Friday, January 4, 2013

-443- Hadeeth Number 32


By Shaikh Abdullah Faisal
11.25.2012 (Night Dars)

NOTES typed by AT3 and AT7
Edited and Formatted by AT38 and AT7



الحديث الثاني والثلاثون
«عن أبي سعيد سعد بن مالك بن سنان الخدري رضي الله تعالى عنه أن رسول الله صلى الله وعليه وآله وسلم قال: لا ضرر ولا ضرار» .
حديث حسن، رواه ابن ماجة والدارقطني وغيرهما مسندا. ورواه مالك في الموطإ مرسلا عن عمرو بن يحيى عن أبيه عن النبي صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم، فأسقط أبا سعيد، وله طرق يقوي بعضها بعضا.
On the authority of Abu Sa’eed al-Khudree (RA), that the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: There should be neither harming (darar) nor reciprocating harm (dirar).A hasan Hadith related by Ibn Majah, ad-Daraqutnee and others as a musnad Hadith. It was also related by Malik in al-Muwatta in mursal form from Amr bin Yahya, from his father from the Prophet (SAW), but leaving Abu Sa’eed from the chain. And it has other chains of narrations that strengthen one another.

By looking at the hadith it could be a long sharh
-because of the various types of harms
-spiritual/physical/emotional/verbal/psychological, financial harming also

Therefore you have harming that takes place between:
-husband and wife
-parents and kids
-ameer and his subjects

-when you call a person by offensive nicknames

O you who believe! Let not a group scoff at another group, it may be that the latter are better than the former; nor let (some) women scoff at other women, it may be that the latter are better than the former, nor defame one another, nor insult one another by nicknames. How bad is it, to insult one's brother after having Faith [i.e. to call your Muslim brother (a faithful believer) as: "O sinner", or "O wicked", etc.]. And whosoever does not repent, then such are indeed Zalimun (wrong-doers, etc.). (Al-Hujurat 49:11)

-you can call a person by nickname if the person doesn't mind
-Abu Hurairah was given a nickname by the prophet (saw) because he loved cats
-Ali (r.a) was given the name Abu Turaab (father of dirt)
-because he once rolled in the sand
-if they are offended you cannot call them by that nickname
-it is not allowed to ridicule someone or to laugh at them

-saying something about a person that he does not like even if it is the truth

Abu Huraira reported Allah's Messenger (SAW) as saying: Do you know what is backbiting? They (the Companions) said: Allah and His Messenger know best. Thereupon he (the Holy Prophet) said: Backbiting implies your talking about your brother in a manner which he does not like. It was said to him: What is your opinion about this that if I actually find (that failing) in my brother which I made a mention of? He said: If (that failing) is actually found (in him) what you assert, you in fact backbited him, and if that is not in him it is a slander. [Sahih Muslim (4/2001) No. 2589, Sunan Abu Dawud (4/269) No. 4874, Sunan Tirmidhi (4/329) No. 1934, Musnad Ahmad (2/384) No. 8973]

O you who believe! Avoid much suspicions, indeed some suspicions are sins. And spy not, neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting). And fear Allāh. Verily, Allāh is the One Who accepts repentance, Most Merciful. (Al-Hujurat 49:12)

It has been reported that a man was brought before Abdullah bin Mas'ud (RA) because his beard was giving out smell of wine. Ibn Mas'ud said: "We have been prohibited from spying (on Muslims) and finding faults (with them). But if something is clear to us, then we punish for it." [Sunan Abu Dawud (4/272-273) No. 4890]

-so ibn Mas'ood set the man free (above)
-even though they reported him to have drank alcohol

-this is worse than backbiting

Abu Huraira (RA) narrated the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: “Whoever has wronged his brother with regard to his honour or something, let him ask him for forgiveness before the time when there will be neither dinar nor dirham, and if he has any good deeds it will be taken from him in proportion to the wrong he did, and if he does not have any good deeds (hasanaat), some of the other person's evil deeds (sayi’aat) will be taken and given to him to bear.” [Sahih Bukhari (3/129) No. 2449]

