Monday, May 27, 2013

~ Prophetic Guidance ~ Complete Notes ~


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“Prophetic Guidance” (Part 1)

By Shaikh Abdullah Faisal

(Evening dars) – PalTalk May 23rd 2013
(Notes by AT7 and AT8 and AT38 / Edit Z/AT10)

“Prophetic Guidance” is taken from the book of Ibn Qayyim, Za'ad Muadh

I would like to remind you that the way the Prophet (saws) practiced the sunnah was perfect

Jabir ibn Abdullah (RA) narrated the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said in the Jumu’ah khutbah: "...To proceed. The best of the speech is embodied in the Book of Allah, and the best of the guidance is the guidance given by Muhammad. And the most evil affairs are their innovations; and every innovation is error..." [Sahih Muslim (2/592) No. 867]

-and Allah told us in the Qur'an that the character of the prophet is the best example to follow


Indeed in the Messenger of Allah (Muhammad SAW) you have a good example to follow for him who hopes in (the Meeting with) Allah and the Last Day and remembers Allah much.  (33:21)


And verily, you (O Muhammad SAW) are on an exalted standard of character. (68:4)

Because the character of the prophet is perfect, our success in this life and the hereafter depends on following him

Say (O Muhammad SAW to mankind): "If you (really) love Allah then follow me (i.e. accept Islamic Monotheism, follow the Quran and the Sunnah), Allah will love you and forgive you of your sins. And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."  Al-Imran (3:31)

Abu Huraira narrated the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said, "I was sent to perfect good character." [al-Adab al-Mufrad al-Bukhari, No. 273, Muwatta Malik (2/75) No. 1885, Musnad Ahmad (2/381) No. 8939, Mustadrak al-Haakim (2/670) No. 4221]

The Pervezi believe in Qur'an but not hadith
-but we have a knock-out punch for them and that is surah 16:44
-if they believed in Qur'an they would have believed in hadith

  • With clear signs and Books (We sent the Messengers). And We have also sent down unto you (O Muhammad SAW) the reminder and the advice (the Qur'an), that you may explain clearly to men what is sent down to them, and that they may give thought. (An-Nahl 16:44)

  • ACTIONS OF THE PROPHET (PBUH) ARE DIVIDED INTO 3 CATEGORIES

1. THINGS HE DID AS A MAN 
-so if he liked a particular type of shoes made in Yemen; that is his liking as a man

2. WHAT HE DID AS AN ARAB 
-e.g. him riding a camel
-this is not sunnah

3. THINGS HE DID AS A PROPHET
-whenever he did a thing as a prophet, that is sunnah
-e.g. he entered the masjid with the right foot and the toilet, the left foot

Sunnah is not just what the prophet did,
-it also encompasses what the rightly guided caliphs did
-because of the hadith:

..."I advise you all to fear Allaah and to listen to and obey (your leaders), even if he may be a slave from Habashah; For indeed, whoever from you is alive after I am gone will see many disputes and contradictions. You must therefore, stick to my Sunnah and the Sunnah of the Rightly-Guided Caliphs. [Related by Aboo Daawood (no. 4607) and by at-Tirmidhi (no. 2676)]

'Abdur Rahman bin 'Abdul Qari said, "I went out in the company of 'Umar bin Al-Khattab one night in Ramadan to the mosque and found the people praying in different groups. A man praying alone or a man praying with a little group behind him. So, 'Umar said, 'In my opinion I would better collect these (people) under the leadership of one Qari (Reciter) (i.e. let them pray in congregation!)'. So, he made up his mind to congregate them behind Ubai bin Ka'b. Then on another night I went again in his company and the people were praying behind their reciter. On that, 'Umar remarked, 'What an excellent Bid'a (i.e. innovation in religion) this is; but the prayer which they do not perform, but sleep at its time is better than the one they are offering.' He meant the prayer in the last part of the night. (In those days) people used to pray in the early part of the night." [Sahih Bukhari (3/45) No. 2010]

Ibn Taymiyyah said (when refuting the view of those who quoted ‘Umar’s words “What a good innovation this is” as meaning that innovation (bid’ah) is permissible): "With regard to qiyaam in Ramadan, the Messenger of Allah (SAW) introduced this to his ummah, and he led them in prayer for a number of nights, because at his time they used to pray in congregation and individually. But he did not persist in leading them in one congregation, lest that be made obligatory for them. When the Prophet (SAW) died, shariah was established (and would not change after that). When ‘Umar (RA) became caliph, he united them behind one imam, Ubayy ibn Ka’b, who united the people in one congregation on the orders of ‘Umar ibn al-Khattab (RA). ‘Umar (RA) was one of the Rightly-Guided Caliphs, of whom the Prophet (SAW) said: “I urge you to adhere to my Sunnah and the way of the Rightly-Guided Caliphs after me; cling tightly to it.”

So what he did was Sunnah but he said, “What a good innovation this is,” because it was an innovation in the linguistic sense, as they were doing something that they had not done during the life of the Messenger of Allah (SAW), i.e., gathering to do this, but it is Sunnah in the shar’i sense.” [Majmoo’ al-Fataawa (22/234-235)]

Thawr ibn Zayd ad-Daili narrated that Umar ibn al-Khattab asked advice about a man drinking wine. Ali ibn Abi Talib said to him, "We think that you flog him for it with eighty lashes. Because when he drinks, he becomes intoxicated, and when he becomes intoxicated, he talks confusedly, and when he talks confusedly, he lies." (80 lashes is the same amount as for slandering) Umar gave eighty lashes for drinking wine. [Muwatta Malik (2/45) No. 1826, Sunan al-Daraqutni (4/211-214) No. 3344, al-Sunan al-Kubra al-Nasa'i (5/137) No. 5269, Mustadrak al-Haakim (4/417) No. 8132, al-Sunan al-Kubra al-Bayhaqi (8/556) No. 17543]

Umar organised the taraweeh under one imam and not introduce it
-so sunnah did not stop with the Prophet (saws)

  • 1. THE PROPHETIC GUIDANCE IN REGARD TO THE MASJID

-the masjid should be built with halal earnings
-and the person building it should have the intention of building it
-to spread Qur'an and sunnah not to be masjid dirar
-and he should build it in populated cities and towns

DUA when entering the masjid:
bismillahi was-salaatu was-salaamu ala rasuulillah. Allahumma-ftah li abwaba ramatik

(In the Name of Allah; may His prayers and peace be upon Allah’s Messenger. Oh Allah! Open for me the gates of Your mercy.) [ibn as-Sunni: 38, Abu Dawud 1:126, Muslim; 1:494, ibn Majah 1:128-9]

When entering the Masjid, one should recite the following Du'aa: اللهم افتح لى ابواب رحمتك

Meaning:  Allaahum-maf-Tahlee Abwaaba Rahmatika (O Allaah, open the doors of Your Mercy for me)

Enter the masjid with your right foot (leave with your left foot)
-greet the people you found in the masjid
-don’t raise your voice
-avoid backbiting and slander and worldly talk
-do not speak w/ the Mu’adhin is calling the athaan
-when he says, Allahu akbar (you also say the same thing)
-use a person who is pious to call the athaan
-to use someone who has a girlfriend (for instance), this is makrooh
-he should not turn his back to the Qibla (its makrooh if he does)
-he should put his fingers in his ears
-its makrooh to call the athaan w/ 2 hands at your side as the Shiites do)
-he athaan would still be valid but what he did was makrooh
-when you hear the athaan you should say

Allaahumma Rabba haathihid-da 'watit-taammati wassalaatil-qaa'imati, 'aati Muhammadanil-waseelata walfadheelata, wab 'ath-hu maqaamam-mahmoodanil-lathee wa'adtahu, ['innaka laa tukhliful-mee'aad]
After replying to the call of Mu'aththin. you should recite in Arabic Allah's blessings on the Prophet.O Allah , Lord of this perfect call and established prayer. Grant Muhammad the intercession and favor, and raise him to the honored station You have promised him, [verily You do not neglect promises].
Reference: Al-Bukhari 1/152, and the addition between brackets is from Al-Bayhaqi 1/410 with a good (Hasan) chain of narration. See 'Abdul-Azlz bin Baz's Tuhfatul-'Akhyar, pg. 38. 
Scholars of hadeeth say this is weak, but it’s not an issue: ['innaka laa tukhliful-mee'aad]

Jabir Ibn Abdullah narrated the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: “Whoever says when he hears the call to prayer, 
 اللَّهُمَّ رَبَّ هَذِهِ الدَّعْوَةِ التَّامَّةِ، وَالصَّلاَةِ القَائِمَةِ آتِ مُحَمَّدًا الوَسِيلَةَ وَالفَضِيلَةَ، وَابْعَثْهُ مَقَامًا مَحْمُودًا الَّذِي وَعَدْتَهُ
‘Allaahumma rabba hadhhi’l-da’wat il-taammah wa’l-salaat il-qaa’imah, aati Muhammadan al-waseelah wa’l-fadeelah wab’athhu maqaaman mahmoodan alladhi wa’adtahu (O Allah, Lord of this perfect call and the prayer which is about to begin, grant Muhammad al-waseelah (a station in Paradise) and al-fadeelah (a rank above the rest of creation), and raise him to the praised position that You have promised),’ my intercession will be granted for him on the Day of Resurrection.” [Sahih Bukhari (1/126) No. 614]

-reciting this dua gives you intercession on the day of judgement by the Rasool (saws)
-don’t litter the masjid and keep it clean

  • 2.  PROPHETIC GUIDANCE REGARDING YOUR HOME

-she up a home in a decent neighborhood (not one w/ drugs and prostitutes or gay people)
-scholars say “choose your jaar before you daar” (neighbors before home)

Hamdun al-Qassar (one of the great early Muslims) said, “If a friend among your friends errs, make seventy excuses for them. If your hearts are unable to do this, then know that the shortcoming is in your own selves.” [related by al-Bayhaqi in ‘Shu'ab al-Eman’ (13/504) No. 10684]

Jafar bin Muhammad (rh) said: “If you find see something you don’t like in a brother, try to find 1-70 excuses for him. And if you can’t find an excuse, say; There might be an excuse, but I don’t know it." [related by al-Bayhaqi in ‘Shu'ab al-Eman’ (10/559) No. 7991]

Be careful when saying the Prophet (pbuh) said something
-because it might have been the scholars who said it


When leaving your home, recite:

 بِسْمِ اللهِ ، تَوَكَّلْـتُ عَلى اللهِ وَلا حَوْلَ وَلا قُـوَّةَ إِلاّ بِالله
Bismillaah, tawwakaltu ‘ala Allaah, laa hawla wa laa quwwata illa Billaah
In the name of Allah, I place my trust in Allah, and there is no might nor power except with Allah.(Narrated by al-Tirmidhi in his Sunan, 3348. Abu ‘Eesa said, this is a hasan saheeh ghareeb hadeeth which we only know through this isnaad) 

Whenever a sahabi was leaving the house the other sahabah present would advise ittaqillah
-this is the best advice you can give to your brother

When you return home, enter with your right foot and say:

اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ خَيْرَ الْمَوْلِجِ وَخَيْرَ الْمَخْرَجِ بِسْمِ اللَّهِ وَلَجْنَا وَبِسْمِ اللَّهِ خَرَجْنَا وَعَلَى اللَّهِ رَبِّنَا تَوَكَّلْنَا Narrated By Abu Malik Al-Ash'ari: The Prophet (SAW) said: When a man goes into his house, he should say: "O Allah! I ask Thee for good both when entering and when going out; in the name of Allah we have entered, and in the name of Allah we have gone out, and in Allah or Lord do we trust." He should then greet his family. [Abu Dawud, Book 36, Hadith #5077]

-you should say Assalamu Alaikum to greet the people of your home when you return
-if the house is empty, still say Salaam because you’ll greet the angel that might be in the house
-angels might be there and they are chased away if there is a toilet not flushed, a dog, a bell, or pictures on the wall

It is not the sunnah to return home at night
-you might want to greet you wearing make-up but if you come at night, she won’t be wearing it
-the Rasool (pbuh) refused to come home @ night

  • 3. PROPHETIC GUIDANCE IN REGARD TO SNEEZING:

-put a cloth over your nose or your hand
-when he (saws) sneezed, he would say ALHAMDULILLAH in an audible voice
-sneezing spreads viruses
-his Sahabahs would say Yarhamuk-Allah
-then he would reply, 'yahdikumullah wa yuslih baalakum’

The Prophet said: “When one of you sneezes, let him say, ‘Alhamdulillaah,’ his brother or companion should say to him, ‘Yarhamuk-Allahu,’ and the one who sneezed should say, ‘Yahdeekumullaah wa yuslihu baalakum.’ ” (Bukhari 5870) Abu Hurairah (RA) related, that whenever the Messenger of Allah sneezed, he would put his hand or his clothes in front of his mouth and lower his voice [in doing so]. (Abu Dawood 5870)

The first act of Adam (as) was to sneeze and said ALL PRAISE BELONGS TO ALLAH

4. PROPHETIC GUIDANCE IN REGARD TO YAWNING

Allah (subhanwatala) hates yawning but He (swt) loves when you sneeze
-sneezing is from angels; yawning is from shaytaan

The Prophet said: “Yawning is from the Shaytaan. When one of you feels like yawning, let him suppress it as much as he can. And if one of you yawns making sound, “Aahh!” Shaytaan laughs.” (Bukhari 3115)

5. PROPHETIC GUIDANCE IN REGARD TO SLEEPING
-The Rasool (pbuh) slept on the floor or a very thin mattress
-he went to sleep early so he would wake up for Fajr and it’s not a burden
-he slept on his back or right side
-the junior shaytaan sleeps on his belly, so it’s makrooh to sleep on our left side

Hafsah (SAW) said: “When the Prophet (SAW) went to bed, he would put his right hand under his right cheek.” [al-Mu’jam al-Kabir al-Tabarani (23/203) No. 347]

Prophet’s dua:

Hudhaifah (RA) reported: “Whenever the Messenger of Allah (SAW) intended to go to sleep, he would place his right hand under his (right) cheek and supplicate: اللَّهُمَّ قِنِي عَذَابَكَ يَوْمَ تَبْعَثُ عِبَادَكَ "Allahumma qini 'adhabaka yauma tab'athu 'ibadaka (O Allah! Guard me against Your punishment on the Day when You will resurrect Your slaves).” [Sunan Tirmidhi (5/471) No. 3398]

Narrated By Al-Bara 'bin 'Azib: The Prophet said to me, "Whenever you go to bed perform ablution like that for the prayer, lie or your right side and say, اللَّهُمَّ أَسْلَمْتُ وَجْهِي إِلَيْكَ، وَفَوَّضْتُ أَمْرِي إِلَيْكَ، وَأَلْجَأْتُ ظَهْرِي إِلَيْكَ، رَغْبَةً وَرَهْبَةً إِلَيْكَ، لاَ مَلْجَأَ وَلاَ مَنْجَا مِنْكَ إِلَّا إِلَيْكَ، اللَّهُمَّ آمَنْتُ بِكِتَابِكَ الَّذِي أَنْزَلْتَ، وَبِنَبِيِّكَ الَّذِي أَرْسَلْتَ "Allahumma aslamtu wajhi ilaika, wa fauwadtu amri ilaika, wa alja'tu Zahri ilaika raghbatan wa rahbatan ilaika. La Malja' wa la manja minka illa ilaika. Allahumma amantu bikitabika-l-ladhi anzalta wa bina-biyika-l ladhi arsalta" (O Allah! I surrender to You and entrust all my affairs to You and depend upon You for Your Blessings both with hope and fear of You. There is no fleeing from You, and there is no place of protection and safety except with You O Allah! I believe in Your Book (the Qur'an) which You have revealed and in Your Prophet (Muhammad) whom You have sent). Then if you die on that very night, you will die with faith (i.e. or the religion of Islam). Let the aforesaid words be your last utterance (before sleep)." I repeated it before the Prophet and when I reached "Allahumma amantu bikitabika-l-ladhi anzalta (O Allah I believe in Your Book which You have revealed)." I said, "Wa-rasulika (and your Apostle)." The Prophet said, "No, (but say): 'Wanabiyika-l-ladhi arsalta (Your Prophet whom You have sent), instead." [al-Bukhari (247) and Muslim (2710)]

