Friday, May 18, 2012

-313- Personality Disorders [Part 3]

PERSONALITY DISORDERS
NARCISSISTIC
by Shaikh Abdullah Faisal
05.06.2012 (Evening Dars)




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Bismillah…

TODAY WE WILL DISCUSS THE NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER
-this is when a person is obsessed with vanity, his own power and prestige
-this was known as megalomania previously
-this person is very selfish and has an ego problem
-he likes to be the centre of attraction
-some of the most famous sufferers of this disease were the Nimrod
-Allah spoke about it

Have you not looked at him who disputed with Ibrahim (Abraham) about his Lord (Allah), because Allah had given him the kingdom? When Ibrahim (Abraham) said (to him): "My Lord (Allah) is He Who gives life and causes death." He said, "I give life and cause death." Ibrahim (Abraham) said, "Verily! Allah causes the sun to rise from the east; then cause it you to rise from the west." So the disbeliever was utterly defeated. And Allah guides not the people, who are Zalimun (wrong-doers, etc.). (Al-Baqarah 2:258)

Allah gave him the kingdom and he turned to a narcissist
-this person was such a narcissist that he thought he had the powers of Allah
-that was why when Abraham (AS) told him my Lord gives lives and takes lives
-he said he could also do the same
-so Abraham said to him my Lord causes the sun to rise from the east to the west
-but he could not do this and was defeated

Have you not looked at him who disputed with Ibrahim (Abraham) about his Lord (Allah), because Allah had given him the kingdom? When Ibrahim (Abraham) said (to him): "My Lord (Allah) is He Who gives life and causes death." He said, "I give life and cause death." Ibrahim (Abraham) said, "Verily! Allah causes the sun to rise from the east; then cause it you to rise from the west." So the disbeliever was utterly defeated. And Allah guides not the people, who are Zalimûn (wrong-doers, etc.). (Al-Baqarah 2:258)

You are living in a narcissist society in the West
-and their mentors are Nimrod and the pharaoh
-and they show a lot of movies about the pharaoh and Egypt
-they always glorify him when they show documentaries about him

Fir'aun was the other narcissist
-so Allah said;

Then he gathered his people and cried aloud, (An-Nazi'at 79:23)

Saying: "I am your lord, most high", (An-Nazi'at 79:24)

-this person was such a narcissist not even the shaytan made such a claim
-he said to his people 'I am your lord the most high'
-the shaytan is also a narcissist but he did not reach that level to declare himself lord

A narcissist is an opportunist
-he likes to use people and then dump them when he is done
-a narcissist hardly accepts his fault
-and some of them are suffering from a god complex

There are 3 complexes
1. superiority complex
2. inferiority complex
3. god complex

Researchers who studied this disorder say
-that the narcissist feels insecure and inferior deep inside
-even though outwardly he displays a superiority complex and this they got right

They fight not against you even together, except in fortified townships, or from behind walls. Their enmity among themselves is very great. You would think they were united, but their hearts are divided, that is because they are a people who understand not. (Al-Hashr 59:14)

And they belied them (those Ayat) wrongfully and arrogantly, though their ownselves were convinced thereof [i.e. those (Ayat) are from Allah, and Musa (Moses) is the Messenger of Allah in truth, but they disliked to obey Musa (Moses), and hated to believe in his Message of Monotheism]. So see what was the end of the Mufsidun (disbelievers, disobedient to Allah, evil-doers, liars.). (An-Naml 27:14)

-their problem is they are very skilful in diagnosing the problem but they do not know the cause
-they do not know the causes of schizophrenia, OCD etc
-they also do not know the solution to the problem, which is Islam

All they do is put you on antidepressants that do not work
-they making money out of people

Another person suffering from this disorder
-to be big headed and over grandiose are the Shi'ites imams
-they say their imams are gods and write it in their books
-because they want people to worship them

SHIA HUJJAH: Imams are God (Jila-ul-Ayoun, Vol. No. 2, Page No. 85)

The spiritual status of the imam is the universal divine vice-gerency that is sometimes mentioned by the imams (peace be upon them). It is a vice-gerency pertaining to the whole of creation, by virtue of which all the atoms in the universe humble themselves before the holder of authority (imams). It is one of the essential beliefs of our Shia school that no one can attain the spiritual status of the imams, not even the cherubim or the prophets. Imam Khomeini, Islam and Revolution: Writings and Declarations of Imam Khomeini, (Berkeley: Mizaan Press, 1981)

