Friday, May 4, 2012

-311- Personality Disorders [Part 2]

PERSONALITY DISORDERS
ADHD, OCD AND BIPOLAR
by Shaikh Abdullah El Faisal
05.03.2012 (Evening Dars)




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NOTES typed LIVE by AT-21, AT-42 and AT-7
Edited and Formatted by AT-5

Bismillah…

The reason Shaikh is covering this topic is because most Muslims here live in darul harb
-so we suffer from diseases the kuffaar suffer, we need to recognize these disorders
-it will help us decided whether to marry someone or not, such as if they have ADHD

ADHA - ATTENTION DEFICIT HYPERACTIVE DISORDER
-this is when a child is more inattentive or more hyperactive
-than he ought to be compared to his peers
-in one school in Halifax (2005), the school was shut down because of the behaviour of 1 child
-their behaviour interrupts everyone and everything

SYMPTOMS OF ADHA Disorder:

1. FAILS TO PAY ATTENTION TO DETAILS
-and makes careless mistakes in school and work
-the average attention span is 45 min

2. HAVE DIFFICULTY TO SUSTAIN ATTENTION

3. DO NOT LISTEN WHEN BEING SPOKEN TO DIRECTLY

4. FAIL TO FOLLOW INSTRUCTIONS
-they leave work half done

THERE IS HYPERACTIVITY DISORDER FOR CHILDREN AND ADULTS AND THESE ARE SEPARATE DISORDERS
ADHD and AHAD = one for kids and one for adults

5. UNABLE TO BE ORGANIZED WITH A TASK OF ACTIVITY

6. DISLIKE TASKS THAT REQUIRE SUSTAINED MENTAL EFFORT

7. OFTEN FORGET AND LOSE THINGS

8. EASILY DISTRACTED AND UNABLE TO MAINTAIN FOCUS
-the key word is "easily"

Shaikh worked in a school room as part of his education program in Saudi
-he taught kids and had no trouble with attention and the kids had NO attention problems
-this is a western phenomenon

9. UNABLE TO SIT STILL FOR EVEN SHORT PERIODS OF TIME
-they fidget all the time; cannot be still or focus

10. ALWAYS ON THE GO AS IF TO SAY HE IS DRIVEN BY A MOTOR

11. TALKS EXCESSIVELY

12. DIFFICULTY WAITING THEIR TURN

13. ANSWER BEFORE THE QUESTION IS EVEN COMPLETED

14. INTRUDE ON OTHERS AND BUTTS INTO OTHERS CONVERSATIONS

So if your child has ADHD, with the symptoms we have been giving you
-you will be able to know if your child suffers with any of these

WHY IS ADHD PANDEMIC IN THE WEST?
-because the kaafir women of the West when they are pregnant they smoke, drink etc
-when you drink and smoke the unborn child takes this in also through the umbilical cored
-these kids are brain damaged
-Muslim women are decent women
-this is why ADHD is not pandemic in the Muslims countries but rather in the west

OCD (OBSESSIVE COMPULSIVE DISORDER)
The person feels to be driven to do the same thing over and over again like a ritual
-when you read a book on this
-you may see a photo of a man washing his hands over and over again
-because he feels that he may have bacteria on his hands
-this is an example of OCD

-you are obsessed with a same thing
-these patients are obsessed and compelled together
-these people who suffer OCD when they throw out the garbage
-they check it re-over in case they threw out anything useful
-also when one parks a car, they check so many times if its done right
-if one goes on vacation
-they keep going back to their houses to check if the stove or lights are turned off

-Sometimes a person may have a stockpile of magazines/newspapers from the 1960's
-he may not even have space in his house to walk
-but he keeps these things in his house that should be thrown away

OCD is the 4th most common disorder in the world today
-these people pay high attention to details, they are perfectionist
-this is because when they were growing up with their parents
-they did not allow them to have mistakes
-they were groomed to keep everything in the right place
-and were disciplined if they did not comply

The man who killed his 3 year old daughter for forgetting to flush a toilet
-one mistake is not acceptable by people with OCD

