACING THEM, SUCH AS:

LOVELESS MARRIAGES
LAZY HUSBANDS
FORCED MARRIAGES [USUALLY IN PAKISTAN, INDIA, ARAB COUNTRIES]
VERBAL ABUSE
PHYSICAL ABUSE
UNGRATEFUL HUSBANDS
INCOMPETENT HUSBANDS IN THE BEDROOM

-[PERFORMANCE IS DISMAL / SOMETIMES THEY ARE SELFISH]
-some have small genitalia
-some ejaculate too quickly
-some do not do foreplay

INCEST [which is rife in the west] - see Genesis (from the Bible)
Father, grandfather, step-father, brothers and uncles = impose incest on women in the west

RAPE
ABANDONMENT

-all problems women face today

UNREASONABLE PARENTS [OLD MAIDS because their fathers ask for too high dowry]

FGM [female genital mutilation]
SERVANTS TO THEIR CHILDREN [kids boss their kids around
-that is one sign of the last days

(Genesis 19:30-38) King James Version
30. And Lot went up out of Zoar, and dwelt in the mountain, and his two daughters with him; for he feared to dwell in Zoar: and he dwelt in a cave, he and his two daughters.

31. And the firstborn said unto the younger, Our father is old, and there is not a man in the earth to come in unto us after the manner of all the earth:

32. Come, let us make our father drink wine, and we will lie with him, that we may preserve seed of our father.

33. And they made their father drink wine that night: and the firstborn went in, and lay with her father; and he perceived not when she lay down, nor when she arose.

34. And it came to pass on the morrow, that the firstborn said unto the younger, Behold, I lay yester night with my father: let us make him drink wine this night also; and go thou in, and lie with him, that we may preserve seed of our father.

35. And they made their father drink wine that night also: and the younger arose, and lay with him; and he perceived not when she lay down, nor when she arose.

36. Thus were both the daughters of Lot with child by their father.

37. And the first born bare a son, and called his name Moab: the same is the father of the Moabites unto this day.

38. And the younger, she also bares a son, and called his name Benammi: the same is the father of the children of Ammon unto this day.



QUESTION: WHAT ARE THE WEAKNESSES FACING WOMEN TODAY?

ANSWER: WEAKNESS OF CHARACTER

1 UNGRATEFUL TO HER HUSBAND

-this will cause women to enter the Hellfire is to be ungrateful to their husbands
-she always wants more and more

The Prophet said, "I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." Bukhari Volume I, No. 28.

2 FLIRTING

If I were to command anyone to make prostration before another I would command women to prostrate themselves before their husbands, because of the special right over them given to husbands by Allah. [Hadith: Sunan Abu Dawud, 11:2135]

3 GOSSIPING

It is reported from Hudhaifa that news reached him (the Prophet) that a certain man carried tales. Upon this Hudhaifa remarked: I heard Allaah's Messenger (sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam) saying: The tale-bearer shall not enter Paradise. [The Book of Faith No. 189 Muslim]

4 SPITEFUL

-HELL HAS NO FURY LIKE A WOMAN SCORNED

5 THEY REVEAL THEIR S-X SECRETS FROM THEIR S-X LIVES W/ HUSBANDS
-that info should remain in the bedroom

On the authority of Asmaa bint Yazid who narrated "that she was once in the presence of the Prophet and there were both men and women sitting. The Prophet then said: "Perhaps a man might discuss what he does with his wife, or perhaps a woman might inform someone what she did with her husband?" The people were silent Then I said: "O, Yes! O Messenger of Allaah verily both the women and men do that." Then the Prophet said: "Do not do that. It is like a male shaitaan who meets a female shaitaan along the way, and has sex with her while the people look on!" [Ahmad: Hasan or Saheeh due to supports]

6 ENVY

-they like to look down upon each other

The Prophet (pbuh) said: “Do not eavesdrop or spy on one another. Do not rival and envy one another nor despise and shun one another. Be worshippers of Allah and be brothers as Allah has commanded you to be.” [Sahîh al-Bukhârî (5144) and Sahîh Muslim (2563) with the wording as related by Muslim]