SHIA HUJJAH: The Imams know when they will die, and they only die by their choice. (Al Kafi vol.1 p.258 )

-they elevate their imams above Allah and above the prophets
-Khomeini wrote this in his book
-but their imam Hassan ate food that had poison
-if he was God, how comes he did not know it had poison?
-if he had knowledge of the unseen, why did he eat the food with poison?
-this means he committed suicide
-when you have the disease of hypocrisy you are vulnerable and open to many viruses

Another person with this disorder was Abdullah ibn Ubai ibn Salool and it destroyed him
-he used to be called king Salool
-but this was taken away when the prophet came to Madina
-so he carried a permanent grudge in his heart for rasul (SAW) until he died

And never (O Muhammad SAW) pray (funeral prayer) for any of them (hypocrites) who dies, nor stand at his grave. Certainly they disbelieved in Allah and His Messenger, and died while they were Fasiqun (rebellious, - disobedient to Allah and His Messenger SAW). (At-Tawbah 9:84)

Ibn Umar (RA) narrated: Abdullah son of Abdullah ibn Ubayy came to Allah’s Messenger (SAW) when his father died, and said, ‘Give me your shirt that I may shroud him in it, and offer his funeral Salah and seek forgiveness for him.” So, he gave him his shirt and said, “When you are over (with preparations), call me.” When he intended to offer the Salah, Umar pulled him, saying, “Has not Allah forbidden us to pray over the hypocrites?” He said, “I am between two options either to seek forgiveness for them or not to seek forgiveness for them”, and he offered Salah over him. So Allah revealed. "And never offer a prayer on any one of them who dies, and do not stand by his grave." (9:84) [Bukhari 1229, Muslim 2774, Tirmidhi 3109, Ahmed 4680, Nisai 1899,1523]

Another person was Adolf Hitler
-when you read the symptoms of the narcissist
-you will see all the men mentioned had this disorder because they all elevate themselves
-even above Allah e.g. the Shi'ites, their situation is so pathetic

SHIA HUJJAH: “Allah often lies and does mistakes” [Usool-al-Kafi, page 328, Yacoob Kulayni, Vol. 1]

SHIA HUJJAH: All the Imams are infallible just like the prophets. The Shia derives their religion from their immaculate (infallible) Imams" (Usool al Kafi, p. 22)

When a person is a narcissist he thinks highly of himself
-and he exaggerate his abilities
-e.g. Hitler attacked America, Russia and UK simultaneously
-how can you do this?

Falkland Islands War: http://www.falklandswar.org.uk/

The holy prophet (SAW) did not suffer from this disorder
-because when he was marching at the battle of Badr he camped at a spot
-and a Sahabah advised him to change the spot and camp at the wells of Badr
-and he accepted his opinion and this brought success to the army

In Battle of Badr, the Prophet (SAW) and his Companions were deployed in the nearest place to Badr's wells. But Companion Hubab ibn al-Mundhir (RA) was not satisfied with this. With great politeness he said: "O Messenger of Allah (SAW), has Allah inspired you to choose this very spot or is it stratagem of war and the product of consultation?" The Prophet (SAW) replied: "It is stratagem of war and consultation." Al-Hubab said: "This place is no good; let us go and encamp on the nearest water well and make a basin or reservoir full of water, then destroy all the other wells so that they will be deprived of the water." The Prophet (SAW) approved of his plan and agreed to carry it out. [Ibn Hisham: al-Sirah al-Nabawiyyah, 1/620; Ibn Kathir: al-Sirah al-Nabawiyyah, 2/402; al-Suhayli: al-Rawd al-Anif, 3/62; and al-Tabary: Tarikh al-Umam wa al-Muluk, 2-29]

A narcissist never takes advice from anybody
-his opinion should always be acted upon
-but the prophet never had this

When Quraish wanted to attack Madina, Salman al Farisi advised the prophet to dig a ditch
-a strategy they used in Persia where he was from
-and the prophet accepted his opinion and they dug the trench
-this is another example to prove he does not have this disorder