-and if you slander someone Allah will never forgive you until he forgives you

So verbal harming is worse than physical harming
-because the honour of people is degraded
-when Aisha (r.a) was slandered, she got sick

-the Rasool (saw) passed by 2 men who were punished in their graves
-and one of them used to be a tale bearer

It is reported from Hudhaifa that news reached him (the Holy Prophet) that a certain man carried tales. Upon this Hudhaifa remarked: I heard Allah's Messenger (SAW) saying: "The tale-bearer shall not enter Paradise." [al-Bukhari (6056) and Muslim (189)]

Narrated By Ibn Abbas: The Prophet once passed by two graves, and those two persons (in the graves) were being tortured. He said, "They are being tortured not for a great thing (to avoid). One of them never saved himself from being soiled with his urine, while the other was going about with calumnies (to make enmity between friends). He then took a green leaf of a date-palm tree split it into two pieces and fixed one on each grave. The people said, "O Allah's Apostle! Why have you done so?" He replied, "I hope that their punishment may be lessened till they (the leaf) become dry." [Sahih Bukhari, Vol 2, Book 23, Hadith #443]

-this is when you speak to people and make them look down
-you take away their confidence
-this is why in Islam we call our kids by good names
-to avoid destroying them psychologically
-it will give them encouragement

Narrated By Abu Darda': The Prophet (SAW) said: "On the Day of Resurrection you will be called by your names and by your father's names, so give yourselves good names." [Sunan Abu Dawood (4/287) No. 4948, Sunan al-Darime (2/380) No. 2694, Musnad Ahmad (5/194) No. 21739 (isnaad daeef)]

Abu Wahb al-Jushami (RA), who was a companion of the Prophet (SAW), narrated the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: “Give your children the names of Prophets, and the most beloved of names to Allah are ‘Abdullah and ‘Abdur-Rahman, and the most truthful are Haarith and Hammaam [these names both refer to one who is always doing something, whether good or bad], and the worst are Harb and Murrah [meaning ‘war’ and ‘bitterness’ respectively].” [Sunan Abu Dawood (4/287) No. 4950, al-Bukhari in 'Adab al-Mufrad' No. 814 and Bayhaqi in 'al-Sunan al-Kubra' (9/514) No. 19307]

-nicknames destroy you psychologically
-you become a psychological wreck
-only be around people who love and respect you

-some parents make you feel inferior because you are a girl
-parents show love for one child over the other
-orphanage kids are emotionally damaged
-they were not given family love

Kiss every kid, not just one and leaving the other
-kids will hate each other if one is shown love and the other hatred

Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said: "Allah loves that you be just toward your children even when kissing them." Ibn Al-Najjar

Narrated By Abu Huraira: Allah's Apostle kissed Al-Hasan bin Ali while Al-Aqra' bin Habis At-Tamim was sitting beside him. Al-Aqra said, "I have ten children and I have never kissed anyone of them," Allah's Apostle cast a look at him and said, "Whoever is not merciful to others will not be treated mercifully." [Sahih Bukhari, Vol 8, Book 73, Hadith #026]

Jarir ibn 'Abdullah reported that the Messenger of Allah said, "If someone does not show mercy to people, Allah will not show mercy to him." [al-Bukhari (7376) and Muslim (2319)]

-for you to deprive your kids of love you destroy them emotionally

Narrated By Abu Aiyub Al-Ansari: Allah's Apostle said, "It is not lawful for a man to desert his brother Muslim for more than three nights. (It is unlawful for them that) when they meet, one of them turns his face away from the other, and the other turns his face from the former, and the better of the two will be the one who greets the other first." [Sahih Bukhari, Vol 8, Book 73, Hadith #100]