Junaid Abuhamza: At the age of five he watched his three-year-old sister beaten to death by his tyrannical father. She had forgotten to flush the lavatory:
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/crime/7318363/Khyra-Ishaq-Junaid-Abuhamza-and-Angela-Gordon.html

A person suffering from OCD plans carefully, meticulously before they take a move
-and they never take a move until they are satisfied

They have an exaggerated sense
-because they do not want to get anything wrong
-because they are perfectionist, they fear allocating duties to others
-assuming that the others will not get it right
-so take on heavy workload and do everything themselves unnecessarily

An obsession is a thought that keeps coming back even though you make an effort to avoid it
-OCD patients can be obsessed with certain types of things like cars crashing etc.
-and they go to the internet to look for these gruesome pictures and violent deaths

This person may even be obsessed with raping strange women
-to the extent that he becomes a serial rapist
-all the serial types maybe due to such obsession
-and even though he knows the FBI are looking for him he cannot stop

Sometimes the person is obsessed with a celebrity
-to the extent that the celebrity goes to the police to get a restraining order for this person
-sometimes he maybe obsessed with kids and so given a restraining order not to go near schools
-so the obsession can be due to craving or fear

OCD has become more dangerous with proliferation of the internet
-so the FBI are forced to go to the internet to make a trap for this person
-he acts as a child and then chats with this person and makes an appointment
-this leads to the arrest of the person

A serial killer is excited when a person begs for his life before he kills them
-this makes them feel like they are the Angel of death and makes them feel powerful
-they find it exciting to see a fully grown man crying and begging for his life
-what a dangerous obsession

REASONS WHY PEOPLE SUFFER FROM OCD
There are mild forms of OCD like nail picking
-others are major forms like checking the cooker repeatedly
-or if the front door is closed repeatedly out of fear of being burgled

These psychologist and psychiatrist (SHRINK) admit that they do not know the cause for OCD
-and they hypothesise that there is a chemical imbalance in the brain

BIPOLAR BORDERLINE DISORDER

-the word bi means 2 and polar is talking about the north and south poles
-so a person suffering from bipolar disorder has mood swings
-that go from one extreme to the other extreme
-when the person is happy that episode is called mania
-and when the person is sad it is called depression
-so this disorder used to be called manic depressive disorder

These people have mood swings
-they go from being a very happy and hyperactive person
-to a very depressed person

These moods swings can last for days or even longer
-and the mood changes are so grave it interferes with their functions in society
-so he might quit a job impulsively, when he is in the manic episode
-or go shopping for things they do not need
-and will admit they do not know why they bought those things
-concerning these people Allah said;

And give not unto the foolish your property which Allah has made a means of support for you, but feed and clothe them therewith, and speak to them words of kindness and justice. (An-Nisa 4:5)

-Allah said do not give your wealth to the sufahaa (fools)
-the tafsir is, do not give your wealth to kids before they reach puberty
-sufahaa means a fool and can be male or female
-so these people need handlers to spend their wealth for them

You are not allowed to give a bipolar woman your credit card
-and even her wealth has to be spent for her by her husband or her father or brother
-but if she is not bipolar, she should be allowed to spend her own wealth
-however she is not allowed to spend more than a third of her wealth without her husband

Sometimes the bipolar person is very intelligent
-and this caused them to be overlooked or misdiagnosed
-because no one was expecting them to have this condition
-so their condition deteriorate

Personality disorders do not discriminate against race, class, tribe, nationality
-people sometimes discriminate against the poor
-but what about Winona Rider who is suffering from kleptomania
-this woman is rich but was caught shoplifting, so it is not only poor people that steal

The narcissist disorder is found in all people
-also megalomania, Nimrod and Firaun suffered from this disorder, they thought they were Allah
-so rich and powerful people also have many personality disorders

Gaddafi was considered as one of the sufahaa
-he wasted billions of dollars on the kuffaar to buy love
-and neglected the infrastructure of his country
-if you are not God-fearing you are going to have multiple personality disorders