A narcissist sees no grey area
-everything for them is black and white
-George Bush Jr. is a typical example of a narcissist
-he said you are either with us or with the terrorist
-but your America is the biggest terrorist so we are not with you, neither with them
-but they do not want this because he wants you to be with them

Another one is Jim Jones

JIM JONES: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jim_Jones

-he went to Guyana and told his people that judgment day has come
-but when it did not happen and he did not want to be proven wrong
-he gave his cult Kool-Aid with poison and they all died
-he even poisoned himself to prove that judgment day did come and ‘I cannot be wrong’

David Koresh is another example
-the FBI killed all the people in his compound

DAVID KORESH: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/David_Koresh

Timothy McVeigh had his friend among the victims

Timothy McVeigh: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Timothy_McVeigh

-so he took revenge for it, he did the Oklahoma bombing
-the kuffaar at first blamed the Muslims for this
-but even after finding out, Muslims did not, they never apologised

Narcissist disorder got its name from a Greek man
-he was called Narcissus
-he would look at himself in the pool of water
-because he was very handsome and he died in that state
-so he thought no woman was worthy of him and he died and never got married
-so a person suffering from this disorder spends many hours in front of the mirror
-full of self grandioseness
-and they cannot be early because they spend a lot of time in front of the mirror

SYMPTOMS OF NARCISSIST PERSONALITY DISORDER

1. BIG HEADED

2. PROUD ARROGANT AND SELFISH

3. REACTS ANGRILY TO CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM
-even if he writes an essay that was boring, you cannot tell him that

4. HE FINDS IT DIFFICULT TO BE IN EMPATHY WITH OTHER PEOPLE

5. HIS BODY LANGUAGE IS VERY HAUGHTY
-when he walks along the road, he does so as if it is not good enough for him to walk on
-even though Allah said;

And the slaves of the Most Beneficent (Allah) are those who walk on the earth in humility and sedateness, and when the foolish address them (with bad words) they reply back with mild words of gentleness. (Al-Furqan 25:63)

-he walks in a proud and arrogant manner, he cannot walk with humility
-even though it is haram to walk in a proud manner
-except in the battlefield because Abu Dujana did so at the battle of Uhud
-he took the sword from the prophet and walked as if he was dancing

6. HE FINDS IT DIFFICULT TO BE ON LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIPS
-because he does not give a damn about his wife
-it is all about him
-‘me, myself and I’

7. HE USES PEOPLE TO REACH HIS GOALS AND THEN DUMPS THEM WITHOUT CARING ABOUT THE DIRE CONSEQUENCES
-you need to join a study circle and have good akhlaq
-darul harb turns you into a lowlife scum of the earth

8. DETESTING THOSE WHO REFUSE TO ADMIRE HIM

9. SLANDERING THOSE WHO GO AGAINST HIS AGENDA
-Fox news are not ashamed of their racism
-the kuffaar should've apologised to the Muslims, when they accused them of bombing
-but they did not e.g. Oklahoma bombing and Norway massacre
-they didn't apologise because they are suffering from Narcissism

10. BRAGGING AND EXAGGERATING ABOUT THEIR ABILITIES AND ACHIEVEMENTS
-so they will brag about their military because they are living in Cuckoo Land

11. THEY ARE UNABLE TO VIEW THE WORLD FROM THE OPINION OF OTHERS
-he will say to his wife it is either my way or the motor way

12. THEY ARE SENSITIVE TO CRITICISM AND VULNERABLE TO SHAME
-this is because they think they are always right and want to be praised 24/7

13. THEY ENVY THE ABILITIES OF OTHERS

14. THEY HAVE A FEELING OF ENTITLEMENT TO SPECIAL TREATMENT
-so they would want to be served with a special cup at a gathering
-and sit where everyone can see them
-and the person who does not give them this will be attacked by them

15. SOME OF THEM ARE LOUD- MOUTH IN ORDER TO BE SEEN BY OTHERS

16. COCKY, SELF CENTERED AND MANIPULATIVE OF OTHERS

17. VERY SELFISH, LOVE OF VANITY AND DRIVEN BY POWER MOTIVES

18. AN ABNORMAL LOVE FOR MIRRORS
-so he spends more time to go out
-he adores himself physically and mentally
-this is why Hitler refused to give Jesse Owens his medal
-because he was a black man who defeated the athletes in Germany

Jesse Owens: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jesse_Owens