-you rip off your Muslim brothers

Abu Huraira narrated the Prophet (SAW) said: “The one who gets married with the intention not to pay dowry to his wife is a fornicator. And the one who borrows money with the intention not to pay back is a thief.” [Ibn Hibban in ‘al-Majruheen’ (2/261) No. 941]

Suhaib al-Khair narrated the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: "Any man who takes out a loan, having resolved not to pay it back, will meet Allah as a thief." [Sunan Ibn Majah (3/486) No. 2410]

-we have 6 sacred things and when you trample on them you harm your brothers
-some people borrow and don't pay back
-you agree to open business but rip him off

Those who are faithfully true to their Amanāt (all the duties which Allāh has ordained, honesty, moral responsibility and trusts etc.)[] and to their covenants; (Al-Mu'minun 23:8)

Anas Ibn Malik (RA) narrated the Messenger of Allah (SAW) has never preached us without saying: "There is no faith for the one who has no amanah (trust) and no religion for the one who does not keep his promises." [Musnad Ahmad (3/135) No. 12406, al-Sunan al-Kubra al-Bayhaqi (9/387) No. 18851]

-physical hurt: by fighting and killing each other

And whoever kills a believer intentionally, his recompense is Hell to abide therein, and the Wrath and the Curse of Allāh are upon him, and a great punishment is prepared for him. (An-Nisa 4:93)

Ibn Mas'ud reported that the Messenger of Allah (SAW), said, "Insulting a Muslim is going off the path (fusuq) and killing him is disbelief (kufr)." [al-Bukhari (48) and Muslim (64)]

Narrated By Abu Khirash as-Sulami: Abu Khirash heard the Apostle of Allah (SAW) say: "If one keeps apart from his brother for a year, it is like shedding his blood." [Sunan Abu Dawud (4/279) No. 4915, Musnad Ahmad (4/220) No. 17964, al-Adab al-Mufrad al-Bukhari No. 404, Mustadrak al-Haakim (4/180) No. 7292, Shu'ab al-Iman al-Bayhaqi (9/26) No. 6207, al-Mu’jam al-Kabir al-Tabarani (22/308) No. 780]

On the authority of Abu Hurayrah (RA), who said that the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: "The gates of Paradise will be opened on Mondays and on Thursdays, and every servant [of Allah] who associates nothing with Allah will be forgiven, except for the man who has a grudge against his brother. [About them] it will be said: 'Delay these two until they are reconciled; delay these two until they are reconciled.'" [Sahih Muslim (4/1987) No. 2565, Muwatta Malik (2/80) No. 1897, Sunan Abu Dawud (4/279) No. 4916]

Narrated By Al-Ahnaf bin Qais: While I was going to help this man ('Ali Ibn Abi Talib), Abu Bakra met me and asked, "Where are you going?" I replied, "I am going to help that person." He said, "Go back for I have heard Allah's Apostle saying, 'When two Muslims fight (meet) each other with their swords, both the murderer as well as the murdered will go to Hell-fire.' I said, 'O Allah's Apostle! It is all right for the murderer but what about the murdered one?' Allah's Apostle replied, “He surely had the intention to kill his companion.” Shahi Bukhari - Volume 1, Book 2, Belief Hadith 030

Because of that We ordained for the Children of Israel that if anyone killed a person not in retaliation of murder, or (and) to spread mischief in the land - it would be as if he killed all mankind, and if anyone saved a life, it would be as if he saved the life of all mankind. And indeed, there came to them Our Messengers with clear proofs, evidences, and signs, even then after that many of them continued to exceed the limits (e.g. by doing oppression unjustly and exceeding beyond the limits set by Allāh by committing the major sins) in the land!. (Al-Ma'idah 5:32)

-some target reverts to give a false version of Islam to corrupt them
-to give the wrong creed and destroy them spiritually
-by misleading them
-with erroneous ideas

Verily, those who divide their religion and break up into sects (all kinds of religious sects), you (O Muhammad SAW) have no concern in them in the least. Their affair is only with Allah, Who then will tell them what they used to do. (Al-An'am 6:159)

