By Shaikh Abdullah Fiasal Morning Dars: April 21, 2013
TAFSEER SURAH ISRA - Be Dutiful To Your Parents (21/04/2013)
Notes by fatimah 38
And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour. (Al-Isra 17:23)
And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: "My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was small." (Al-Isra 17:24)
One of the pillars of Islam is to look after your parents after they attain old age.
To enjoin the right and forbid the evil is another pillar of Islam.
Jihad is the sixth pillar of Islam.
Islam has more than 5 pillars.
The four great Imams agreed that when parents become old and cannot work anymore, it is incumbent on the children to look after them.
Allah mentioned worshipping Allah alone and looking after parents side by side in the same ayah because looking after parents is an act of ibadah.
Narrated By Abdullah bin Masud: I asked Allah's Apostle, "O Allah's Apostle! What is the best deed?" He replied, "To offer the prayers at their early stated fixed times." I asked, "What is next in goodness?" He replied, "To be good and dutiful to your parents." I further asked, what is next in goodness?" He replied, "To participate in Jihad in Allah's Cause." I did not ask Allah's Apostle anymore and if I had asked him more, he would have told me more. [al-Bukhari (527) and Muslim (85)]
It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (RA) said: The Prophet (SAW) ascended the minbar and said: “Ameen, ameen, ameen.” It was said: ‘O Messenger of Allah, you ascended the minbar and said, ‘Ameen, ameen, ameen.” He said: “Jibreel (peace be upon him) came to me and said: ‘If Ramadan comes and a person is not forgiven, he will enter Hell and Allah will cast him far away. Say Ameen.’ So I said Ameen. He said: ‘O Muhammad, if both or one of a person’s parents are alive and he does not honour them and he dies, he will enter Hell and Allah will cast him far away. Say Ameen.’ So I said Ameen. He said: ‘If you are mentioned in a person’s presence and he does not send blessings upon you and he dies, he will enter Hell and Allah will cast him far away. Say Ameen.’ So I said Ameen.” [Sahih Ibn Hibban, (3/188) No. 907 and Sahih Ibn Khuzaymah (3/192) No. 1888]
It was narrated that Mu'awiyah bin Jahimah As-Sulami said: "I came to the Messenger of Allah (SAW) and said: 'O Messenger of Allah, I want to go for Jihad with you, seeking thereby the Face of Allah and the Hereafter.' He said: 'Woe to you! Is your mother still alive?' I said: 'Yes.' He said: 'Go back and honor her.' Then I approached him from the other side and said: 'O Messenger of Allah, I want to go for Jihad with you, seeking thereby the Face of Allah and the Hereafter.' He said: 'Woe to you! Is your mother still alive?' I said: 'Yes.' He said: 'Go back and honor her.' Then I approached him from in front and said: 'O Messenger of Allah, I want to go for Jihad with you, seeking thereby the Face of Allah and the Hereafter.' He said: 'Woe to you! Is your mother still alive?' I said: 'Yes.' He said: 'Go back and serve her, for there is Paradise.'" [Sunan Ibn Majah (Arabic/English), Vol. 4, pg. 57, Hadith #2781]
A man once consulted the Prophet Muhammad about taking part in a military campaign. The Prophet asked the man if his mother was still living. When told that she was alive, the Prophet said: "(Then) stay with her, for Paradise is at her feet." (Al-Tirmidhi)
The Islamic culture is to look after your parents and to feed your guests.
This is not from the kaafir culture. Their culture is to dump their parents in old age homes and leave them there to rot.
The first thing Prophet Ibrahim did was to kill a lamb to feed his guests. He did not know that they were angels because they came in the form of handsome men.
We follow the millah of Ibrahim so we feed our guests.
You can only be a guest in your brother's house for three days.
The only time you can stay longer is when the person extends your welcome.
Otherwise you will become a burden on your brother and cause him to sin because he might resent you.
And you devour inheritance all with greed, (Al-Fajr 89:19) And you love wealth with much love! (Al-Fajr 89:20)
When you live in darul harb your wealth becomes your pride.
For you to be loved in darul harb, you have to be young, rich and handsome.
The kuffar don't like their parents and can't wait for them to die to inherit their property.
10000 old people died from the heat wave in France.
Their children refused to bury them because it was too expensive to do so.
If a person should die at Fajr time, we bury the person by Maghrib time.
We don't bury people in coffins.
Therefore the Islamic funeral is cheap.
The kaafir funeral is expensive so it becomes a burden on the people.