It is recommended you recite the Quls before going to bed
-and if you want your property to be protected while you are sleeping recite Ayatul Kursi

Narrated Abu Huraira: Allah 's Apostle ordered me to guard the Zakat revenue of Ramadan. Then somebody came to me and started stealing of the foodstuff. I caught him and said, "I will take you to Allah's Apostle!"  Then Abu Huraira described the whole narration and said) That person said (to me), "(Please don't take me to Allah's Apostle and I will tell you a few words by which Allah will benefit you.) When you go to your bed, recite Ayat-al-Kursi, (2.255) for then there will be a guard from Allah who will protect you all night long, and Satan will not be able to come near you till dawn." (When the Prophet heard the story) he said (to me), "He (who came to you at night) told you the truth although he is a liar; and it was Satan." [Sahih Bukhari, Vol 6, Book 61, Hadith #530]

The prophet would do wudu before sleeping after sleeping with his wives
-if he had intercourse with his wife, he would do wudhu before going to sleep

If you had a bad dream, you should get up and spit three times saying audhubillahi minash shaytanir rajeem

Narrated By Abu Qatada: The Prophet said, "A good dream is from Allah, and a bad dream is from Satan. So whoever has seen (in a dream) something he dislike, then he should spit without saliva, thrice on his left and seek refuge with Allah from Satan, for it will not harm him, and Satan cannot appear in my shape." [Sahih Bukhari, Vol 9, Book 87, Hadith #124]

When waking up, recite:

Hudhayfah ibn al-Yamaan said: “When the Prophet would retreat to his bed, he would say: ‘Bismika amootu wa ahyaa.’ (Meaning: With your Name I die and I live. Upon awaking), he would say: ‘Alhamdu-lillaah-illadhi ahyaanaa ba’da maa amaatanaa wa ilayh-in-nushoor.’ (Meaning: All praise is due to Allah, Who gives us live after He has caused us to die and to Him will be the resurrection.) ” (Bukhari 5953)
-the first thing the Rasool (saws) did was to brush his teeth

Note: when your kids reach the age of 10, separate them in their sleep
-they can’t sleep together after age of 10
-it’s haraam for 2 men or 2 women to sleep together in the same bed

Amr ibn Shu’ayb from his father that his grandfather said: The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: “Teach your children to pray when they are seven years old, and smack them if they do not pray when they are ten years old, and separate them in their beds.” [Sunan Abu Dawud (1/133) No. 495 and Musnad Ahmad (2/180) No. 6689]

  • 6. PROPHETIC GUIDANCE OF VISITING PEOPLE

-The Rasool (saws) knocked on the door 3x and when they said ‘who is it?’
-he replied MUHAMMAD IBN ABDULLAH or RASULULLAH or ABU QASIM
-he never answered “Me” – he always said his name
-leave if no one answers after 3 knocks (even if his car is there)  

Narrated Abu Sa'id Al-Khudri: While I was present in one of the gatherings of the Ansar, Abu Musa came as if he was scared, and said, "I asked permission to enter upon 'Umar three times, but I was not given the permission, so I returned." (When 'Umar came to know about it) he said to Abu Musa, "Why did you not enter?' Abu Musa replied, "I asked permission three times, and I was not given it, so I returned, for Allah's Apostle said, "If anyone of you asks the permission to enter thrice, and the permission is not given, then he should return.'" 'Umar said, "By Allah! We will ask Abu Musa to bring witnesses for it." (Abu Musa went to a gathering of the Ansar and said).  "Did anyone of you hear this from the Prophet?" Ubai bin Ka'b said, "By Allah, none will go with you but the youngest of the people (as a witness)." (Abu Sa'id) was the youngest of them, so I went with Abu Musa and informed 'Umar that the Prophet had said so. [al-Bukhari (6245) and Muslim (2153)]


  • 7. PROPHET GUIDANCE IN GIVING ‘SALAAM’

-He said ‘spread as’salaamu alaykum’ between yourselves
-He replied to salaam in an audible voice
-when someone says ‘as’salaamu alaykum’ then you reply w/ something better
-do not give full salaam, leave something for your brother to add something better (or similar)
-so he can say wa’alaykum wa’salaam wa’rahmatullahi wa’barakatu

Abu Huraira (RA) reported that Allah’s Messenger (SAW) said, “By Him in Whose Hand is my life, you will not enter Paradise till you believe, and you will not believe till you love each other. Shall I not guide you to something which if you do, you will love each other? Give currency to salaam between yourselves.” [Sahih Muslim (1/74) No. 54, Sunan Abu Dawud (4/350) No. 5193, Sunan Tirmidhi (5/52) 2688, Sunan Ibn Majah (1/47) No. 68, Musnad Ahmad (2/477) No. 10180, al-Adab al-Mufrad al-Bukhari (980)]


  • When you are greeted with a greeting, greet in return with what is better than it, or (at least) return it equally. Certainly, Allah is Ever a Careful Account Taker of all things. (An Nisa 4:86)

You cannot stop giving ‘salaam’ for more than 3 days
-if you stop for one year, you hurt your brother/sister (like shedding his/her blood)

Narrated By Abu Aiyub Al-Ansari: Allah's Apostle said, "It is not lawful for a man to desert his brother Muslim for more than three nights. (It is unlawful for them that) when they meet, one of them turns his face away from the other, and the other turns his face from the former, and the better of the two will be the one who greets the other first." [Sahih Bukhari, Vol 8, Book 73, Hadith #100]

Narrated By Abu Khirash as-Sulami: Abu Khirash heard the Apostle of Allah (SAW) say: "If one keeps apart from his brother for a year, it is like shedding his blood." [Sunan Abu Dawud (4/279) No. 4915, Musnad Ahmad (4/220) No. 17964, al-Adab al-Mufrad al-Bukhari No. 404, Mustadrak al-Haakim (4/180) No. 7292, Shu'ab al-Iman al-Bayhaqi (9/26) No. 6207, al-Mu’jam al-Kabir al-Tabarani (22/308) No. 780]

On the authority of Abu Hurayrah (RA), who said that the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: "The gates of Paradise will be opened on Mondays and on Thursdays, and every servant [of Allah] who associates nothing with Allah will be forgiven, except for the man who has a grudge against his brother. [About them] it will be said: 'Delay these two until they are reconciled; delay these two until they are reconciled.'" [Sahih Muslim (4/1987) No. 2565, Muwatta Malik (2/80) No. 1897, Sunan Dawud (4/279) No. 4916]

-if you don't reconcile with your brother
-Allah (swt) won't look at your deeds
-you can only boycott a munafiq

Tasleem al’khaas = giving salaam only to people you know
-this is a sign of the last days
-you are allowed to boycott (ex-communicate) your wife if she misbehaves

On the authority of Ibn Masood (RA) the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: "Among the signs of the last days is that people will give salam to only those who they know." [Musnad Ahmad (1/405) No. 3848]

'Abdullah bin 'Amr bin Al-'as (RA) reported: A man asked Messenger of Allah (SAW), "Which act in Islam is the best?" He (SAW) replied, "To feed (the poor and the needy) and to greet those whom you know and those you do not know." [al-Bukhari (12) and Muslim (39)]

-The Rasool (saws) said the best Islam is to feed people with food and give Salaam to people who you know and don’t know

Sunnah of giving salaam
Riding to someone walking
Walking – to sitting down
Small crowd to big crowd
Young to the old
Older people should ride in the front

Abu Huraira (RA) narrated the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said, "Someone riding should greet someone walking, and someone walking should greet someone sitting, and a small group should greet a larger group." [al-Bukhari (6232) and Muslim (2160)] In a variant of al-Bukhari, "The young should greet the old."
Muhammad (pbuh) gave salaam to women in his familyAbu Qurra al-Khurasani said, "I saw Anas pass by us and he indicated to us with his hand that he was giving the greeting., The gesture made that clear. I saw al-Hasan using yellow dye while wearing a black turban. Asma' said, 'The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, waved his hand to indicate the greeting to women."  [adab al-mufrad al-bukhari, No. 1002]


  • 8. PROPHETIC GUIDANCE OF SHAKING HANDS

The Prophet (saws) used to give things using his Right Hand and would shake hands with his right hand, he would also give and accept gifts with his right hand

- It is haram to shake hands with the left hand or to give gifts with the left hand 
- The Rasool (saws) when accepting the Bayah from women would not shake their hands
- You are not allowed to shake hands with a women, 
- according to Imam Shafii it breaks your Wudu

- Whenever the Rasool(saws) shook hands with one of his companions, he did not pull away his hand until they pulled away their hand first

Abu Qurra al-Khurasani said, "I saw Anas pass by us and he indicated to us with his hand that he was giving the greeting., The gesture made that clear. I saw al-Hasan using yellow dye while wearing a black turban. Asma' said, 'The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, waved his hand to indicate the greeting to women."  [adab al-mufrad al-bukhari, No. 1002]

Abu Qurra al-Khurasani said, "I saw Anas pass by us and he indicated to us with his hand that he was giving the greeting., The gesture made that clear. I saw al-Hasan using yellow dye while wearing a black turban. Asma' said, 'The Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, waved his hand to indicate the greeting to women."  [adab al-mufrad al-bukhari, No. 1002]

- And whenever the Rasool (saws) would embrace a Sahabah, 
- he did not pull away until they pulled away first  
- The Sunnah is when you embrace a person, Do it Once, not Three times

  • 9. PROPHETIC GUIDANCE IN REGARD TO SALATUL JUMUAH

-ghusl is fard for person with someone with body odour (Ibn Taymiyyah said this)
-Rasool said it is only sunnah; you should make ghusl
-wear sweet perfume and nice clothes
  
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah in al-Fataawa al-Kubra (5/307): It is obligatory to do ghusl on Fridays for one who is sweaty or has an odour that may offend others. End quote.

- It is Sunnah to wear sweet perfume and the best of your clothing for Salat al Jumua

Al-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said in al-Majmoo‘ (4/405):

Doing ghusl on Friday is Sunnah, not obligatory in the sense that not doing it is a sin, and there is no difference of opinion among us concerning that. With regard to the one for whom it is Sunnah, there are four views, but the correct view that is supported by the text and regard by the author and the majority as the correct view is the following:
It is Sunnah for everyone who wants to attend Jumu‘ah, man, woman, child, traveller, slave and others, because of the apparent meaning of the hadeeth of Ibn ‘Umar, and because the aim is cleanliness, and they are all the same with regard to that. It is not Sunnah for the one who does not intend to attend, even if he is one of those who should attend Jumu‘ah,because of the meaning of the hadeeth and because the reason is no longer present; and because of the hadeeth of Ibn ‘Umar, according to which the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Whoever comes to Jumu‘ah, man or woman, let him do ghusl, and whoever does not come to it, man or woman, does not have to do ghusl.” Narrated by al-Bayhaqi with this wording and with a saheeh isnaad. End quote.

- The Sunnah is to arrive early for Jumuah, because there are two angels standing by the door of the Masjid
- You get rewards for entering the Masjid early.

Narrated By Abu Huraira: The Prophet (SAW) said, "When it is a Friday, the angels stand at the gate of the mosque and keep on writing the names of the persons coming to the mosque in succession according to their arrivals. The example of the one who enters the mosque in the earliest hour is that of one offering a camel (in sacrifice). The one coming next is like one offering a cow and then a ram and then a chicken and then an egg respectively. When the Imam comes out (for Jumua prayer) they (i.e. angels) fold their papers and listen to the Khutba." [al-Bukhari (929) and Muslim (850)]

If the Imam climbs the Minbar, and gives his Salaams,  the Angels Close the Book and your name is not written down among the people who arrived early.
- However your Jumuah is still valid
- The Khutba should be given by the person with the correct Aqeeda and the most knowledge
- Anyone who supports the Taghoot and does not follow Sunnah should  not give the Khutba
- The topic of the Khutba should be relevant to the Ummah
- You cannot allow a Munafiq to take the Minbar and corrupt the community
- On the Day of Judgement we will all be held guilty for this action
- Because we did not support the right and forbid the wrong
- The Minbar belongs to the Messenger of Allah (saws) it should be protected as such 

Abu Al-Ja'd (meaning Ad-Damri) narrated, and he was a Companion according to the claim of Muhammad bin Amr: the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: 'Whoever neglects the Friday prayer three times (in a row) without an excuse, then Allah sets a seal upon his heart.'" [Sunan Tirmidhi (2/373) No. 500, Musnad Ahmad (3/424) No. 15537, Sunan Abu Dawud (1/277) No. 1052, Sunan al-Nasa'i (3/88) No. 1369, Sunan Ibn Majah (2/213) No. 1125, Sunan al-Darime (1/444) No. 1571, Muwatta Malik (1/180) No. 468]

You cannot miss more than 3 Salat Al Jumuah consecutively
- Salat Al Jumaa is not compulsory on women, it  is only compulsory on the men
- The Person who gives the Khutba should deliver a short speech
- The Prophet (Saws) disliked long Khutbas. The Khutba should not go above 15-20 min

'Ammar bin Yasir (RA) reported: I heard Messenger of Allah (SAW) saying, "Prolonging Salat (prayer) and shortening the Khutbah (religious talk) indicate the religious knowledge of the person. Make your Salat long and your sermon short." [Sahih Muslim (2/594) No. 869]

- The Minbar of the Prophet was three steps
- When he (saws) gave the Khutba, if a person were to enter the Masjid and sit down, 
- he would tell the person to get up and perform 2 rakaat to greet the masjid

Abu Qatadah (RA) reported: The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said, "When anyone of you enters the mosque, he should perform two Rak'ah (of voluntary prayer) before sitting." [al-Bukhari (444) and Muslim (714)]

- Hanafis however do not allow performing the two rakat salah when the imam is giving the khutba
- When the Rasool (Saws) was giving a Khutba, he would raise his voice, his eyes would become red, and his complexion would change color
- He would remind the Muslims about the Hell fire 

It was narrated that Jaabir ibn ‘Abd-Allaah said: A man came whilst the Prophet (SAW) was addressing the people on Friday, and he [the Prophet (SAW)] said: “Have you prayed, O So and so?” He said, “No.” He said: “Stand up and pray two rak’ahs.” [al-Bukhaari (888) and Muslim (875)]

- The Prophet would recite a Dua and then recite an Ayat about Taqwa
- On Jumaa some Masjids use two Azanma and some use one, both are acceptable
- On the minbar, he (saws) would say “maa baal aqwaam”
- The Prophet (Saws) did not use the names of the people who were doing wrong while giving a Khutba, 
- he did not want to offend his Sahabas
- His khutbahs were always relevant to the issues at hand

AYAH ON TAQWA :

O mankind! Be dutiful to your Lord, Who created you from a single person (Adam), and from him (Adam) He created his wife [Hawwa (Eve)], and from them both He created many men and women and fear Allah through Whom you demand your mutual (rights), and (do not cut the relations of) the wombs (kinship). Surely, Allah is Ever an All-Watcher over you. (An Nisa 4:1)

- We are not allowed to expose people in a Khutba by using their names
- The Prophet would recite Surah Ala - 87 and Surah Al Ghasiyah 88

  • 10. PROPHET GUIDANCE IN REGARD TO SALAH
The Prophet (Saws) would raise his hands and Say Allahu Akbar, He would make his intention before saying Allahu Akbar
- The Prophet (Saws) would make an intention before every single Salah, because without intention the Salah is Bautil
-it is bid’dah to make intention allowed for salah (only for hajj and umrah)
- The Prophet (Saws) never made his intention aloud, this would be Bidaa.
- The only intention you are allowed to make aloud is for Hajj and Umra. All other intentions are made silently in your heart

To pray a single salah without intention makes it Bautil

The Prophet (saws) would face the Qibla and recite the following silently
- When the Prophet would lead Salah, he never recited Basmallah with a loud voice.