But they (men) have broken their religion among them into sects, each group rejoicing in its belief. (Al-Mu'minun 23:53)

Jareer ibn 'Abdullah al-Bajali (RA) said: "The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: 'Whoever starts a good thing and is followed by others, will have his own reward and a reward equal to that of those who follow him, without it detracting from their reward in any way. Whoever starts a bad thing and is followed by others, will bear the burden of his own sin and a burden equal to that of those who follow him, without it detracting from their burden in any way.'" [Sunan Tirmidhi (5/43) No. 2675, Sunan Ibn Majah (1/140) No. 203, Sahih Muslim (4/2059) No. 1017, Musnad Ahmad (4/357) No. 19179, Sunan An-Nasa'i (5/75) No. 2554]

Jareer ibn Abdullah narrated: "Some people from the Bedouin came to the Messenger of Allah (SAW), wearing woollen garments. He saw that they were in bad shape and in desperate need, so he urged the people to give them charity. The people were very slow to respond, and it could be seen in his face (that he was upset). Then a man of the Ansar brought a package of silver, then another came, and another and another, and his face was filled with joy. The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: 'Whoever starts a good thing in Islam, and others do likewise after him, there will be written for him a reward like that of those who followed him, without it detracting in the least from their reward. Whoever starts a bad thing in Islam, and others do likewise after him, there will be written for him a burden of sin like that of those who followed him, without it detracting in the least from their burden.'" [Sahih Muslim (4/2059) No. 1017]

Aisha narrated the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: "Those who give respect to a bid'ati (innovator in Religion) surely will be counted as a helper of destroying Islam." [al-Tabarani in 'al-Mu’jam al-Awsat' (7/35) No. 6772 and al-Bayhaqi in 'Shu'ab al-Emaan' (12/57) No. 9018]

-those who preach that democracy is shura
-they destroy the Muslims spiritually
-they put their hereafter in jeopardy

To oppress someone in the name of sharia
-you destroy them; you cause them to apostate
-e.g. people force their daughters to marry someone they don’t love
-this is oppression and may cause her to apostate

And by the Mercy of Allāh, you dealt with them gently. And had you been severe and harsh-hearted, they would have broken away from about you; so pass over (their faults), and ask (Allāh's) Forgiveness for them; and consult them in the affairs. Then when you have taken a decision, put your trust in Allāh, certainly, Allāh loves those who put their trust (in Him). (Aali Imran 3:159)

-another spiritual harming is that you treat your brother badly
-some leave Islam and go back to the church because of bad experience from Muslims
-you have to show the revert love
-if not they will leave Islam

You expect food on the table from your wife
-but you don’t give her shopping money

-the more you mix with people the more you risk being harmed by them

Ibn Umar (RA) narrated the Prophet (SAW) said, “The believer that mixes with people and endures the hardship they cause, he is better than the believer who does not mix with people and so does not endure the hardship they cause." [Musnad Ahmad (5/365) No. 23147, Sunan Ibn Majah (5/160) No. 4032, Sunan Tirmidhi (4/243) No. 2507]

-even though the weaknesses of the Muslim cause you harm, you still have to endure
-revenge is not always the best thing

And if you punish (your enemy, O you believers in the Oneness of Allāh), then punish them with the like of that with which you were afflicted. But if you endure patiently, verily, it is better for As-Sābirin (the patient ones, etc.). (An-Nahl 16:126)


Assalamu alaikum Shaikh, how can we protect ourselves from the whispers of shaytan?

-the best way is to do dhikr
-because if you don’t a shaytan is appointed as your companion

And whosoever turns away (blinds himself) from the remembrance of the Most Beneficent (Allah) (i.e. this Qur'an and worship of Allah), We appoint for him Shaitan (Satan ¬ devil) to be a Qarin (an intimate companion) to him. (Az-Zukhruf 43:36)