The children in France abandoned their parents, by not burying them, and left them for dogs to eat because it's not the kaafir culture to look after parents.
Old age homes are a big business in Europe.
There's no incentive for people who don't believe in the hereafter to look after their parents.
Kaafirs will eat without offering their food to people.
The only time you can eat at someone’s house is when they don't talk about it.
It was only after reverts in the West took their shahadah did they learn about offering their food to others.
There are two types of shirk - major and minor.
Minor shirk is to do good to show off.
Major shirk is to worship a false deity.
There is no such thing as the excuse of ignorance for worshipping a false deity.
This is the ideology of the wicked scholars (excuse of ignorance for worshipping a false deity) and they are called the ghulaat murjia (the extreme liberals).
The murji refuses to make takfeer even when the text is clear.
The khawaarij is on the opposite end of the spectrum. He exaggerates with his takfeer.
You cannot be a murji or be from the khawaarij.
You have to be from the middle of the spectrum (Ahlus sunnah wal jamaah).
Thus We have made you [true Muslims - real believers of Islāmic Monotheism, true followers of Prophet Muhammad and his Sunnah (legal ways)], a Wasat (just) (and the best) nation, that you be witnesses over mankind and the Messenger (Muhammad) be a witness over you. (2:143)
You are from the middle nation.
If you don't give your wife money to go shopping you have lost your conjugal rights because a woman cannot make love on a hungry belly.
If a woman is disobedient towards her husband, she has lost her right to maintenance.
When three million Afghanis went to Pakistan because their country was invaded by the Soviet Union the Pakistanis didn't insult the Afghanis.
However when people seek asylum in Europe they are bad mouthed because the kuffar of Europe are atheists.
The favourite word used by the Sun newspaper to refer to an asylum seeker is a scrounger.
What forms of ibadah can a child do for his/her parents while they are living and when they have died? Please give examples from the quran، sunnah، and pratice of the rightous salaf.
Praise be to Allaah.
The rights of parents over their children may be summed up as treating them well in all matters, and behaving with them kindly as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And We have enjoined on man to be dutiful and kind to his parents”
“And We have enjoined on man to be dutiful and kind to his parents”
“but behave with them in the world kindly”
Shaykh al-Sa’di (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: “be dutiful and kind to parents” means: treat them kindly in all ways, in word and in deed.
Tafseer al-Sa’di, p. 524.
One of the most important acts of worship that the child is asked to do with regard to his parents is to obey them, to do as they ask and to refrain from what they tell him not to do. So if his father tells him to do something, he hastens to do what he is told, and if he tells him not to do something, he hastens to give it up, so long as that does not involve any disobedience towards Allaah and his Messenger, because there is no obedience to any created being if itinvolves disobedience towards the Creator.
Then he can make du’aa’ for them and pray for forgiveness for them, especially when they grow old and weak and are in need of someone to treat them kindly and take care of their needs. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour.
24. And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: ‘My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was young’”
Allaah has given examples in His Book of kind treatment of parents. Allaah says of His slave Yahya ibn Zakariyya:
“(It was said to his son): ‘O Yahya (John)! Hold fast the Scripture [the Tawraat (Torah)].’ And We gave him wisdom while yet a child.
13. And (made him) sympathetic to men as a mercy (or a grant) from Us, and pure from sins [i.e. Yahya (John)] and he was righteous,
14. And dutiful towards his parents, and he was neither arrogant nor disobedient (to Allaah or to his parents).
15. And Salaam (peace) be on him the day he was born, and the day he dies, and the day he will be raised up to life (again)!”
Ibn Jareer al-Tabari (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: Here Allaah says: “And dutiful towards his parents” meaning that he was quick to obey them, loving towards them, and not disobedient.
“and he was neither arrogant nor disobedient” – here Allaah tells us that he was not too proud to obey Allaah or his parents, rather he was humble and submissive towards Allaah and his parents, doing what he was commanded to and avoiding what was forbidden to him; he neither disobeyed his Lord nor his parents.