When the Prophet was reciting Surah Al Fatihah he would stop at every single Ayat.


THE PROPHET'S SILENT RECITATION BEFORE AL FATIHAH :: Subhanak Allahumma Wa Bee Hamdika Wata Baara Kasmooka Wa Ta'ala Jaddoo Ka Wa La ilaha Ghairuka" Aaoo Zoo Billahee Minash Shaitaunir Rajeem" Bismillah Hir Rahmaanir Raheem"


Imam Shafii said you must recite Basmallah with a loud voice, This is the Shafii Madhab


- The Prophet (saws) prayed with his right hand over his left hand on his chest

Wa'il b. Hajr said "I prayed with Prophet Muhammad(saw) and he put his right hand over his left hand over his chest."(Ibn Khuzaimah, Abu Dawud, Muslim)

- When he went down in Rakat his fingers were spread over his knees and his back was flat

It was narrated from Abu Malik Al-Ashja'i that his father said: "I prayed behind the Messenger of Allah (SAW) and he did not say the Qunut, and I prayed behind Abu Bakr and he did not say the Qunut, and I prayed behind Umar and he did not say the Qunut, and I prayed behind Uthman and he did not say the Qunut, and I prayed behind Ali and he did not say the Qunut." Then he said: "O my son, this is an innovation." [sunan al-nasa'i]

The Shafii recite the Dua of Qunut every Fajr.

It was narrated from Abu Malik Al-Ashja'i that his father said: "I prayed behind the Messenger of Allah (SAW) and he did not say the Qunut, and I prayed behind Abu Bakr and he did not say the Qunut, and I prayed behind Umar and he did not say the Qunut, and I prayed behind Uthman and he did not say the Qunut, and I prayed behind Ali and he did not say the Qunut." Then he said: "O my son, this is an innovation." [sunan al-nasa'i]

The son of Sayyidina Abdullah ibn Mughaffal (RA) said that when his father heard him recite the Bismillah audibly in salah, he said, 'O my son, this is something new (bid'ah). Keep away from innovation.' Ibn Abdullah said, "I did not find any of the sahabah more against innovation in Islam than my father.' He (Abdullah) said, "I offered salah with the Prophet (SAW) and with Abu Bakr (RA)Umar (RA) and Uthman (RA). None of them said the Bismillah in a loud voice. So, when you offer salah, do not recite it loudly, and begin the recital with al-Fatihah." [Ahmed 16787, Nisai 907, Ibn e Majah 815]

- The prophet (saws) would spread his fingers over his knees and his back would be flat

The son of Sayyidina Abdullah ibn Mughaffal (RA) said that when his father heard him recite the Bismillah audibly in salah, he said, 'O my son, this is something new (bid'ah). Keep away from innovation.' Ibn Abdullah said, "I did not find any of the sahabah more against innovation in Islam than my father.' He (Abdullah) said, "I offered salah with the Prophet (SAW) and with Abu Bakr (RA)Umar (RA) and Uthman (RA). None of them said the Bismillah in a loud voice. So, when you offer salah, do not recite it loudly, and begin the recital with al-Fatihah." [Ahmed 16787, Nisai 907, Ibn e Majah 815]

The prophet (saw) would spread his fingers over his knees and his back would be flat
-When he would get up from ruku'u his back would be straight

Narrated: Abu Masud Al-Ansari
Allah's Messenger (SAW) as saying, "Prayer is of no merit to one who does not keep his back straight in ruku and sajdah".  [Sunan at-Tirmidhi (Jami-al-Tirmidhi) Chapter No: 2, Salah (Prayers) Hadith no: 265]

-and if you don’t do this, you are a thief; the worst thief

Abi Qatadah reported that the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said "The worst thief is one who steals in his prayer." Then the companions asked, "How can someone steal from his prayer?" Prophet (SAW) answered, "He does not complete his Ruku and Sadjah with perfection." [Musnad Ahmad (5/310) No. 22695, Sunan Darimi (1/350) No. 1328, Sahih Ibn Khuzaymah (1/331) No. 663]

Narrated: Abu Masud Al-Ansari
Allah's Messenger (SAW) as saying, "Prayer is of no merit to one who does not keep his back straight in ruku and sajdah". [Sunan at-Tirmidhi (Jami-al-Tirmidhi) Chapter No: 2, Salah (Prayers) Hadith no: 265]

When you come out of ruku'u your hands are supposed to be by your side
-but Bin Baz said no, your hands should be on the chest
-there is no evidence for this so we follow Albaani on this (by your side)

When you come out of ruku'u your hands are supposed to be by your side
-but Bin Baz said no, your hands should be on the chest
-Al Bani is of the former opinion and this is the correct opinion

On the authority of Abu Huraira (RA) who said the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said, ‘When any one of you prostrates, let him not go down as the camel does; let him put his hands down before his knees.’” [Musnad Ahmad (2/381) No. 8942, Sunan Abu Dawud (1/222) No. 840, Sunan al-Nasa'i (2/207) No. 1091, Sunan Tirmidhi (2/57) No. 269]

When the Prophet (saws) would go down to sajdah was it his 2 hands or knees touching the ground first?

Ibn Taymiyyah said: “Praying in both ways is permissible, according to the consensus of the scholars. If a person wants to go down knees first or hands first, his prayer is valid in either case, according to the consensus of the scholars, but they disputed as to which is preferable.” [Majmua al-Fatawa (22/449)]

-Imam Shaaf’i says the 2 hands go down first (he is correct on this matter)
-your fingers in sajdah should be close together
-and your elbows should not be on the ground like a dog
-the Hanafi say the salah of a man is different from the salah of a woman
-but the Hanbali say otherwise and that is the correct opinion
-because there is no hadith to back their claim

You palms should be straight and your finger should be together
- Your elbows should be spread out

Narrated Ibn Mas'ud  Allah's Apostle taught me the Tashah-hud as he taught me a Sura from the Quran, while my hand was between his hands. (Tashah-hud was) all the best compliments and the prayers and the good things are for Allah. Peace and Allah's Mercy and Blessings be on you, O Prophet! Peace be on us and on the pious slaves of Allah, I testify that none has the right to be worshipped but Allah, and I also testify that Muhammad is Allah's slave and His Apostle. (We used to recite this in the prayer) during the lifetime of the Prophet, but when he had died, we used to say, "Peace be on the Prophet."  Bukhari -Volume 8, Book 74, Number 281

- When you get into the seating position after the Sujood, you must recite the Tashahhud, using “As Salam Alan Nabi”

Do not say “As Salam ALAIKA NABI”
- this is what the Barelvis ( the grave worshippers) say
-because they want to believe that the Prophet (saws) is alive

They use the obsolete Tashahhud as Hujjah to worship Muhammad (saws)
- Do not wag your finger while  reciting Tashahhud. That is the hallmark of a Madkhali.
- Wagging the finger is a weak Hadith (but this is what Albaani said(
- Do not follow Albanis recommendation on waggin the finger, thinking you are beating the Shaitan
- The correct opinion is of Imam Shafii, you do not wag your finger

Shaikh Fawzaan said Its not Right to Move the Finger in Salah: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u1wgFj5KgrE

Instead, you hold your finger straight out during the Tashahhud

Imam Nawawi mentions in the Majmu‘ (3.454) from Abu Dawud and others with a sound chain of narrators on the authority Abdullah Ibn Az-Zubayr, that he described the prayer of the Prophet (SAW) by saying, “He would point with his finger while supplicating without moving it.” As for what is present in the narration that mentions, that he (SAW) “used to move it”, the expression, “move it is an unreliable anomalous (Ar. shadhdh) narration because the narrator who relates [this Hadith] on the authority of the Companion Wael Ibn Hujr (RA) contradicts everyone else who narrated from him


- The Prophet (saws) never moved his finger during Tashahhud


PROPHETIC GUIDANCE (Part 2)

By Shaikh Abdullah El-Faisal

(Evening) PalTalk May 25, 2013
(Notes by: AT38 /AT10 Edit by Z/AT10)

10. PROPHETIC GUIDANCE IN REGARD TO SALAH continued

The Rasul (saws) will make his intention for every salah
-for Fajr, Zuhr, Asr, Maghrib and Isha  
-this is because of the hadith: Actions are by intention

Umar ibn al-Khattab said, 'I heard the Messenger of Allah (saws), say, "Actions only go by intentions. Everyone gets what they intend..." [al-Bukhari (1) and Muslim (1907)]

-he will then raise his hands and then place them on his chest (right hand over left)

Wa'il b. Hajr said "I prayed with Prophet Muhammad (saws) and he put his right hand over his left hand over his chest." [Sahih Ibn Khuzaimah (Vol. 1, pg. 243) No. 479, Abu Dawud (Vol. 1, pg. 260) No. 759]

-the hadith that said under the navel like the Hanafis is a weak hadith
-when he will go down in ruku, he will spread his hands on his and knee and his back will be straight
-if you place a glass of water it will stand still

Abi Qatadah reported that the Messenger of Allah (saws) said "The worst thief is one who steals in his prayer." Then the companions asked, "How can someone steal from his prayer?" Prophet (saws) answered, "He does not complete his Ruku and Sadjah with perfection." [Musnad Ahmad (5/310) No. 22695, Sunan Darimi (1/350) No. 1328, Sahih Ibn Khuzaymah (1/331) No. 663]

-and he will recite : Subhana Rabiyall 'Azeem Wa bi hamdihi 3x
-when gets up he allows all his body to go back to their original position
-and his back is straight
-your hands should be by your sides and not back on your chest
-when going for sajda, there is no ra'ful yada'an

On the authority of Abu Huraira (RA) who said the Messenger of Allah (saws) said, ‘When any one of you prostrates, let him not go down as the camel does; let him put his hands down before his knees.’” [Musnad Ahmad (2/381) No. 8942, Sunan Abu Dawud (1/222) No. 840, Sunan al-Nasa'i (2/207) No. 1091, Sunan Tirmidhi (2/57) No. 269]

-you go down with hands first but it is not an issue if you go down with knees first

Ibn Taymiyyah said: “Praying in both ways is permissible, according to the consensus of the scholars. If a person wants to go down knees first or hands first, his prayer is valid in either case, according to the consensus of the scholars, but they disputed as to which is preferable.” [Majmua al-Fatawa (22/449)]

-when you do the tashahhud, you don't say 'Asalamu alaika' but you should say ' Asalam Alanabi' 

Narrated Ibn Mas'ud  Allah's Apostle taught me the Tashah-hud as he taught me a Sura from the Quran, while my hand was between his hands. (Tashah-hud was) all the best compliments and the prayers and the good things are for Allah. Peace and Allah's Mercy and Blessings be on you, O Prophet! Peace be on us and on the pious slaves of Allah, I testify that none has the right to be worshipped but Allah, and I also testify that Muhammad is Allah's slave and His Apostle. (We used to recite this in the prayer) during the lifetime of the Prophet, but when he had died, we used to say, "Peace be on the Prophet."  Bukhari -Volume 8, Book 74, Number 281

-you should not also wag your finger
-this is a hallmark of a Madkhali
-the correct opinion is to keep it pointed during the entire tashahhud

Imam Nawawi mentions in the Majmu‘ (3.454) from Abu Dawud and others with a sound chain of narrators on the authority Abdullah Ibn Az-Zubayr, that he described the prayer of the Prophet (saws) by saying, “He would point with his finger while supplicating without moving it.” As for what is present in the narration that mentions, that he (saws) “used to move it”, the expression, “move it is an unreliable anomalous (Ar. shadhdh) narration because the narrator who relates [this Hadith] on the authority of the Companion Wael Ibn Hujr (RA) contradicts everyone else who narrated from him.

-the correct opinion is to keep it pointed during the entire tashahhud

Fawzaan said It’s not Right to Move the Finger in Salah: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u1wgFj5KgrE

-when the Rasul (saws) was on the ground in sajda, his fingers were close together
-you are not supposed to put your elbow on the ground like a dog
-and the should be away from your thighs
-there is no difference between the salah of a man and that of a woman

Anas reported: I observed prayer along with the Messenger of Allah (saws) and with Abu Bakr, Umar and Uthman (RA), but I never heard any one of them reciting Bismillah-ir-Rahman-ir-Rahim loudly. [Sahih Muslim (1/299) No. 399]

-the dua before surah fatiha plus 'Bismillahi Rahmani Rahim' should be recited silently
-the tashahhud have two parts
-Imam Shafi said you should recite both in both sittings
-i.e if you are praying a 4 rakat salah
-it is safer to go with this opinion

Abu Sa’eed al-Khudri (RA) who said: I heard the Prophet (saws) say: "If while you are praying, somebody intends to pass in front of you, prevent him; and should he insist, prevent him again; and if he insists again, then let him fight him, for he is a devil.” [al-Bukhari (3274) and Muslim (505)]

-you should not allow anyone to pass in front of you

Narrated By Busr bin Said: That Zaid bin Khalid sent him to Abi Juhaim to ask him what he had heard from Allah's Apostle about a person passing in front of another person who was praying. Abu Juhaim replied, "Allah's Apostle said, 'If the person who passes in front of another person in prayer knew the magnitude of his sin he would prefer to wait for 40 (days, months or years) rather than to pass in front of him." Abu An-Nadr said, "I do not remember exactly whether he said 40 days, months or years." [al-Bukhari (510) and Muslim (507)]

-you should a sutra in front of you (like a chair)
-if a man walks in front of you, you should stop and if he refuse fight him
-but your salah is valid

It was reported from ‘Abdullah ibn al-Samit that Abu Dharr said: “The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: ‘If any one of you stands up to pray, then he has a sutrah [an item placed in front of a praying person as a “screen”] if he has something the height of the back of a saddle in front of him. If he does not have something the height of the back of a saddle in front of him, then his prayer is invalidated if a donkey or a woman or a black dog passes in front of him.’” I [‘Abdullah] asked, “O Abu Dharr, what is the difference between a black dog and a red or yellow dog?” He said, “O son of my brother, I asked the Messenger of Allah (saws) the same question, and he said, ‘The black dog is a shaytan (devil).’” [Sahih Muslim (1/365) No. 510, Sunan Abu Dawud (1/187) No. 702, Sunan al-Nasa'i (2/63) No. 750, Sunan Tirmidhi (2/161) No. 338, Sunan Ibn Majah (2/102) No. 952, Musnad Ahmad (5/155) No. 21415]

-if a woman who has reached puberty, the black dog and the donkey pass in front of you
-you salah is bautil
-you are allowed to pray with your shoes on if they are clean
-this is when you are praying in the park
-for the house and the masjid you take them off

As for EID, he used to wear his best clothes and perfume
-there is no sunnah before EID, no adhan, no iqaamat
-but if it is prayed in the masjid, you can pray tahiyatul masjid
-you are not supposed to pray when you need to go to the loo (toilet)
-or when the food is served
-if it is Maghrib time, you are allowed to delay it and join with Isha
-but you need to pray Maghrib before Isha

11. PROPHETIC GUIDANCE WITH REGARD TO FASTING

The Rasul (saws) used to fast on Mondays and Thursdays
-because our deeds are shown to Allah (swt) on these days

