Tuesday, January 17, 2012

Q&A Diseases Of The Heart [Part2]

(27/12/11)

Diseases Of The Heart [Part2]

Question 1: Is a Muslim allowed to look into 2 marital prospects at the same time, so that whichever one works out he would go for it, while having another one as back up?
Answer 1:
It is not good to be checking out two sisters at the same time. If one lets you down go to another one. Unless if the sisters agree for polygamy. It’s not haram but it is makrooh.

Question 2: Assalamu alaikum sheikh, what should i do if someone praises me apart from saying Alhamdulillah and am i allowed to tell people not to praise me jzk?
Answer 2:
There is a hadith that says you should praise your brother behind his back. This is because it might cause him to have pride if it is done in his presence. However, the prophet (saw) use to speak good about sahabahs to encourage them.

Narrated by Abu said Al-khudri Allah’s apostle said, "the person who has favored me most of all both with his company and wealth, is Abu Bakr. If i were to take a khalil other than my Lord, i would have taken Abu Bakr as such, but (what relates us) is the islamic brotherhood and friendliness. all the gates of the mosque should be closed except the gate of Abu Bakr." [bukhari and muslim]

If his intention is to encourage you he is not doing anything wrong. You can’t sweet talk a person to love you and then you use them for material gains ingratiate yourself = make someone love you for their own material gains (buttering them up). it is to use the person.

Uqbah Ibn Aamir (ra) reported that allah’s messenger (saw) said, “if there were to be a prophet after me then he would be umar ibn al-khattab.” [ahmed 17410]

Abu Musa reported that the prophet (saw), heard a man praise another man and he was using exaggeration in his praise of him. The prophet (saw), said, "you have destroyed ¬ or broken ¬ the man's back." [al-bukhari (5337) and muslim (7141)]

Question 3: Salaam, Islamically, what exactly is the heart? Is it the physical organ on its own, or is it mixed with the brain or soul?
Answer 3:
The heart is not the organ on its own it’s mixed with the brain and soul.

"There is in the body a clump of flesh, if it becomes good, the whole body becomes good and if it becomes bad, the whole body becomes bad. And indeed it is the heart." [bukhari, volume 1, book 2, number 49]

If the lump of flesh in your bosom is pure then you are pure. The heart is separate from the soul & brain. Sometimes when spoken about in spiritual manner it includes soul and brain.

Question 4: My parents are not Muslim and they celebrate new year they want me to buy them a lamb with their money so they can cook it, am i allowed to buy it for them or should i tell them to buy it themselves?
Answer 4:
To celebrate New Year is not shirk; to celebrate Christmas is. Sheikh said it is not shirk because this is when the year begins. Christmas is a religious holiday, unlike New Year is beginning of the solar calendar. This was given to sheikh by his sheikh. You may have your own opinion.

Question 5: Sheikh i want to get married but personally i want a dual heritage woman, that is my preference, i was wondering if you could set me up with a sister that you may know who is available?
Answer 5:
If you can’t find a dual heritage women go for a Pakistani/Bengali they have same features. Ask your local sheikh. You need to marry who you are attracted to.

Then marry (other) women of your choice, two or three, or four but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one or (the captives and the slaves) that your right hands possess. That is nearer to prevent you from doing injustice. (an-nisa 4:3)

Question 6: If Nato didn't help the Libyan’s what do you think would have happen?
Answer 6:
If nato didn't help the Libyans, Gadhafi would of killed more of the people. We are yet to see what their aim is. Libya has the most oil reserve in Africa. Bashar al Asad is worse than Gadhafi, he’s killing 500 Syrians a day. His soldiers blow people’s heads of with their guns. Syria does not have large oil reserves. Let’s see if nato move against Syria. To do this isn’t simple. Syria has allies and Gadhafi was isolated.

Question 7: Sheikh if one says super power without intentionally meaning that indeed they are super powers but it’s just habit of the tongue, does one get sins for it?
Answer 7:
Not sin but shirk. You have to say so called super power. When you live in the west you don’t notice or pay attention. Allah is the one and only super power. There was a man called 'superman' he dropped of his horse and broke his back. He was in a wheelchair until he died. we say "la hawla wala quwwata illa billah" (Allah is the only superpower. Allah always make example of men that set themselves as a fitna.)

Teddy Pendergrass with transgender person during car accident:
http://answers.encyclopedia.com/question/were-rumors-teddy-pendergrass-accident-358964.html

Question 8: Why can't women in Saudi drive whereas the other women in the gulf drive? Rasuallah (saws) used to let the sahabiyyat ride camels and said the women of Quraish were the best of women because they were good to their husbands and rode camels.
Answer 8:
This is a personal individual judgment. This is not Islamic. It’s based upon culture. If a women drives she hasn’t done anything wrong. It’s not illegal in Saudi- but the police stop them. Saudi Arabia has no written ban on women driving.

Prince's wife drives in Saudi: www.theatlanticwire.com/global/.../saudi-prince...driving/43080/

Abu Huraira reported Allah’s messenger (saw) as saying: good amongst the women are those who ride camels. one of them said: they are pious women of the Quraish, and the other one said: the women of the Quraish are kind to the orphans in their childhood and look after the wealth of their spouses. [sahih muslim, hadith #6137]

Question 9: I heard the atheist Europeans started celebrating new year’s because they used to look at it as another year of a battle won against nature in living another year because they don't believe in Allah and that he has decreed when we die, is that shirk?
Answer 9:
If this is their aim then it is shirk. If you begin your year with lunar or solar calendar, it doesn’t matter because time belongs to Allah. We can’t say they are at war with nature.

Question 10: Sheikh, to celebrate New Year’s is to imitate the kufaar is that permissible?
Answer 10:
We are not celebrating. this will be going overboard.