Hali Berry's husband had a sex addiction
-he cannot resist any woman, they have clinics for such people
-where they talk about their experiences to a therapist

So whether you are rich or poor, upper or low class if you do not fear Allah
-you are going to be stricken by many personality disorders

Why Muslims have mental disorders?
-if you do not practice your deen, you will suffer from these
-because these disorders do not discriminate against religion also

The mental hospitals have male and female patients mixed
-so they may rape each other
-when you have multiple personality disorders
-it causes your character to be repellent and obnoxious

Some bipolar patients are very successful and they are in successful marriages
-you just need a man who has sabr to bear all the things you do

WHAT IS THE ISLAMIC RULING ON LIVING WITH A BIPOLARD
-it is permissible if the person is not violent because these people have their needs
-so you cannot say do not marry them, this will leave them to fornicate
-so you can marry them if they are not violent and can be managed

These people are in the depressive episode most of the time even though they have mania
-it also affects your energy level
-your judgement, memory, appetite, sleeping pattern, concentration, libido and self-esteem
-it has also been linked to anxiety disorders, substance abuse
-also linked to health problems like HBP, migraine, and diabetes

People with bipolar disorder are encouraged to go for therapy
-regular exercise, to get enough sleep, eat properly
-and stay away from people and environments that will induce stress
-they should surround themselves with supportive and pious people that are caring
-as Allah said;

O you who believe! Be afraid of Allah, and be with those who are true (in words and deeds). (At-Tawbah 9:119)

-by being in the company of pious people you would not be stressed
-and trigger the depressive episodes
-it is best if these people take their family member or husband when seeing a doctor
-because they are embarrassed and hide some symptoms
-so you should never allow them to go see a doctor alone

SYMPTOMS OF THE MANIA EPISODE (HAPPY EPISODE)
1. FEELING OF HIGH ENERGY

2. CREATIVITY

3. EUPHORIA

4. TALKS AND LAUGHS A LOT

5. SLEEPS VERY LITTLE

6. VERY HYPERACTIVE

7. FEELS POWERFUL, INVINCIBLE AND DESTINED TO GREATNESS

A mania episode might feel good sometimes, but might get out of proportion
-they may indulge in excessive spending
-they gamble their life-savings away and cannot justify why they did so

And give not unto the foolish your property… (An-Nisa 4:5)

-sufahaa - stupid males/females (not gender specific)
-they make stupid bizarre episodes when they are in this episode
-so con artist look out for these people
-like con artist who always look out for vulnerable people
-the con artists say we could see him coming
-they are also impaired in their judgement and impulsive
-and so the con artist see them as right people

SYMPTOMS OF DEPRESSIVE EPISODES
1. THE PERSON GETS ANGRY EASILY, IRRITABILITY
- the prophet said;

Abu Huraira reported Allah's Messenger (SAW) as saying: "The strong-man is not one who wrestles well but the strong man is one who controls himself when he is in a fit of rage." [al-Bukhari (6114) and Muslim (2609)]

Abu Huraira (RA) reported that a man came to the Prophet (SAW) and said, Teach me something but do not make it much on me perchance I might remember it. He said, “Do not lose your temper.” He repeated that often and every time he said, “Do not lose your temper". [Bukhari 6116, Muslim 2608, Tirmidhi 2027]

2. THE FEELING OF GULIT

3. UNPREDICTABILITY

4. FEELING OF RESTLESSNESS

5. THEY SLEEP A LOT AND GAIN WEIGHT

6. THEY HAVE LOW SELF-ESTEEM

7. THEY ARE UNABLE TO EXPERIENCE PLEASURE

8. THEY HAVE PHYSICAL AND MENTAL SLUGGISHNESS

Anas Ibn Malik narrated the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: "A believer is shrewd, sharp and careful." [Quda'ee (d. 454 H) in 'Musnad al-Shihab' (Vol. 1 pg. 107) No. 128]

-the rasul (SAW) said a believer is supposed to be shrewd and sharp
-can you imagine being sluggishness in an environment of con artist

9. SUICIDAL
-and they do not discuss their suicidal thoughts