It was narrated that Aisha (RA) said: "The Prophet (saws) was keen to fast on Mondays and Thursdays." [Sunan Tirmidhi (3/121) No. 745, Sunan Ibn Majah (2/627) No. 1739, Musnad Ahmad (6/106) No. 24792, al-Sunan al-Kubra al-Nasa'i (3/122) No. 2508]

Abu Huraira (RA) that the Messenger of Allah (saws) said: “Deeds are shown (to Allah) on Mondays and Thursdays, and I like my deeds to be shown when I am fasting.” [Sunan Tirmidhi (3/122) No. 747]

Abdullah bin Amr bin al-'As (RA) narrated the Messenger of Allah (SAW) was informed that I have said: "By Allah, I will fast all the days and pray all the nights as long as I live." On that, the Messenger of Allah asked me. "Are you the one who says: 'I will fast all the days and pray all the nights as long as I live?' " I said, "Yes, I have said it." He said, "You cannot do that. So fast (sometimes) and do not fast (sometimes). Pray and sleep. Fast for three days a month, for the reward of a good deed is multiplied by ten times, and so the fasting of three days a month equals the fasting of a year." I said: "I am capable of doing more than this, O Messenger of Allah." Thereupon he said: "Fast one day and do not fast for the next two days." I said: "Messenger of Allah, I have the strength to do more than that." The Holy Prophet (SAW), said: "Fast one day and break on the other day. That is known as the fasting of Dawud (AS) and that is the best fasting." I said: "I am capable of doing more than this." Thereupon the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: "There is nothing better than this." [al-Bukhari (3418) and Muslim (1159)]

-he recommended and preferred the fasting of Dawud (a.s)
-i.e to fast every other day and there is no fast better than this

It was narrated from Jareer ibn ‘Abdullah (RA) that the Prophet (SAW) said: “Fasting three days of each month is fasting for a lifetime, and ayaam al-beed are the thirteenth, fourteenth and fifteenth.” [Sunan al-Nasa'i (4/221) No. 2420]

It was narrated that Abu Dharr (RA) said: The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said to me: “If you fast any part of the month, then fast the thirteenth, fourteenth and fifteenth.” [Musnad Ahmad (5/162) No. 21474, Sunan Tirmidhi (3/134) No. 761, Sunan al-Nasa'i (4/222) No. 2424]

-he used to fast the 13th, 14th, and 15th of every lunar month

Narrated By Abu Huraira: My friend (the Prophet) advised me to observe three things: 1. To fast three days a month. 2. To pray two Rakat of Duha prayer. (fore-noon prayer) 3. To pray Witr before sleeping. [al-Bukhari (1178) and Muslim (721)]

-he used to fast in Ramadhan when the moon and if the clouds cover the moon he will count Sha'ban as 30 days
-and then fast

Abu Huraira (RA) reported: The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said, "Observe Saum (fast) on sighting the crescent and terminate it on sighting it (the new moon), but if the sky is cloudy before you, then complete the number (thirty days) of the month." [al-Bukhari (1909) and Muslim (1081)]

'Ammar bin Yasir (RA) reported: "He who observes the fast on a doubtful day, has in fact disobeyed Abul-Qasim." [Sunan Abu Dawud (2/300) No. 2334, Sunan Tirmidhi (3/70) No. 686, Sunan al-Nasa'i (4/153) No. 2188, Sunan Ibn Majah (2/561) No. 1645, Sunan al-Darime (2/5) No. 1682]

-it is haraam to fast on a doubtful day
-also on a EID day

Abu Sa’eed al-Khudri (RA) narrated the Prophet (SAW) forbade fasting on the day of (Eid) al-Fitr and al-Nahr (the day of sacrifice, i.e., Eid al-Adha).” [al-Bukhari (1991) and Muslim (1138)]

Nubaisha al-Hudhali narrated the Prophet (SAW) said: “The days of al-Tashreeq are days of eating, drinking and remembering Allah.” [Sahih Muslim (2/800) No. 1141]

Abu Murrah the freed slave of Umm Haani narrated that he entered with ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Amr upon his father ‘Amr ibn al-‘Aas. He offered them food and said, “Eat.” He said, “I am fasting.” ‘Amr said: “Eat, for these are the days on which the Messenger of Allah (SAW) would tell us not to fast and forbade us to fast, and these are the days of al-Tashreeq.” [Sunan Abu Dawud (2/320) No. 2418]

-if you are fasting sunnah and you visit a friend who gives you food you can break your fast

-you should hasten to break your fast
-it is makrooh to delay breaking your fast

Sahl ibn Sad reported that Allah’s Messenger (SAW) said, "The people will remain on the right path as long as they hasten the breaking of the fast." [al-Bukhari (1957) and Muslim (1098)]


Mu'adh bin Zuhrah narrated the Prophet (SAW) used to say when he broke his fast: اللَّهُمَّ لَكَ صُمْتُ، وَعَلَى رِزْقِكَ أَفْطَرْتُ “Allahumma laka sumtu wa ‘ala rizqika aftartu (O Allah, for You have I fasted and by Your provision I have broken my fast).” [Sunan Abu Dawud (2/306) No. 2358, al-Sunan al-Kubra al-Bayhaqi (4/403) No. 8134]

-you should break your fast with dates unless you can't find it or you can't afford dates
-you should break your fast with something sweet

Salman bin ‘Aamir Ad Dabbi narrated the Prophet (SAW) said, “When one of you breaks his fast, he should do so with some dates; but if he cannot get any, he should break his fast with water, for it is purifying.” [Sunan Tirmidhi (3/78) No. 695, Sunan Ibn Majah (2/596) No. 1699, Musnad Ahmad (4/18) No. 16276, al-Sunan al-Kubra al-Nasa'i (3/372) No. 3307]

Hafsah (RA) reported the Prophet (SAW) as saying, “He, who has not formed an intention (to fast) before dawn, has not fasted”. [Sunan Tirmidhi (3/108) No. 730, Sunan Abu Dawud (2/329) No. 2454, Sunan al-Nasa'i (4/196) No. 2331, Sunan Ibn Majah (2/598) No. 1700, Sunan al-Darime (2/12) No. 1698, Musnad Ahmad (6/287) No. 26500]

-you have to make your intention before Fajr

Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah said: “Whoever thinks in his heart that he will fast tomorrow has formed the intention.” [Majmu' al-Fatawa al-Kubra (5/375)]
  
-if you do not make your intention before fajr for Ramadan
-you have no fasting
-you don't have to voice it out

Ibn Abbas said, "When the Messenger of Allah came to Al-Madinah, he found the Jews fasting the day of 'Ashura'. Therefore he asked them about it and they said, 'This is the day that Allah gave Musa victory over Fir'awn.' Then, the Prophet said, 'We have more right to Musa (than them), so fast it.'" [al-Bukhari (3943) and Muslim (1130)]

-he used to fast on the 10th of Muharram (As-shura)
-but you should fast the 9th and 10th or the 10th and 11th to be different from the Jews
-the taraweeh is either 8 or 20 rakats
-you can hold the Quran and recite whilst leading the taraweeh prayers

Ibn Qudaamah (rh) said: Ahmad said: There is nothing wrong will leading the people in praying qiyaam whilst looking at the Mus-haf. It was said to him: What about obligatory prayers? He said: I have not heard anything concerning that. Al-Qaadi said: It is makrooh in obligatory prayers, but there is nothing wrong with it in voluntary prayers if one has not memorized (Qur'aan), but if one has memorized Qur'aan then it is also makrooh. He said: Ahmad was asked about leading the prayers whilst reading from the Mus-haf in Ramadaan. He said: If that is necessary (it may be done)... and it was narrated from Ibn Haamid that it is equally permissible in both naafil and obligatory prayers. The evidence for it being permissible is the report narrated by Abu Bakr al-Athram and Ibn Abi Dawood with their isnaads from 'Aa'ishah, according to which she would be led in prayer by a slave of hers who read from the Mus-haf. Al-Zuhri was asked about a man who read from the Mus-haf in Ramadaan. He said: The best ones among us used to read from the Mus-hafs... Reading from the Mus-haf has been permitted because of the need to listen to the Qur’aan and recite it in night prayers (qiyaam). The ruling on it being makrooh applies only to those who have memorized Qur’aan, because they will be needlessly distracted from proper focus in prayer (khushoo’) by that, and from looking at the place of prostration. And it is makrooh in obligatory prayers in general, because usually there is no need for it.  [al-Mughni (1/411-412)]

12.  PROPHETIC GUIDANCE IN REGARD TO JANAZA
The sunnah is to bury the Muslims in the graveyard of the Muslims
-and kuffaar in the graveyard of kaafirs and it is haram to bury them in the graveyard of the Muslim
-a gay person can’t be buried in our graveyard because their bodies are burned
-but this can only be done in the Islamic State

You should rush to bury the dead
-if he dies at fajr you should bury him but Maghrib

Ali ibn Abu Talib (RA) reported that Allah’s Messenger (SAW) said to him, “O Ali, Three things you should not postpone: the prayer when the hour for it arrives, the funeral when it is ready, and (the marriage of) an unmarried woman when you find a suitable match for her.” [Sunan Tirmidhi (1/320) No. 171, al-Tarikh al-Kabir al-Bukhari (1/177) No. 538, Musnad Ahmad (1/105) No. 828, Mustadrak al-Haakim (2/176) No. 2686]

-it is recommended that those who wash the dead should make ghusl
-and those who carry the dead should make wudhu

From Ibn ‘Abbaas: “When you wash your dead you do not have to do ghusl afterwards, for your dead are not naajis. It is sufficient for you to wash your hands.” (Narrated by al-Haakim, 1/386; al-Bayhaqi, 3/398).

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever washes the dead, let him do ghusl, and whoever carries him, let him do wudoo’.” Narrated by Abu Dawood, 2/62-63; al-Tirmidhi, 2/132. Some of its isnaads are hasan, and some are saheeh according to the conditions of Muslim.

DUA OF JANAZA:

  اللَّهُمَّ اغْفِرْ لِحَيِّنَا وَمَيِّتِنَا ، وَشَاهِدِنَا وَغَائِبِنَا ، وَصَغِيرِنَا وَكَبِيرِنَا ، وَذَكَرِنَا وَأُنْثَانَا ، اللَّهُمَّ مَنْ أَحْيَيْتَهُ مِنَّا فَأَحْيِهِ عَلَى الإِسْلاَمِ ، وَمَنْ تَوَفَّيْتَهُ مِنَّا فَتَوَفَّهُ عَلَى الإِيمَانِ ، اللَّهُمَّ لاَ تَحْرِمْنَا أَجْرَهُ ، وَلاَ تُضِلَّنَا بَعْدَهُ It was narrated that Abu Huraira (RA) said: 'When the Messenger of Allah (SAW) offered the funeral prayer he would say: "Allahummaghfir lihayyina wa mayyitina, wa shahidina wa gha'ibina, wa saghirina wa kabirina, wa dhakarina wa unthana. Allahumma man ahyaitahu minna faahyihi 'alal-islam, wa man tawaffaytahu minna fa tawaffahu 'alal-eemaan. Allahumma la tahrimna ajrahu wa la tudillana ba'dah"
(“O Allah, forgive our living and our dead, those who are present and those who are absent, our young and our old, our males and our females. O Allah, whomever of us You cause to live, let him live in Islam, and whomever of us You cause to die, let him die (in a state of) faith. O Allah do not deprive us of his reward, and do not let us go astray after him)”. [Sunan Ibn Majah (Vol. 2, pg. 467) No. 1498 and Musnad Ahmad (Vol. 2, pg. 368) No. 8795]

-when praying over the dead, you stand at the shoulder of the man and the waist of the woman
-you are allowed to wash your spouse when he/she dies
-you are allowed to pray over a dead person after the body is buried

Abu Hurayra also reported that a black woman or youth used to sweep the mosque. The Messenger of Allah (SAW) missed her and asked after her or him. They said, "She died." He said, "Why did you not inform me?" It was as if they thought little of her or him. He said, "Show me the grave." They directed him to it and he prayed over it. Then he said, "These graves are filled with darkness surrounding their inhabitants. Allah Almighty illuminates them for them by my praying over them." [al-Bukhari (458) and Muslim (956)]

-you are allowed to pray over dead people in the masjid

Abu Salama b. 'Abd al-Rahman reported on the authority of 'Aisha that when Sa'd b. Abu Waqqas died she said: Bring it (the bier) into the mosque so that I offer prayer for him. But, this act of hers was disapproved. She said: By Allah, the Messenger of Allah (SAW) offered prayer in the mosque for the two sons of Baida', viz, for Suhail and his brother. [Sahih Muslim, Book 4, Hadith #2125]

-you are supposed to walk behind the dead not in front
-and make dhikr as you are taking him to the grave

Umm Atiyyah (RA) reported: “We (womenfolk) were prohibited from accompanying a funeral procession, but we were not compelled (not to do so).” [al-Bukhari (1278) and Muslim (938)]

-women are allowed to walk the dead but it is not recommended

Aisha is reported to have said: "Allah's Messenger returned from al-Baqi (the believers' graveyards; found me while I was experiencing headache and I was uttering, Ah, my head!" Thereupon, he (the Holy Prophet) said, "Nay, I: Ah my head, O Aisha." Then he observed, "Nothing will harm if you pass away before me. I shall take care of you, I shall give a bath, wrap you in a shroud, invoke blessings upon you (in the funeral prayer) and bury you." [Ibn Majah, Vol. 2, #1465] (According to al-Zawaid, "The authorities of the isnad are reliable (and authentic). Bukhari has transmitted it in brief from another angle.")

According to the Shafi`i, Maliki, and Hanbali schools, it is permitted for a husband to wash his deceased wife. This is based on the fact that our liege-lord `Ali (Allah bless him and grant him peace) washed Fatima (Allah be well pleased with her). [Dhahabi, Siyar A`lam al-Nubala]

-you should not sit down before the body is lowered into the grave
-burying people with coffin is imitating the Christians
-you are allowed to plant flowers on the grave

Narrated By Ibn Abbas: The Prophet once passed by two graves, and those two persons (in the graves) were being tortured. He said, "They are being tortured not for a great thing (to avoid). One of them never saved himself from being soiled with his urine, while the other was going about with calumnies (to make enmity between friends). He then took a green leaf of a date-palm tree split it into two pieces and fixed one on each grave. The people said, "O Allah's Apostle! Why have you done so?" He replied, "I hope that their punishment may be lessened till they (the leaf) become dry." [Sahih Bukhari, Vol 2, Book 23, Hadith #443]

-the Rasul (saws) used to ask the ones attending the janazah to make dua for the dead
-because they are being questioned in the grave

-women are discouraged to visit the grave
-but if you do it as a one off then you are not cursed

Abu Hurairah narrated: "Indeed the Messenger of Allah (SAW) cursed the women who visit the graves." [Musnad Ahmad (2/337) No. 8430, Sunan Tirmidhi (3/362) No. 1056, Sunan Ibn Majah (2/515) No. 1576]

  • Allah will keep firm those who believe, with the word that stands firm in this world (i.e. they will keep on worshipping Allah Alone and none else), and in the Hereafter. And Allah will cause to go astray those who are Zalimun (polytheists and wrong-doers, etc.), and Allah does what He wills. (Ibrahim 14:27)

13: The Prophetic Guidance with regards to the wedding night
- when you propose to a woman she should be halal for you
- you should not propose to women in their iddah
- and do not propose to women who are Hindus, Buddhists, Sikhs.
- and do not propose to women in their iddah
- The sister should tell the brother, she is haram for him
- when a woman is in her iddah, she is still married.
- do not propose to apostates or hypocrites.

When you marry a woman, have two witnesses and give her a dowry.
- Have a walimah, when you marry.