Tafseer al-Tabari, 16/58
And Allaah said of His slave ‘Eesa ibn Maryam (interpretation of the meaning):
“He [‘Eesa (Jesus)] said: ‘Verily, I am a slave of Allaah, He has given me the Scripture and made me a Prophet;
31. And He has made me blessed wheresoever I be, and has enjoined on me Salaah (prayer), and Zakaah, as long as I live.” Deceased
32. And dutiful to my mother, and made me not arrogant, unblest’”
Ibn Katheer (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: The words “And dutiful to my mother” mean: and He has commanded me to be dutiful to my mother. This is mentioned after obedience to his Lord, because Allaah often mentions the command to worship him and to be dutiful to one’s parents together, as in the verses where He says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents”
“give thanks to Me and to your parents. Unto Me is the final destination”
And the words “and made me not arrogant, unblest’” mean, He has not made me arrogant and too proud to worship and obey Him and to honour my mother, and thus be doomed as a result of that.
Tafseer Ibn Katheer, 3/121
As for after the parents have died, the child can do many things, such as the following:
1 – If he has wealth, and his parents were in debt, he can discharge their duty by paying off the debt for them.
2 – If he has wealth and his parents had not performed Hajj, he may perform Hajj on their behalf, or pay for someone else to perform Hajj on their behalf.
3 – He may pray for forgiveness for them and pray for mercy for them. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“and say: ‘My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was young’”
Shaykh Ibn Sa’di (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: this means, pray for mercy for them, when they are alive and after they die.
Tafseer al-Sa’di, p. 524
It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “A man may be raised in status in Paradise and will say, Where did this come from? And it will be said: From your son’s praying for forgiveness for you.” Narrated by Ibn Maajah, 3660; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, no. 1617. This applies if the child has reached the age of discernment and is able to earn money. But if the child is young and does not yet understand things, then these words do not apply in his case.
An example of how the righteous salaf honoured their parents is that of ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him):
It was narrated from ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Dinaar from ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Umar that a man from among the Bedouins met him on the road to Makkah. ‘Abd-Allaah greeted him with salaam, seated him on the donkey that he was riding and gave him a turban that he had been wearing on his head. Ibn Dinar said: We said to him: May Allaah guide you, they are just Bedouins and they would be content with little. ‘Abd-Allaah said: The father of this man was a friend of ‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab and I heard the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: “The best act of kindness is for the son to uphold ties (of friendship) with those who were his father’s friends.” Narrated by Muslim, 2552.
According to another report narrated by Ibn ‘Umar: when he went out to Makkah, he had a donkey which he would ride when he got tired of riding his camel, and a turban which he tied around his head. One day whilst he was riding that donkey, a Bedouin passed by him. He said: Are you not So and so, the son of So and so? He said: Yes. He gave him the donkey that he was riding and said: Ride it. And he gave him the turban that he had been wearing on his head, and he said: Tie it around your head. Some of his companions said: May Allaah forgive you, you have given this Bedouin a donkey that you used to ride when you got tired of riding your camel and a turban that you used to wear on your head. He said: I heard the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say: “The best act of kind of kindness is for a man to honour his father’s friend after he has died,” and (this man’s) father was a friend of ‘Umar.
Abu Hurayrah was appointed in charge of Madeenah by Marwaan. He lived in Dhu’l-Hulayfah (approximately ten kilometers from Madeenah) and his mother lived in one house and he lived in another. When he wanted to go out he would stand at her door, and say: Peace be upon you, O my mother, and the mercy of Allaah and His blessings. And she would say: And upon you, O my son, and the mercy of Allaah and His blessings. And he would say: May Allaah have mercy on you, as you brought me up when I was young. And she would say: May Allaah have mercy on you as you took care of me when I grew old. Then when he wanted to come in, he would do likewise.
And Allaah knows best.
When the ulama talk about praying for parents after they die, this is referring to parents who died as Muslims.
When your parents die, you should make hajj on their behalf, if they didn’t perform hajj.
You can pay charity on behalf of your deceased parents.
The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him): “When a man dies, all his good deeds come to an end except three: ongoing charity (sadaqah jaariyah), beneficial knowledge, or a righteous child who will pray for him.” Narrated by Muslim (1631) from Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him). In Arabic, the word walad (translated here as “child”; the plural is awlaad) includes both male and female, as in the verse in which Allah, may He be exalted, says: “Allah commands you as regards your children’s [awlaadikum] (inheritance); to the male, a portion equal to that of two females” [an-Nisa’ 4:10].
- CAN YOU FAST ON BEHALF OF YOUR DEAD PARENT?
There is no difference of opinion regarding this.
If your parents die without making hajj, you should make hajj for them or pay someone to make hajj on their behalf.
The scholars do not differ on fasting, giving charity or making hajj on behalf of deceased parents.
They differed on reciting Quran on behalf of deceased parents.
There is no need to perform hajj on behalf of a shaheed because all of his previous sins are forgiven.