Narrated Ibrahim bin Sa'd from his father from his grandfather: 'Abdur Rahman bin 'Auf said, "When we came to Medina as emigrants, Allah's Apostle established a bond of brotherhood between me and Sa'd bin Ar-Rabi'. Sa'd bin Ar-Rabi' said (to me), 'I am the richest among the Ansar, so I will give you half of my wealth and you may look at my two wives and whichever of the two you may choose I will divorce her, and when she has completed the prescribed period (before marriage) you may marry her.' 'Abdur-Rahman replied, "I am not in need of all that. Is there any marketplace where trade is practiced?' He replied, "The market of Qainuqa." 'Abdur- Rahman went to that market the following day and brought some dried buttermilk (yogurt) and butter, and then he continued going there regularly. Few days later, 'Abdur-Rahman came having traces of yellow (scent) on his body. Allah's Apostle asked him whether he had got married. He replied in the affirmative. The Prophet said, 'Whom have you married?' He replied, 'A woman from the Ansar.' Then the Prophet asked, 'How much did you pay her?' He replied, '(I gave her) a gold piece equal in weigh to a date stone (or a date stone of gold)! The Prophet said, 'Give a Walima (wedding banquet) even if with one sheep .'" [Sahih Bukhari (3/52) No. 2048]

- Sisters are not supposed to marry when they are menstruating, it is makhruh
- Fix the wedding date when you are not menstruating.

The man should put his hand on her forehead and make a dua:

When a man enters upon his wife for the first time, he should take her forelock in his hand and say: اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ خَيْرَهَا وَخَيْرَ مَا جَبَلْتَهَا عَلَيْهِ، وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّهَا وَمِنْ شَرِّ مَا جَبَلْتَهَا عَلَيْهِ “Allaahumma innee as’aluka khayrahaa wa khayra ma jabaltahaa ‘alayh, wa a’oodhu bika min sharrihaa wa sharri ma jabaltahaa ‘alayh (O Allah, I ask You for the goodness within her and the goodness that You have made her inclined towards, and I take refuge with You from the evil within her and the evil that You have made her inclined towards).” [Sunan Abu Dawud (2/248) No. 2160, Sunan Ibn Majah (3/105) No. 1918, Mustadrak al-Haakim (2/202) No. 2757, al-Sunan al-Kubra al-Nasa'i (9/108) No. 10021, al-Sunan al-Kubra al-Bayhaqi (7/239) No. 13838]

You are supposed to consummate the marriage as soon as possible.
- As for praying two rakah before consummating the marriage, we do not know any evidence for this

Before consummation you should make a dua:
- It is the job of the husband to make the dua.
- You should give the newly-wed wife something to eat and drink.
- Ask her mother or her sister what your wife likes

Asmaa' bint Yazid ibn As-Sakan: "I beautified 'As'ishah for Allaah's Messenger, then called him to come to see her unveiled. He came, sat next to her, and brought a large cup of milk from which he drank. Then, he offered it to 'Aa'ishah, but she lowered her head and felt shy. I scolded her and said to her: "Take from the hand of the Prophet." She then took it and drank some. Then, the Prophet said to her, "Give some to your companion." At that point, I said: "O Messenger of Allaah, rather take it yourself and drink, and then give it to me from your hand." He took it, drank some, and then offered it to me. I sat down and put it on my knees. Then, I began rotating it and following it with my lips in order that I might hit the spot from which the Prophet had drunk. Then, the Prophet said about some women who were there with me: "Give them some." But, they said: "We don't want it." (ie. we are not hungry). The Prophet said: "Do not combine hunger and fibbing!" [Ahmad]

- it is considered bad manners to kiss with your eyes open in the west,
- but we do not know about the sunnah regarding this.
- Aisha narrated that the prophet kissed her, but she didn't go into details
- Yes, the Christians eat with the left hand.
- fork- left / knife - right
- The shaytan eats with his left hand too

It is not the sunnah to discuss the virginity status.

Abu Sa'id al-Khudri (RA) reported the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: “Indeed from the worst of people on the Day of Resurrection is one who has marital relations with his wife and then spreads her private matters.” [Sahih Muslim (2/1060) No. 1437]

If you hide the sins of a Muslim, Allah Will hide your sins.

14: THE PROPHETIC GUIDANCE IN REGARD TO SPEECH.

- The prophet did not swear when he was speaking
- Allah (swt) dislikes swearing and foul language

  • Allah does not like that the evil should be uttered in public except by him who has been wronged. And Allah is Ever All Hearer, All Knower. (An-Nisa 4:148)

-when the Rasul (saws) was speaking he didn't backbite or slander others

  • O you who believe! Avoid many suspicions, indeed some suspicions are sins. And spy not, neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting). And fear Allah. Verily, Allah is the One Who accepts repentance, Most Merciful. (Al-Hujurat 49:12)

  • Woe to every slanderer and backbiter. (Al-Humuzah 104:1)

-some people come to facebook to backbite and slander as if to say they don't believe in judgement day

Abu Hurairah (RA) reported: The Prophet (SAW) said, "By Allah, he is not a believer! By Allah, he is not a believer! By Allah, he is not a believer." It was asked, "Who is that, O Messenger of Allah?" He said, "One whose neighbour does not feel safe from his evil." [al-Bukhari (6016) and Muslim (46)] Another narration of Muslim is: Messenger of Allah (SAW) said, "He will not enter Jannah whose neighbour is not secure from his wrongful conduct".

-he didn't lie or gossip whilst speaking

On the authority of 'Abdullah bin 'Amr bin Al-'As (RA) that the Prophet (SAW) said: "A Muslim is the one from whose tongue and hands the Muslims are safe; and a Muhajir (Emigrant) is the one who refrains from what Allah has forbidden." [al-Bukhari (10) and Muslim (40)]

There is no good in most of their secret talks save (in) him who orders Sadaqah (charity in Allah's Cause), or Ma'ruf, or conciliation between mankind, and he who does this, seeking the good Pleasure of Allah, We shall give him a great reward. (An-Nisa 4:114)

Narrated By Sahl bin Sa'd: Allah's Apostle said, "Whoever can guarantee (the chastity of) what is between his two jaw-bones and what is between his two legs (i.e. his tongue and his private parts), I guarantee Paradise for him." [Sahih Bukhari (8/100) No. 6474]

..."The head of the matter is Islam, its pillar is the prayer and its peak is jihad." Then he (SAW) said, "Shall I not tell you of the foundation of all of that?" I said, "Yes, O Messenger of Allah." So he took hold of his tongue and said, "Restrain this." I said, "O Prophet of Allah, will we be taken to account for what we say with it?" He (SAW) said, "May your mother be bereaved of you, O Muadh! Is there anything that throws people into the Hellfire upon their faces — or: on their noses — except the harvests of their tongues?" [Sunan Tirmidhi (5/11) No. 2616, Sunan Ibn Majah (5/116) No. 3973, Musnad Ahmad (5/231) No. 22069]

-when he spoke he spoke straight to the point
-he never beat around the bush 

  • O you who believe! Keep your duty to Allah and fear Him, and speak (always) the truth. (Al-Ahzab 33:70)

  • He will direct you to do righteous good deeds and will forgive you your sins. And whosoever obeys Allah and His Messenger (SAW) he has indeed achieved a great achievement (i.e. he will be saved from the Hell-fire and made to enter Paradise). (Al-Ahzab 33:71)

-he didn't speak with a loud voice nor low voice but medium

  • "And be moderate (or show no insolence) in your walking, and lower your voice. Verily, the harshest of all voices is the voice (braying) of the ass." (Luqman 31:19)

-he always spoke the truth even when he was cracking jokes
-if someone said something in his presence and he didn't like it
-you could tell from his face because he will frown

  • "He (Muhammad) frowned and turned away, when the blind man came to him. How do you know; he may be saved? Or, he may heed the message and benefit from such heeding. As for the rich man, you (Muhammad) gave him your attention. Even though you cannot guarantee his salvation. But the one who came to you seeking salvation, and sincerely reverent, you disregarded him. Indeed, THIS IS A REMINDER, for those who choose to remember." (80:112)

-when he spoke, he used simple words easy to understand by the listener

'Ali (RA) said, "Speak to people according to what they know. Do you want Allah and His Messenger to be denied?" Abu't-Tufayl related this from 'Ali. [Sahih Bukhari, (Vol. 1, pg.37) No. 127]
  
-he didn't use flowery speak seeking to impress but his aim was always to guide them,
-he spoke to people at their level of understanding
-1 hour khutbahs are bid’dah

Ammar bin Yasir (RA) reported: I heard Messenger of Allah (SAW) saying, "Prolonging Salat (prayer) and shortening the Khutbah (religious talk) indicate the religious knowledge of the person. Make your Salat long and your sermon short." [Sahih Muslim (2/594) No. 869]

15.  PROPHETIC GUIDANCE IN REGARD TO WALKING
-he would walk with long, strong steps
-he didn’t stare at women along the path
-he would lower his gaze and enjoin the right, forbid the wrong
-he would tell his Companions, don’t sit by the road

The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “Don’t sit and wait on the roadside; and if you must, then protect your eyes from looking at the non-Mahram passing by.” [Muslim]

Narrated Abu Saeed al-Khudri: The Prophet said, "Beware! Avoid sitting on the roads (ways)." The people said, "There is no way out of it as these are our sitting places where we have talks." The Prophet said, "If you must sit there, then observe the rights of the way." They asked, "What are the rights of the way?" He said, "They are the lowering of your gazes (on seeing what is illegal to look at), refraining from harming people, returning greetings, advocating good and forbidding evil." [al-Bukhari (2465) and Muslim (2121)]

16.  PROPHETIC GUIDANCE IN REGARD TO CRYING

-crying for the sake of Allah (swt) is a sign of taqwa

Ibn Abbas (RA) reported that he heard Allah’s Messenger (SAW) say, ‘(There are) two eyes that the Fire will never touch, the eye that wept from fear of Allah and the eye that stood guard in the night in Allah’s path.” [Sunan Tirmidhi (4/175) No. 1639 and Shu'ab al-Eman al-Bayhaqi (3/227) No. 1639]

-the one that doesn't cry has a hard heart
  • Then, after that, your hearts were hardened and became as stones or even worse in hardness. And indeed, there are stones out of which rivers gush forth, and indeed, there are of them (stones) which split asunder so that water flows from them, and indeed, there are of them (stones) which fall down for fear of Allah. And Allah is not unaware of what you do. (Al-Baqarah 2:74)

THE FOUR OCCASIONS THE PROPHET CRIED

1. He cried for the dead
-when the three Sahabah died at Mutah (Zaid, Abdullahd and Jaafar)

Narrated By Anas bin Malik: The Prophet said, "Zaid took over the flag and was martyred. Then it was taken by Jafar who was martyred as well. Then 'Abdullah bin Rawaha took the flag but he too was martyred and at that time the eyes of Allah's Apostle were full of tears. Then Khalid bin Al-Walid took the flag without being nominated as a chief (before-hand) and was blessed with victory." [Sahih Bukhari, Vol 2, Book 23, Hadith #338]

- He cried when his son Ibrahim died

- He cried when his grandson died

Abu Zayd Usama ibn Zayd ibn Haritha, the client of the Messenger of Allah, one he loved and the son of one he loved, said, "A daughter of the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, sent a message to him saying, 'One of my sons is dying, so come.' He sent his greetings to her and said, 'What Allah takes is His and what He gives is His. Everything has a fixed term with Him, so she should show fortitude and expect a reward.' She sent to him imploring him to come to her. He got up with Sa'd ibn 'Ubada, Mu'adh ibn Jabal, Ubayy ibn Ka'b, Zayd ibn Thabit and some other men, may Allah be pleased with them. The child was brought to the Messenger of Allah and he was shuddering. The Prophet's eyes were flowing with tears and Sa'd said, 'Messenger of Allah, what is this?' He said, 'This is an aspect of mercy which Allah has put in the hearts of His slaves.'" [al-Bukhari (1284) and Muslim (923)]

2.  He cried for fear of his ummah (from a catastrophe)

3.  He cried for taqwaa

4.  When he heard a Qur’anic recitation

Ibn Mas'ud (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet () said to me, "Recite the Qur'an to me." I said: "O Messenger of Allah! Shall I recite it to you when it was revealed to you?" He () said, "I like to hear it from others." Then I began to recite Surat An-Nisa'. When I reached the Ayah: 'How will it be when We shall bring a witness from every people and bring you as a witness against them?' (Having heard it) he said, "Enough! Enough!" When I looked at him, I found his eyes were overflowing with tears. [Al- Bukhari and Muslim].

*When is the last time you heard a bayan about Allah ‘tala, His Rasool (pbuh) or the Quran and you cried?*

17.  PROPHETIC GUIDANCE IN REGARD TO EATING

The Rasool (saws) washed his hands and made a duaa

-"bismillah wa 'Alaa barakatillah'

- He never ate unless he was hungry and he told his Sahabahs the same thing

Narrated By 'Umar bin Abi Salama: I was a boy under the care of Allah's Apostle and my hand used to go around the dish while I was eating. So Allah's Apostle said to me, 'O boy! Mention the Name of Allah and eat with your right hand, and eat of the dish what is nearer to you." Since then I have applied those instructions when eating. [Bukhari #5061 & Muslim #2022]

- he only ate when he was hungry and would get up before he was full

Narrated Abu Umama: Whenever the dining sheet of the Prophet (SAW) was taken away (i.e., whenever he finished his meal), he used to say,
الحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ كَثِيرًا طَيِّبًا مُبَارَكًا فِيهِ، غَيْرَ مَكْفِيٍّ وَلاَ مُوَدَّعٍ وَلاَ مُسْتَغْنًى عَنْهُ، رَبَّنَا
Al-hamdu Lillaahi hamdan katheeran tayyiban mubaarakan fihi ghayri makfiyyin wa laa muwadda’ wa laa mustaghni 'anhu Rabbanaa (Allah be praised with an abundant, beautiful, blessed praise. He is the One Who is Sufficient, Who feeds and is never fed, The One Who is longed for, along with that which is with Him, and the One Who is needed. He is Our Lord.) [Sahih Bukhari (7/82) No. 5458]

-you should eat with your right hand and eat from what is in front of you
-it is sunnah to sit down and eat and not to blow on the hot food
-it is haram to eat with your left hand
-he ate with 3 fingers
-when you eat you should leave 1/3 for food, 1/3 for water and 1/3 for air (breathing)

Ibn Umar (RA) reported that the Prophet (SAW) said, “The believer eats in one intestine, while the disbeliever eats in seven intestines.’ [al-Bukhari (5393) and Muslim (2061)]

-it is not allowed to do comfort eating because this leads to obesity
-it is haraam to over eat

Miqdam ibn Ma’dikarib (RA) reported that he heard Allah’s Messenger say, “A man does not fill a vessel worse than his belly. Enough for the son of Adam are a few morsels to keep his back straight. But, if it is unavoidable then let him apportion one third for his food, one-third for his drink and one-third for his breath.” [Sunan Tirmidhi (4/590) No. 2380, Sunan Ibn Majah (4/448) No. 3349, Musnad Ahmad (4/132) No. 17225]

-if he didn't like any food he will not criticise it but will just refrain from eating it
-he encourages us to share food

Abu Huraira (RA) said, "The Messenger of Allah (SAW) never criticised food. If he liked it, he ate it, and if he disliked it, he left it." [al-Bukhari (3563) and Muslim (2064)]


Ibn 'Abbas told Ibn az-Zubayr, "I heard the Prophet (SAW), say, 'A man is not a believer who fills his stomach while his neighbour is hungry.'" [Al-Adab al-Mufrad Al-Bukhari, #112]

Jabir bin 'Abdullah (RA) reported: Messenger of Allah (SAW) said, “The food of one person suffices for two, the food of two persons suffices for four persons, and the food of four persons suffices for eight persons.” [Sahih Muslim (3/1630) No. 2059]

-it is preferable to eat with the jamaa
-you are not allowed to recline and eat
-you should only share your food with pious people

It was narrated from Abu Sa’eed al-Khudri (RA) that he heard the Messenger of Allah (SAW) say, “Do not keep company with anyone but a believer and do not let anyone eat your food but one who is pious.” [Sunan Tirmidhi (4/600) No. 2395, Sunan Abu Dawood (4/259) No. 4832, Musnad Ahmad (3/38) No. 11355]

-you should not eat haram food because prevents your duas from being answered

On the authority of Abu Hurairah, who said : the messenger of Allah said : "Allah the Almighty is good and accepts only that which is good. Allah has commanded the faithful to do that which he commanded the messengers, and the Almighty has said: "O ye messengers ! Eat of the good things and do right". And Allah the Almighty has said : "O ye who believe! Eat of the good things wherewith We have provided you" Then he mentioned [the case of] a man who, having journeyed far, is dishevelled and dusty and who spreads out his hands to the sky [saying] : "O Lord! O Lord!" - while his food is unlawful, his drink unlawful, his clothing unlawful, and he is nourished unlawfully, so how can he be answered !" related by Muslim

  • Eat not (O believers) of that (meat) on which Allah's Name has not been pronounced (at the time of the slaughtering of the animal), for sure it is Fisq (a sin and disobedience of Allah). And certainly, the Shayatin (devils) do inspire their friends (from mankind) to dispute with you, and if you obey them [by making Al­ Maytatah (a dead animal) legal by eating it], then you would indeed be Mushrikun (polytheists) [because they (devils and their friends) made lawful to you to eat that which Allah has made unlawful to eat and you obeyed them by considering it lawful to eat, and by doing so you worshipped them, and to worship others besides Allah is polytheism]. (Al-An'am 6:121)

Ibn 'Umar narrated: 'The Prophet cursed the one who did Muthla to an animal (i.e. cut its limbs or some other part of its body while it is still alive).' [Sahih Bukhari (7/94) No. 5515]

  • Forbidden to you (for food) are: Al-Maytatah (the dead animals - cattle-beast not slaughtered), blood, the flesh of swine, and the meat of that which has been slaughtered as a sacrifice for others than Allah, or has been slaughtered for idols, etc., or on which Allah's Name has not been mentioned while slaughtering, and that which has been killed by strangling,  or by a violent blow, or by a headlong fall, or by the goring of horns - and that which has been (partly) eaten by a wild animal - unless you are able to slaughter it (before its death) ­ and that which is sacrificed (slaughtered) on An­ Nusub (stone altars). (Forbidden) also is to use arrows seeking luck or decision, (all) that is Fisqun (disobedience of Allah and sin). This day, those who disbelieved have given up all hope of your religion, so fear them not, but fear Me. This day, I have perfected your religion for you, completed My Favour upon you, and have chosen for you Islam as your religion. But as for him who is forced by severe hunger, with no inclination to sin (such can eat these above-mentioned meats), then surely, Allah is Oft ­Forgiving, Most Merciful. (Al-Ma'idah 5:3)

18. THE PROPHETIC GUIDANCE WITH REGARD TO DRINKING

Narrated By Abu Qatada: Allah's Apostle said, "When you drink (water), do not breath in the vessel; and when you urinate, do not touch your penis with your right hand. And when you cleanse yourself after defecation, do not use your right hand." [Sahih Bukhari, Vol 7, Book 69, Hadith #534]

He used to drink in 3 or more separate sips
-you are not supposed to breath into the drink

Ibn Abbas (RA) reported that Allah’s Messenger (SAW) said, “Do not drink like a camel in one breath, but drink in two or three sips taking breath, and say Bismillah, when you begin and praise Allah when you have finished.” [Sunan Tirmidhi (4/302) No. 1885]

-it is sunnah to sit down and drink but not fardh

Ibn Abbas (RA) said: "I brought water to the Messenger of Allah (SAW) from Zamzam and he drank whilst standing. [al-Bukhari (1637) and Muslim (2027)] This is all that needs to be said on the matter. If it is asked: How come it is makrooh to drink whilst standing when the Prophet (SAW) did that? The answer is that if what he (SAW) did was to show that it is permissible, then it is not makrooh, rather he (SAW) was obliged to show and explain that, so how can it be makrooh? It is proven that the Prophet (SAW) did wudoo’ washing each part only once, and that he circumambulated the Ka’bah (i.e., did tawaf) riding a camel – even though there is scholarly consensus that it is better to do wudoo’ washing each part three times and that it is better to do tawaf walking. There are many similar examples. The Prophet (SAW) was demonstrating that something is permissible one time or many times, but he persisted in following the better option. So usually when he did wudoo’ he washed each part three times, and he usually did tawaf walking, and he usually drank whilst sitting. This is clear and is not confusing to anyone who has the slightest claim to knowledge. And Allah knows best." [Sharh Sahih Muslim (13/195) No. 2027]
On the authority of An-Nazzal: 'Ali (RA) came to the gate of the courtyard (of the Mosque) and drank (water) while he was standing and said: "Some people say it is makrooh for one of you to drink whilst standing, but I saw the Prophet (SAW) doing what you have seen me do."' [Sahih Bukhari (7/110) No. 5615]

On the authority of Zadhan: ‘Ali ibn Abi Talib (RA) drank whilst standing, and the people looked at him as if they objected to that. He said: “What are you looking at? If I drink whilst standing, I saw the Prophet (SAW) drink whilst standing, and if I drink sitting, I saw the Prophet (SAW) drink whilst sitting.” [Musnad Ahmad (1/101) No. 795]


Al-Nawawi (rh) said: "There is no contradiction in these ahadeeth, praise be to Allah, and none of them are da’eef (weak). Rather they are all saheeh. The correct view is that the forbidding mentioned in them is to be understood as meaning that it is disliked. The fact that the Prophet (SAW) drank whilst standing indicates that it is permissible to do so.



PROPHETIC GUIDANCE (Part 3)

By Shaikh Abdullah El-Faisal

(Evening) PalTalk May 26, 2013
(Notes: AT10 Edit: Z/AT10)

19. PROPHETIC GUIDANCE IN REGARD TO INTERCOURSE
- According to the Sunnah, Intercourse is an act of Ibaadah.
- Sleeping, eating and drinking are all Ibaadah.

Also on the authority of Abu Dharr (RA): Some people from amongst the Companions of the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said to the Prophet (SAW), "O Messenger of Allah, the affluent have made off with the rewards; they pray as we pray, they fast as we fast, and they give [much] in charity by virtue of their wealth." He (SAW) said, "Has not Allah made things for you to give in charity? Truly every tasbeehah [saying: ‘subhan-Allah’] is a charity, and every takbeerah [saying: ‘Allahu akbar’] is a charity, and every tahmeedah [saying: ‘al-hamdu lillah’] is a charity, and every tahleelah [saying: ‘laa ilaha illal Allah’] is a charity. And commanding the good is a charity, and forbidding an evil is a charity, and in the bud’i [sexual act] of each one of you there is a charity." They said, "O Messenger of Allah, when one of us fulfils his carnal desire will he have some reward for that?" He (SAW) said, "Do you not see that if he were to act upon it [his desire] in an unlawful manner then he would be deserving of punishment? Likewise, if he were to act upon it in a lawful manner then he will be deserving of a reward." It was related by Muslim.

It is inappropriate for a woman to be shy with her husband on their wedding night.
- You have needs and you need to fulfill the rights.

Sayyida A’isha (Allah be pleased with her) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) would kiss one of his wives and then leave for prayer (salat) without performing ablution (wudu). Urwa says that I asked A’isha: “It must have been you?” (Upon hearing this) A’isha (Allah be pleased with her) smiled.” (Sunan al-Tirmidhi, no. 86, Sunan Abu Dawud, no. 181 & Sunan al-Nasa’i, no. 170))

Also on the authority of Abu Dharr (RA): Some people from amongst the Companions of the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said to the Prophet (SAW), "O Messenger of Allah, the affluent have made off with the rewards; they pray as we pray, they fast as we fast, and they give [much] in charity by virtue of their wealth." He (SAW) said, "Has not Allah made things for you to give in charity? Truly every tasbeehah [saying: ‘subhan-Allah’] is a charity, and every takbeerah [saying: ‘Allahu akbar’] is a charity, and every tahmeedah [saying: ‘al-hamdu lillah’] is a charity, and every tahleelah [saying: ‘laa ilaha illal Allah’] is a charity. And commanding the good is a charity, and forbidding an evil is a charity, and in the bud’i [sexual act] of each one of you there is a charity." They said, "O Messenger of Allah, when one of us fulfils his carnal desire will he have some reward for that?" He (SAW) said, "Do you not see that if he were to act upon it [his desire] in an unlawful manner then he would be deserving of punishment? Likewise, if he were to act upon it in a lawful manner then he will be deserving of a reward." It was related by Muslim.

Based on this reality, Islam emphasizes on foreplay. Imam 'Ali says, "When you intend to have sex with your wife, do not rush because the woman (also) has needs (which should be fulfilled)." (Wasa'il, vol. 14, p. 40) Sex without foreplay has been equated to cruelty. The Prophet said, "Three people are cruel: . ..a person who has sex with his wife before foreplay.'' (Wasa'il, vol. 14, p. 40) Another hadith equates sex without foreplay to animal behavior: "When anyone of you has sex with his wife, then he should not go to them like birds; instead he should be slow and delaying." (Wasa'il, vol. 14, p. 82) The Prophet said, "No one among you should have sex with his wife like animals; rather there should be a messenger between them." When asked about the messenger, he said, "It means kissing and talking." (Tahzibu'l-Ihya, vol. 3, p. 110) Imam Ja'far as-Sadiq has been quoted as follows, "...there should be mutual foreplay between them because it is better for sex." (Wasa'il, vol. 14, p. 82) The Prophet said, "...every play of a believer is void except in three cases: horse-riding, archery and mutual foreplay with his wife these are haqq." (Wasa'il, vol. 14, p. 83) 

-this means it is sunnah muakadah
-there is a dua you say before intercourse
- There is a dua which is to be recited before intimacy.
- reciting the dua is the job of the man

INTIMACY HAS 5 MEDICAL BENEFITS
-it’s unnatural not to indulge in intimacy (when you are married)

1. Less Stress, Better Blood Pressure
Having sex could lower your stress and your blood pressure. That finding comes from a Scottish study of 24 women and 22 men who kept records of their sexual activity. The researchers put them in stressful situations -- such as speaking in public and doing math out loud -- and checked their blood pressure.

People who had had intercourse responded better to stress than those who engaged in other sexual behaviors or abstained. Another study found that diastolic blood pressure (the bottom number of your blood pressure) tends to be lower in people who live together and have sex often.

2. Sex Boosts Immunity
Having sex once or twice a week has been linked with higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A, or IgA, which can protect you from getting colds and other infections. A Wilkes University study had 112 college students keep records of how often they had sex and also provide saliva samples for the study. Those who had sex once or twice a week had higher levels of IgA, an antibody that could help you avoid a cold or other infection, than other students.

3. Sex Burns Calories
Thirty minutes of sex burns 85 calories or more. It may not sound like much, but it adds up: 42 half-hour sessions will burn 3,570 calories, more than enough to lose a pound. Doubling up, you could drop that pound in 21 hour-long sessions.  (1)  People who live together tend to live 10 years longer than those who don't have a sexual partner.  "Sex is a great mode of exercise," Los Angeles sexologist Patti Britton, says. It takes both physical and psychological work, though, to do it well, she says.

4. Sex Improves Heart Health
A 20-year-long British study shows that men who had sex two or more times a week were half as likely to have a fatal heart attack than men who had sex less than once a month. And although some older folks may worry that sex could cause a stroke, the study found no link between how often men had sex and how likely they were to have a stroke.

5. Better Self-Esteem
University of Texas researchers found that boosting self-esteem was one of 237 reasons people have sex. That finding makes sense to sex, marriage, and family therapist Gina Ogden. She also says that those who already have self-esteem say they sometimes have sex to feel even better. "One of the reasons people say they have sex is to feel good about themselves," she says. "Great sex begins with self-esteem. If the sex is loving, connected, and what you want, it raises it."

- A married woman has no problems with her husband pinning her down.
- It means that he finds her attractive, and desires her.
- Some women are not pleased with their sex lives.
- The men will always say that the woman always complains.

The Prophet (saws) said: When you are going to do something you should do it properly.

On the authority of Abu Ya’la Shaddad bin Aws (RA), that the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: Verily Allah has prescribed ihsan (proficiency, perfection) in all things. (It was narrated by Muslim)

The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: "Do good deeds properly, sincerely and moderately. . .Always adopt a middle, moderate, regular course, whereby you will reach your target (of paradise)." - Sahih Al-Bukhari, Volume 8, Hadith 470 

- Who are the mutafiffeen?
- When they buy from you, they want you to give them full measure.
- But when you buy from them, they cheat the scales.

  • Woe to Al-Mutaffifin [those who give less in measure and weight (decrease the rights of others)], (Al-Mutaffifin 83:1)

  • Those who, when they have to receive by measure from men, demand full measure, (Al-Mutaffifin 83:2)
  • And when they have to give by measure or weight to men, give less than due. (Al-Mutaffifin 83:3)

Many men want to reach their orgasm, but they don't give full measure to their wives.
- i.e they do not care if their wives get pleasure.
- This is very selfish.
- A selfish lover is not marriage material
- marriage is a relationship
- the key towards proper intimacy is communication, communication, communication.

If you were previously married and the previous partner likes something,
- that does not mean that your current partner likes that very same thing.

SIZE MATTERS:  according to Shariah law, a woman can divorce her husband if his penis is too small for her
-or it doesn’t work properly
-a sister will not ask a brother how he can perform in the bedroom, or how big he is.

Is VIAGRA allowed?
-Yes, for people who have erectile dysfunction
- The Japanese brought out a tablet, which some people say is better than Viagra (STREE OVERLORD)

Sex toys in the bedroom:
- They are not allowed if it is used to replace the male organ
- because it gives the husband insecurity.
- It is only allowed if the husband is totally impotent.
- Husband and wife looking at each other naked:
- The scholars of Islam discussed the question

Can husband and wife go to bed naked and look at each other’s private parts?
- A man and wife are allowed to look at each other naked.


I would like to know whether sleeping naked with your spouse is permitted in Islam? If yes, then if you embrace each other while sleeping will you have to do ghusl before prayers or just wudoo would do?  With regard to the first part of the question, that is permissible for the couple. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “And those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts, from illegal sexual acts) Except from their wives or (the slaves) that their right hands possess, for then, they are free from blame” [al-Mu’minoon 23:5-6]

Aisha and Maimoona were able to describe the ghusl of the prophet.

On the authority of 'Aa'ishah (RA) who said: "I used to bathe with the Prophet from a single container of water which was placed between us such that our hands collided inside it. He used to race me such that I would say: 'Leave some for me, leave some for me!' She added: 'We were in a state of Janabah (i.e. the state of having slept together).'" [al-Bukhari (299) and Muslim (321)]

With regard to (evidence from) the Sunnah, it is narrated that ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and I used to do ghusl from one vessel placed between me and him. He would hasten until I would say, ‘Leave some for me, leave some for me.’”(Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 258; Muslim, 321 – this version narrated by Muslim). Al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar said:  al-Dawoodi took this as evidence to indicate that it is permissible for a man to look at the ‘awrah of his wife and vice versa. This is supported by the report narrated by Ibn Hibbaan from Sulaymaan ibn Moosa, who was asked about a man looking at his wife’s private parts. He said, I asked ‘Ataa’ and he said: I asked ‘Aa’ishah and she mentioned this hadeeth. Al-Haafiz said: this is the definitive report on this matter. Ibn Hazm (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: It is halaal for a man to look at his womenfolk’s private parts – his wife and his female slave with whom he is permitted to have intercourse – and it is permissible for them to look at his private parts. There is no reservation at all concerning that. The proof of that is the well-known reports narrated from ‘Aa’ishah, Umm Salamah and Maymoonah, the Mothers of the Believers (may Allaah be pleased with them), who narrated that they used to do ghusl with the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) to cleanse themselves from janaabah (impurity following sexual activity) from one vessel. The report of Maymoonah clearly indicates that he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) was uncovered, because in her report it states that “he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) dipped his hand into the vessel then poured water over his private parts and washed them with his left hand.” After this there is no need to follow the (mere) opinion of anyone. It is strange that some of those ignorant people who want to make things difficult allow intercourse but forbid looking at the private parts! (al-Muhalla, 9/165)

Al Muhalla is a fiqh book. ( It also contains aqeedah ).
- One of the students asked if we are allowed to take from Al Muhalla because Ibn Hazm believes music is halal,
- The shaikh replied, is there a Muslim that can live without this book ?