According to shariah law, you cannot make hajj on behalf of someone else if you haven’t performed hajj for yourself yet.
- HOW CAN ONE ADVICE A PARENT ON RELIGIOUS MATTERS SUCH AS IF YOU PARENT SAYS THEIR INTENTION OUT LOUD WHEN THEY ARE PRAYING? HOW SHOULD ONE CONVINCE THEIR PARENT THAT THIS IS NOT FROM THE SUNNAH AND THAT THE INTENTION IS DONE IN THE HEART?
What your parents are doing is not an issue so leave it.
- WHEN MY MOTHER KEEPS ASKING ME TO SHAVE MY BEARD, WHAT CAN I TELL HER TO STOP HER?
You are not allowed to go against the ijma of the sahabah.
The first people to shave off the beard are the gay men of Sodom and Gomorrah.
There is no obedience to the creation when you are disobeying the Creator.
When the scholars talk about obeying parents they are talking about good parents.
Some parents are Barelvis and goofy Sufis.
If your parents are kuffaar and they die you can go to the janazah even though the scholars differ.
The scholars that disagree quote this ayah (9:84).
They quote this ayah out of context because this ayah was revealed regarding the munaafiqeen.
Ali buried his kafir father, Abu Talib.
The Prophet Muhammad stood up for the Jewish janazah to show respect for the dead Jew.
Narrated 'Abdur Rahman bin Abi Laila: Sahl bin Hunaif and Qais bin Sad were sitting in the city of Al-Qadisiya. A funeral procession passed in front of them and they stood up. They were told that funeral procession was of one of the inhabitants of the land i.e. of a non-believer, under the protection of Muslims. They said, "A funeral procession passed in front of the Prophet and he stood up. When he was told that it was the coffin of a Jew, he said, "Is it not a living being (soul)?" [Sahih Bukhari, Vol 2, Book 23, Hadith #399]
- Shaykh, here in South Africa people say maulid is a good bid’ah.
Shaikh took over the celebration of the birthday of the Prophet Muhammad by talking about the Prophet’s merits and keeping kufr and shirk at bay.
The Prophet Muhammad was designated as a prophet before Adam was created.
Therefore he was the first and last prophet.
When Prophet Muhammad was asked: "When did you become a Prophet?" he replied; "I was a Prophet when Adam was between the water and the mud -before he came into existence." (2) In the Sufi perception, another concept that symbolizes this Haqiqat-i Muhammadiyya", which encompasses all the prophets from the first prophet, Adam to the final prophet, Muhammad, is the concept of Nur-i Muhammadi. It is known that Prophet Muhammad is described in the Holy Quran (Al-Ahzab 33:46) as a "lamp that gives light". In another verse, it is conveyed to us that Prophet Muhammad is a "light from Allah" (Al-Maida 5:15). (3)
As for the hadeeth, 'I was the first Prophet to be created and the last to be sent' narrated by Abu Nu'aym in 'ad-Dalaa'il' (pg. 6) and others then this is weak (da'eef) as declared by al-Munaawee and adh-Dhahabee (d.748) and al-Albaanee. ['Silsilah ad-Da'eefah' (2/115 no.661) for detailed documentation.]
The hadeeth related from the Messenger (SAW), "I was a Prophet while Adam was between clay and water" and the hadeeth, "I was a prophet when there was no Adam and no clay" ibn Taymiyyah said, "This has no basis. Neither from the point of view of transmission or intellect, for not a single scholar of hadeeth mentions it and it's meaning is invalid. For Adam was never in a state in which he was between clay and water, for clay consists of water and mud, rather he was in a state between the spirit and body. Then these misguided people think that the Prophet (SAW) was physically present at that time, and that his person was created before all persons, and they support this with ahaadeeth which are lies (against the Prophet), for example the hadeeth that he used to be Light surrounding the Throne" ['Radd alaa al-Bakree' of ibn Taymiyyah (pg. 9)] as-Suyutee said, "maudu" and endorsed the above words of ibn Taymiyyah. ['Dhail al-Mawdoo'aat' of as-Suyutee (pg. 203)]And he also says about the s
Ali ibn al-Husayn from his father from his grandfather said that the Prophet said: "I was a light in front of my Lord for fourteen thousand years before He created Adam. Imam Ahmad in his Fada'il al-sahaba (2:663 #1130), Dhahabi in Mizan al-i`tidal (1:235), and al-Tabari in al-Riyad al-nadira (2:164, 3:154).