Sexual positions
- When the sahabas made hijrah to Madinah
- One sahabi got married, and tried to make love to his wife from behind.
- His wife objected strongly,
- this position was a taboo in Madinah, it was an old Jewish superstition,
- that if you had sex in this position your child would be born with a squint in its eye.

Ibn Abu Umar (RA) reported from Sufyan from Ibn Munkadir that he heard Jabir (RA) say, “The Jews used to say that if anyone has sex with his wife from the front but comes from the rear then their child will be squint eyed. So this verse was revealed; “Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when or how ye will.” (2: 223) [Tirmidhi 2989, Bukhari 21528, Muslim 1435, Abu Dawud 2163, Nisai 2163, Muslim 11038, Ibn e Majah 1925]

  • Your wives are a tilth for you, so go to your tilth (have sexual relations with your wives in any manner as long as it is in the vagina and not in the anus), when or how you will, and send (good deeds, or ask Allah to bestow upon you pious offspring) before you for your ownselves. And fear Allah, and know that you are to meet Him (in the Hereafter), and give good tidings to the believers (O Muhammad ). (Al-Baqarah 2:223)

The Shia put a spin on this ayah:
- They say this ayah is evidence that anal sex is halal in Islam.
- We the Sunnis refuted the Shi'ites with the same ayah.

Allah Said tilth  ( to cultivate ).
You cannot cultivate when having anal sex.
- cultivate here means impregnate.
- It is impossible to impregnate when you have anal sex.
- Shia have a history of sexual perversion.
- The Shi'ites are cursed.

Abu Huraira (RA) narrated that the Prophet (SAW) said, "If anyone has sexual intercourse with a menstruating woman, or goes into her anus, or visits a Kahin (soothsayer) then indeed he has disbelieved in what is revealed to Muhammad." [narrated by Ahmad (Vol. 2, pg.408) No. 9279; Abu Dawood (Vol. 2, pg.408) No. 3904; Tirmidhi (Vol. 1, pg.242) No.135; Ibn Maajah (Vol. 1, pg.404) No. 639]


Oral sex
- The Hanbalis and the Maalikis allow oral sex.
- The Maalikis are the most liberal with regards to sex.
- In the tafseer of Qurtubi: Surah 24:31
- He derived from this that oral sex is allowed.

  • And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.) and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent (like palms of hands or one eye or both eyes for necessity to see the way, or outer dress like veil, gloves, head-cover, apron, etc.), and to draw their veils all over Juyubihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms, etc.) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband's fathers, their sons, their husband's sons, their brothers or their brother's sons, or their sister's sons, or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islām), or the (female) slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack vigour, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful. (An-Nur 24:31)

According to Shariah, everything is halal until proven haraam.
-many Muslims couples dispute over oral sex because they didn't talk about it before marriage
-but this is difficult for a Muslim woman to talk about because they are shy

- If your husband asks you to do oral sex, you have to do it.
- if you do not, he might have an affair,
- some people are coming out of jahiliyyah and they were introduced to oral sex before.
- the pleasure center in the man's brain is addicted to this.

- If you are demanding oral sex from your wife
- you should expect that she will demand it from you.
- If you are prepared to demand oral sex, you should be prepared to give oral sex

- If you go to bed with your wife, you should BOTH make istinja and wudu
- Istinja means to wash your private parts.
- When you want to repeat the act.
- It is not permissible to have sex for the second time without istinja.
- But the prophet made wudu and slept in janaba

Sleeping in the state of janaba is permissible

It is permissible to delay ghusl until the time of Fajr, but it is recommended for the husband and wife to perform wudu’ before they sleep. This was the view of the majority of scholars, and An-Nawawi reported that there was scholarly consensus on this point (Al-Kafi, 1:173; Al-Muhadhdhab, 1:33; Al-Mughni, 1:229).


Their evidence is the hadith of `A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her), whose authenticity is agreed upon. She narrated that when the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) wanted to sleep whilst he was in a state of impurity (janabah), he would wash his private parts and perform wudu’ as for Prayer.


They also use as evidence the report narrated by Ibn `Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) who said that `Umar said, “O Messenger of Allah, may anyone of us sleep when he is in a state of impurity?” He said, “Yes, if he performs wudu’” (Reported by Al-Bukhari and Muslim).

When you make love once and want to repeat the act, it is fardh to make istinja
- it is not fardh to make wudu ( before repeating the act ).

- If a you have sex , and you fall asleep, it is not haram.
- but it is recommended to make wudu before sleeping.

- It is makhrooh to make love during a storm, hurricane, earthquake or eclipse, or volcanic eruption.
At these times you should be making dhikr of Allah.
- These are natural phenomenon of Allah.

To talk while making love:
- It is permissible to talk, but you should not say a thing which amounts to shirk.
- i.e, "you are my lord". " You are the greatest".
- Even though you are having fun and you are excited, it doesn't give you the right to speak kufr/shirk.

Is it permissible to have a threesome?
- NO, you cannot have intercourse with both wives at the same time.
- It is haraam for one woman to look at the private parts of another woman.
- Do not bring jahiliyyah into Islam with you.

Marriage to a Virgin and Non Virgin
-you should spend 7 days w/ her
-a non-virgin, you should spend 3 days w/ her
-this is because a virgin needs longer time for you to ‘break her in’

(24) Narrated Anas: It is the Prophet's tradition that if someone marries a virgin and he has already a matron wife then he should stay for seven days with her (the virgin) and then by turns; and if someone marries a matron and he has already a virgin wife then he should stay with her (the matron) for three days, and then by turns.  (Bukhari Book #62, Hadith #141)

Masturbation
- a woman and man can masturbate each other
-i.e if she is on her menses
- A man who has intercourse with his wife while she is on menses has done haraam
- he has to give away four and one-quarter of gold

Coitus Interruptus
- pulling out the penis before ejaculation
- he needs wife’s permission to do this because he denies her off-spring
- he doesn’t need permission of his concubine
- He is cutting her pleasure, and her offspring.
- He does not need the permission of a concubine to do coitus interruptus.

Having sex in the shower
-this is permissible because everything is permissible unless proven haraam

Sex games
-these are permissible except the ones that can threaten your life
-blind-folding a partner is permitted
-people can die during sex games

Spilling bedroom secrets
-this is haraam to discuss bedroom secrets
-kaafir women do this; this is rife in the west

Asma’ bint Yazeed, who said that she was with the Messenger of Allah (SAW), when men and women were sitting with him, and he said: “I think there are some men who talk about what they do with their wives, and that there are some women who talk about what they do with their husbands.” The people stayed silent. [Asma’] said: “Yes, by Allah, O Messenger of Allah, [women] do that and [men] do that!” He said, “Do not do that, for it is as if a male devil met a female devil in the street and had intercourse with her whilst the people were watching.” [Musnad Ahmad (Vol. 6 p.456) No. 27624]

Exception: if a woman has a husband who is not performing well, she can seek expert advice from a doctor, etc  



PROPHETIC GUIDANCE (Part 4)

By Shaikh Abdullah El-Faisal

(Evening dars) - May 27th 2013
[Notes typed live by AT10/AT8
Edited by Z/AT10]

20. BATHROOM ETIQUETTES

The Islamic Faith caters for us, morally, spiritually, socially, militarily; it caters for us in all aspects of life.

Among the signs of the greatness of the blessed Islamic sharee’ah is the fact that there is no good thing, major or minor, that it has not commanded us to do or pointed the way to it, and there is no bad thing, major or minor, that it has not warned us against or forbidden. It is perfect and complete in all aspects, a fact which has often greatly astonished non-Muslims and earned their admiration. (At the time of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)), one of the mushrikeen (polytheists) said to (the Prophet’s Companion) Salmaan al-Farsi (may Allaah be pleased with him): “Your Prophet has taught you everything, even how to defecate!” Salmaan said: “Yes, he forbade us to face the qiblah when urinating or defecating…” (Reported by al-Tirmidhi, no. 16; he said it is a saheeh hasan hadeeth; also reported in Saheeh Muslim and elsewhere). Islamic sharee’ah includes a number of rules and manners to be followed when answering the call of nature, including the following:
 Not to face the qiblah (direction of prayer, i.e. the Ka’bah which was built in Makkah by Ibrahim, upon whom be peace, as commanded by Allaah) when urinating or defecating. This is out of respect for the Qiblah and for the symbols and rituals of Allaah. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “When any one of you sits down to answer the call of nature, he should not face the qiblah or turn his back towards it.” (Reported by Muslim, 389). He should not touch his penis with his right hand when urinating, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “When any one of you urinates, he should not hold his penis in his right hand or clean it with his right hand; and (when drinking), he should not breathe into the vessel.” (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 150). He should not remove najaasah (impurity) with his right hand; the left hand should be used for this purpose, because of the hadeeth quoted above, and because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “When any one of you wipes himself, he should not use his right hand.” (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 5199).
The Prophet’s wife Hafsah (may Allaah be pleased with her) reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to use his right hand for eating, drinking, making wudoo’, getting dressed, and giving and taking things, and he used to use his left hand for other things. (Reported by Imaam Ahmad; see also Saheeh al-Jaami’, 4912). Abu Hurayrah reported that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “When any one of you cleans himself, he should not use his right hand; he should use his left hand.” (Reported by Ibn Maajah, 308; see also Saheeh al-Jaami’, 322). The Sunnah is to answer the call of nature sitting, making oneself close to the ground, because this is more concealing, and makes it less likely that spray from one's urine will come back on one’s body or clothes, making them dirty. If a person can be sure of avoiding this, then it is permissible to urinate standing up. A person should be concealed from the sight of others when answering the call of nature. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to prefer to go behind a rise in the ground or a garden of date palms. (Reported by Muslim, 517).  If a person is out in an open space and cannot find anything to conceal him when he needs to answer the call of nature, he should move far away from the other people around him, because al-Mugheerah ibn Shu’bah said: “I was with the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) on a journey, when he felt the need to answer the call of nature, so he went far away.” (Reported by al-Tirmidhi, 20; he said it is a saheeh hasan hadeeth).
‘Abd-Allaah ibn Abi Quraad said: “I went out with the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) to an open space, and when he needed to answer the call of nature, he moved away.” (Reported by al-Nisaa’i, 16; see also Saheeh al-Jaami’, 4651) A person should not uncover his ‘awrah (private parts) until after he has squatted close to the ground, because this is more concealing, as Anas (may Allaah be pleased with him) reported: “When the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) wanted to answer the call of nature, he would not lift his garment until he had squatted close to the ground.” (Reported by al-Tirmidhi, 14; see also Saheeh al-Jaami’, 4652).
If a person is in a (modern) toilet, he should not lift his garment until he has closed the door and is out of sight of other people. With regard to this point and the one before, it is worth noting that the habit of many people in the West and elsewhere, of urinating in a standing position in front of other people in public toilets (using urinals) is something which goes against good manners, modesty and decency, and is repulsive to anyone who possesses sound common sense and wisdom. How can anybody uncover in front of other people the ‘awrah (private parts) which Allaah has placed between his legs to conceal it and commanded him to cover it? The idea that it should be covered is well established among all wise and decent people of all races. It is wrong in principle to build restrooms of this shameful type, where the users can see one another, thus making them worse than some kinds of animals whose habit is to conceal themselves from one another when urinating or defecating. It is also good manners according to Sharee’ah to recite certain adhkaar (supplications) when entering or leaving the toilet, which are quite appropriate to the situation and place. Our Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) taught us that when entering the toilet, we should say: “Allaahumma innee a’oodhi bika min al-khubthi wa’l-khabaa’ith (O Allah, I seek refuge with You from male and female devils).” When leaving the toilet, he should say: “Ghufraanak (I seek Your forgiveness).” He should be careful to remove all impurity after answering the call of nature, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) warned against being careless in cleaning oneself after urinating: “Most of the punishment of the grave will be because of urine.” (Reported by Ibn Maajah, 342; see also Saheeh al-Jaami’, 1202).
Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with them both) reported that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) passed by two graves, and said: “They are being punished, but they are not being punished for any major sin. One of them used not to protect himself (i.e. keep himself clean from) his urine, and the other used to walk about spreading malicious gossip.” (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 5592). Any impurity should be washed or wiped three times or an odd number of times greater than three, according to whatever is needed to cleanse it, because ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to wash his posterior three times. Ibn ‘Umar said: “We did this too and found it to be healing and cleansing.” (Reported by Ibn Maajah, 350; see also Saheeh al-Jaami’, 4993).Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “When anyone of you cleans himself (with stones or similar material) let him use an odd number.” (Reported by Imaam Ahmad; classed as hasan in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 375). He should not use bones or dung to clean himself or wipe away the impurity, rather, he should use tissue, stones, and the like. Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) reported that he used to carry a vessel for the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) to do wudoo’ and clean himself after answering the call of nature. Whilst he was following him, he (the Prophet) asked, “Who is that?” He said: “I am Abu Hurayrah.” He said: “Get me some stones I can use to clean myself, but do not bring me any bones or dung.” So I brought him some stones, carrying them in the hem of my garment, and placed them by his side, then I went away. When he had finished, I came back and asked him, “What is wrong with bones and dung?” He said: “They are the food of the jinn.” (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 3571). A person should not urinate into stagnant water, because Jaabir (may Allaah be pleased with him) reported that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) forbade anyone to urinate into stagnant water (reported by Muslim, 423), and because this makes the water impure and harms those who use it. A person should not urinate by the roadside or in places where people seek shade, because this is offensive to them. Abu Hurayrah reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Fear the two things that bring curses.” They asked, “What are the two things that bring curses, O Messenger of Allaah?” He said: “When a person relieves himself in the road where people walk or in the place where they seek shade.” (Reported by Abu Dawud, 23; see also Saheeh al-Jaami’, 110). One should not greet a person who is answering the call of nature, or return a greeting whilst one is answering the call of nature, out of respect to Allaah by not mentioning His name in a dirty place. [Translator’s note: the Islamic greeting is “al-salaam ‘alaykum (peace be upon you)”; one of the names of Allaah is al-Salaam (the Peace)].
Jaabir ibn ‘Abd-Allaah reported that a man passed by the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) whilst he was urinating, and greeted him. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to him: “If you see me in this state, do not greet me, because if you do, I will not respond.” (Reported by Ibn Maajah, 346; see also Saheeh al-Jaami’, 575). The majority of scholars say that it is makrooh (disliked) to speak in the restroom unnecessarily. These are some of the rules and manners prescribed by the sharee’ah of Islam in this matter which is repeated many times a day by every person. If the sharee’ah has paid such minute attention to the details of such a mundane matter, what do you think it has to say about more important issues? Do you know of any other religion or system in the world that has brought laws like this? This is enough, by Allaah, to prove its perfection and beauty, and the necessity of following it. We ask Allaah to give us and you strength and to guide us all to the truth. May Allaah bless our Prophet Muhammad.

To face the Qibla when relieving oneself, is haraam.
- this ruling is for the open desert (outside the house, not inside the house)
If a Muslim should buy a house, and there is a toilet that faces the qibla:
- There is no need to dig it up and change its position.

Narrated 'Abdullah bin 'Umar: I went up to the roof of Hafsa's house for some job and I saw Allah's Messenger answering the call of nature facing Sham (Syria, Jordan, Palestine and Lebanon regarded as one country) with his back towards the Qibla. [al-Bukhari (148) and Muslim (266)] Marwan al-Asfar said: I saw Ibn Umar make his camel kneel down facing the qiblah, then he sat down urinating in its direction. So I said: Abu Abdur Rahman, has this not been forbidden? He replied: Why not, that was forbidden only in open


When drinking you should not breathe into the vessel.

When urinating or cleaning you must only use your left hand.

Also when you shake hands, or give something - Use the right hand.
- When you receive something use the right hand also.

The reason for stooping (squatting, sitting low) when you answer the call of nature:
- Is to avoid splashing urine on yourself, your clothing.
- Urine on the clothes is a reason for punishment in the grave.
- If a Muslim can avoid splashing urine on his clothing (or body), then he can stand and urinate.
Sitting and drinking is better, but if one stands and drinks he did not do anything wrong.

A person should be concealed from the people when relieving oneself.
- A person should not uncover his private parts until he has squatted close to the ground, because this is more concealing.
- If a person is in a modern toilet, he should not uncover himself until he has closed the door.
- In the west they have urinals for men to urinate in it, people urinate in front of others,
- this is against the moral Islamic values, and it is repulsive.

Football players shower together, in an open shower.
- Muslims are not allowed to behave like that.
- The kuffaar know that we (The Muslims) do not reveal our private parts,
- This is one reason why they carried out the Abu Ghuraib.
- The kuffaar have a habit of offending behaviour.
- This is why they like to offend others, when anything offends others, they do it.

- Some animals like the camel conceal themselves when urinating and defecating.
- Camels also mate in private.

When the Muslim enters to toilet, we enter with the left foot and recite a dua:

Allahumma in-nee a'oothu bika minal khubu-thee wal khabaa ith.

- When you recite the dua, Allah screens you from the shaytan.
- Shaytan likes to look at the private parts of others, that is why porn is rife in the kuffaar society.

  • O Children of Adam! Let not Shaitān (Satan) deceive you, as he got your parents [Adam and Hawwa (Eve)] out of Paradise, stripping them of their raiments, to show them their private parts. Verily, he and Qabīluhu (his soldiers from the jinns or his tribe) see you from where you cannot see them. Verily, We made the Shayātin (devils) Auliyā' (protectors and helpers) for those who believe not. (Al-A'raf 7:27)

When we leave the toilet we leave with the right foot and make a dua: Ghuf-raa naka

If you drop urine on your clothing, you cannot do salah in that clothing.

Any impurity should be washed or wiped 3 times or an odd number of times, whatever is required.

- Cleaning yourself with stones, is for the battlefield or on a journey.
- In the home you use toilet tissue and water.
- If you are on a journey and you have no water, you can use tissue alone.

If you have water, you should combine the two (tissue and water)
- The Muslim should not use bones, dung or glass.
- Bones are the food of the Jinn.
- You are not allowed to use objects that will damage your body.
- The dung is the food of the animals of the jinn.
- The dung of our animals is the food for the animals of the Jinn.

You should not urinate/defecate at a public place, or a tree that people use for a shade.
- Everything for us is clearly defined.

Allah Said:

  • We have neglected nothing in the Book, then unto their Lord they (all) shall be gathered. (Al-An'am 6:38)

It is impossible for you to approach the Bible and find all aspects of life clearly defined.

- One should not greet one who is answering the call of nature,
- or return the greeting when you are answering the call of nature.
There is no evidence to say that you cannot give salaam to someone who is eating.

- Even though it is Makrooh to call Allah's name in the toilet:
- in the western countries, where the toilet and the bath is in the same place, 
- you may say Bismillah before your Wudu or Ghusl 
- It is Makrooh to be speaking while in the toilet un-necessarily . 
- This is not according to Islamic morals and values.

To say Bismillah before your Wudu and Ghusl, is obligatory according to the Hanbali school of thought
- If you do not say Bismillah, your Wudu in invalid according to the Hanbali school.

Shaykh Ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: There is nothing wrong with doing wudoo’ inside the bathroom if necessary, and saying Bismillaah at the beginning, because saying Bismillaah is obligatory according to some scholars, and is strongly encouraged according to the majority. So he should do that, and the ruling on it being makrooh is waived, because such rulings are waived when it is necessary to say Bismillaah. A person is commanded to say Bismillaah when starting to do wudoo’, so he should say it and complete his wudoo’. Majmoo’ Fataawa al-Shaykh Ibn Baaz, 10/28

It is Haraam to face or have your back the Qibla while relieving yourself while in open space.

- Whereas, if there is a wall in between you and Qibla, 
- there is no need to switch positions of the toilet in the home.

Narrated Abu Aiyub Al-Ansari: The Prophet said, “While defecating, neither face nor turn your back to the Qibla but face either east or west.” Abu Aiyub added. “When we arrived in Sham we came across some lavatories facing the Qibla; therefore we turned ourselves while using them and asked for Allah’s forgiveness.”  Bukhari 1 - 8 – 388


Narrated on the Authority of Abdullah bin Umar People say, "Whenever you sit for answering the call of nature, you should not face the Qibla or Bait-ulMaqdis (Jerusalem)." I told them. "Once I went up the roof of our house and I saw Allah's Apostle answering the call of nature while sitting on two bricks facing Bait-ul-Maqdis (Jerusalem) (but there was a screen covering him.' (Hadith no: 147. Fateh Al-Bari, Page 258, Vol. 1).

It is important to be opened minded in your Deen, to receive knowledge you must take the good from every scholar

For Ex. Bin Baz only made a mistake with his Fatwa on allowing the Kuffar unto Muslims lands.
However, every other Fatwa, which has nothing to do with politics are straight
The Prophet (Saws) accepted the truth from the Shaitan. So why can't we take the truth from every scholar.

21.  PROPHETIC GUIDANCE IN REGARD TO RECEIVING A NEWBORN BABY

There is no action prescribed in sharee’ah for preparing to welcome a new baby a day or two before he is born, as far as we know. But one can recite general du’aa’s, such as praying for the newborn to be safe and sound, to be guided, and so on. Allaah mentioned in His Book the prayer of the righteous woman, the wife of ‘Imraan, who said (interpretation of the meaning):  “(Remember) when the wife of ‘Imraan said: ‘O my Lord! I have vowed to You what (the child that) is in my womb to be dedicated for Your services (free from all worldly work; to serve Your place of worship), so accept this from me. Verily, You are the All-Hearer, the All-Knowing.’ Then when she gave birth to her [child Maryam (Mary)], she said: ‘O my Lord! I have given birth to a female child,’ — and Allaah knew better what she brought forth, — ‘And the male is not like the female, and I have named her Maryam (Mary), and I seek refuge with You (Allaah) for her and for her offspring from Shaytaan (Satan), the outcast.’” [Aal ‘Imraan 3:35-36] There follows an outline of what should be done on the day of the child’s birth, and after that: It is mustahabb to do tahneek for the baby and to pray for him.It was reported that Abu Moosa said: “I had a baby boy, and I brought him to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). He named him Ibraaheem, did Tahneek with some dates and prayed for Allaah to bless him, then he gave him back to me.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5150; Muslim, 2145). Tahneek means putting something sweet, such as dates or honey, in the child’s mouth when he is first born. It is permissible to name the child on the first day or on the seventh. It was reported that Anas ibn Maalik said: the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “A boy was born to me this night and I have named him with the name of my father Ibraaheem.” (Narrated by Muslim, 3126). It was reported that ‘Aa’ishah said: the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did ‘aqeeqah for al-Hasan and al-Husayn on the seventh day, and gave them their names. (Narrated by Ibn Hibbaan, 12/127; al-Haakim, 4/264. Classed as saheeh by al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar in Fath al-Baari, 9/589). ‘Aqeeqah and circumcision It was reported from Salmaan ibn ‘Aamir (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “For the boy there should be an ‘aqeeqah. Slaughter (an animal) for him and remove the harmful thing [i.e., the foreskin] from him.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 1515; al-Nasaa’i, 4214; Abu Dawood, 2839; Ibn Maajah, 3164. The hadeeth was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani, may Allaah have mercy on him, in al-Irwaa’, 4/396).
It was reported that Samurah ibn Jundub (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “A boy is ransomed by his ‘aqeeqah. Sacrifice should be made for him on the seventh day, he should be given a name and his head should be shaved.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 1522; al-Nasaa’i, 4220 and Abu Dawood, 2838. The hadeeth was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani, may Allaah have mercy on him, in al-Irwaa’ 4/385). Imaam ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: Among the benefits of ‘aqeeqah are:It is a sacrifice by means of which the child is brought close to Allaah soon after he comes into this world. It is a ransom for the newborn; his ‘aqeeqah ransoms him so that he can intercede for his parents. It is a sacrifice by which the newborn is ransomed just as Allaah ransomed Ismaa’eel with the ram. (Tuhfat al-Mawdood, p. 69). Perhaps another benefit of the ‘aqeeqah is the gathering of relatives and friends for the waleemah (feast). 4.Circumcision is part of the Sunan al-Fitrah (practices related to the pure and natural inclinations of man). It is obligatory in the case of boys because it is connected to matters of purity which are essential conditions of prayer. It was reported from Abu Hurayrah: “Five things are related to the Fitrah: circumcision, removing the pubic hairs, plucking the armpit hairs, cutting the nails, and trimming the moustache.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5550; Muslim, 257). Thirdly:Among the Sunnahs for welcoming the newborn, the scholars mentioned that the Adhaan should be recited into the baby’s right ear so that the first thing he hears in this world will be the words of Tawheed, which will have a great and blessed effect on the child. With regard to reciting the iqaamah in the child’s left ear, there is nothing to prove that this is required. (See al-Silsilat al-Da’eefah, 1/491). Fourthly:Shaving the child’s head then anointing the child’s head with saffron is very beneficial. Then it is prescribed to give in charity gold or silver equal in weight to the hair. This does not have to be done by actually weighing the hair; if it is too difficult to do that, it is sufficient to estimate the weight and give paper currency equivalent to the price of that amount of gold or silver. We ask Allaah to protect us and our children from all evil and to keep them safe and sound in this world and in the Hereafter. May Allaah bless our Prophet Muhammad. Tahneek is to chew something sweet like dates or honey. This is done by a pious person. Then the dates are put in the mouth of the new born baby, so that the baby can taste the sweetness.

- You can name the child on the first day if you like
- You may also circumcise the child immediately as long as there are no medical side effects
- The foreskin is very harmful, it makes it easy for the person to catch diseases.
- They also cause women to develop cervical cancer.
- Muslim women should not marry men who are not circumcised. These men are like dogs, they are unclean.
- It is Fard to circumcise the male child

Narrated By Abu Huraira: I heard the Prophet saying. "Five practices are characteristics of the Fitra: circumcision, shaving the pubic hair, cutting the moustaches short, clipping the nails, and depilating the hair of the armpits." [al-Bukhari (6297) and Muslim (496)]

It was reported from Salmaan ibn ‘Aamir (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “For the boy there should be an ‘aqeeqah. Slaughter (an animal) for him and remove the harmful thing [i.e., the foreskin] from him.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 1515; al-Nasaa’i, 4214; Abu Dawood, 2839; Ibn Maajah, 3164. The hadeeth was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani, may Allaah have mercy on him, in al-Irwaa’, 4/396)

- It is part of the five things that are part of the Fitrah
- As for girls, you are not allowed to circumcise her. It is not Fard, nor can you force a girl to get it done.
- if it’s a boy you sacrifice two sheep, if it’s a girl you sacrifice one sheep.
- You shave the child’s head, then weigh the hair and give away its equivalent weight in silver or gold
- Silver if you are poor and gold if you are rich.

When you sacrifice a lamb for the child, you ransom your child,
- the same way Nabi Ismail was ransomed by a lamb by Allah when He commanded Nabi Ibrahim to sacrifice him.
- when you sacrifice a sheep for your child, your child will be able to intercede for parents  on the Day of Judgement.

The Prophet said, give your children good names because Allah will call them on the Day of Judgement with their name

Narrated By Abu Darda': The Prophet (SAW) said: "On the Day of Resurrection you will be called by your names and by your father's names, so give yourselves good names." [Sunan Abu Dawood (4/287) No. 4948, Sunan al-Darime (2/380) No. 2694, Musnad Ahmad (5/194) No. 21739 (isnaad daeef)]

Abu Wahb al-Jushami (RA), who was a companion of the Prophet (SAW), narrated the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: “Give your children the names of Prophets, and the most beloved of names to Allah are ‘Abdullah and ‘Abdur-Rahman, and the most truthful are Haarith and Hammaam [these names both refer to one who is always doing something, whether good or bad], and the worst are Harb and Murrah [meaning ‘war’ and ‘bitterness’ respectively].” [Sunan Abu Dawood (4/287) No. 4950, al-Bukhari in 'Adab al-Mufrad' No. 814 and Bayhaqi in 'al-Sunan al-Kubra' (9/514) No. 19307]
  
Ibn ‘Umar (RA) narrated the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: “The most beloved of your names to Allah are ‘Abdullah and ‘Abdur-Rahman.” [Sahih Muslim (3/1682) No. 2132, Sunan Tirmidhi (5/133) No. 2834, Sunan Abu Dawood (4/287) No. 4949, Sunan Ibn Majah (4/672) No. 3728, Sunan al-Darime (2/380) No. 2695, Musnad Ahmad (2/24) No. 4774]

22.  PROPHETIC GUIDANCE IN REGARD TO THE RIGHTS OF A CHILD

The very first right of the child over you is for the child to be born legitimate.
- This is one reason why abortion is halal:
- If a Muslim woman should be raped she can have an abortion.
- Some people say it is Qadr Allah for her to be pregnant, then no human being is allowed to interfere.

- There is nothing in the Quran and Sunnah, that a Muslim should be pleased with Qadr Allah.
- So if a Muslim woman is raped, she doesn't have to be pleased with it. So she can have an abortion.
 - Plastic surgery is halal:
- If your child was born with sticking out ears, then you can take the child for plastic surgery and change their ears.
- In this case you are not changing Allah's creation, but beautifying it out of necessity


Narrated 'Urfajah bin As'ad: "My nose was severed on the Day of Al-Kulab during Jahiliyyah. So I got a nose of silver which caused an infection for me, so the Messenger of Allah (SAW) ordered me to get a nose made of gold." [Sunan Tirmidhi (4/240) No. 1770, Sunan Abu Dawud (4/92) No. 4232, Sunan al-Nasa'i (8/16) No. 5161, Musnad Ahmad (5/23) No. 20285]

Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (rh) was asked: What is the ruling on cosmetic surgery that is done by women? He replied: "If it is done to remove a fault, there is nothing wrong with it so long as it does not cause any harm, because ‘Arfajah (RA) wore a nose made of gold when his nose was cut off. One example is tightening or lifting drooping breasts." [Thamaraat al-Tadween (p. 133)]

- Plastic surgery is haram: When a man wants to become a woman and changes his private parts.

- That is changing Allah's creation.

  • Verily, I will mislead them, and surely, I will arouse in them false desires; and certainly, I will order them to slit the ears of cattle, and indeed I will order them to change the nature created by Allah." And whoever takes Shaitān (Satan) as a Walī (protector or helper) instead of Allah, has surely suffered a manifest loss. (An-Nisa 4:119)