By Shaikh Abdullah Faisal
THE WIVES OF THE PROPHET SERIES::: ZAYNAB BINT KHUZAIMA
By Shaykh Abdullah Faisal
PalTalk – April 25, 2013
This wife is unique because she was not from Quraish
-and she was given the nick name, 'the mother of the miskeen'
-this is the person who needs to beg to eat
Zaynab Bint Khuzaima
Born in 595, Zaynab bint Khuzaima, Umm al-Masaakin, Mother of the Poor) was the fifth wife of the Holy Prophet Muhammad (saws). As a result of her early death, less is known about her than any of his other wives. Typically described as being in her late 20s, although occasionally said to be 48, she was described as "beautiful". She was known for her "compassion and pity" for the poor, thus gaining the title Umm al Masaakin, Mother of the Poor.
Zaynab was first married to Tufail bin Harith, who either divorced her or died shortly afterward. Zaynab then married her first husband's brother, Ubaydah ibn al-Harith. In 624, her husband died of wounds received in the Battle of Badr, and she began to live in poverty. Ibn Kathir in his 14th century Sira, referred to Zaynab's first husband as being Husayn bin al-Harith, and her second marriage to Jahsh bin Ri'ab, who was killed at the Battle of Uhud.
There are conflicting reports whether she was shunned and sought her for marriage, or that she turned down many offers of marriage. Some even suggest she had a third husband, who also died
Marriage to Prophet Muhammad (saws).
The following year shortly after his marriage to Hafsa bint Umar the Prophet Muhammad (saws) approached her with a mahar of either 400 dirhams or 12 ounces of gold, and offered to marry her. There has been debate about how the marriage was proposed, in Ibn Kalbi's al-Isaba, he claimed that Muhammad proposed to her directly - while Ibn Hashim wrote that her uncle, Quobaisa bin Arm al-Hilali had arranged the marriage proposal. It was said the marriage, which took place during the holy month of Ramadan, was meant to assure his followers that their deaths in battle would not mean their families would starve and be neglected. She was the first of his wives to come from outside the Quraysh tribe. At one point, a poor man came to her house to beg for some flour, and she gave him the last of her own, and went without food that night. Muhammad was moved by her compassion, and told his other wives about it and preached that "if you have faith in Allah...he would provide for your sustenance, even as he doeth for the birds, who leave their nest hungry in the morning, but return full at night".
Death of Zaynab Bint Khuzaima
She died less than two years later, some suggest as little as two months, the only one of Muhammad's wives to die before him, other than his first wife Khadijah. It has been suggested she died during the month of Rabi' al-thani, four years after the Hijra.
She was buried in Jannat al-Baqi, carried into her grave by Muhammad.
After her death, her household in Muhammad's circle remained empty for a notable period of time, before his sixth wife, Umm Salama was moved in, and noted "He married me and moved me to the chamber of Zaynab bint Khuzaima, the Mother of the Poor".
LESSONS TO BE LEARNED FROM THE STORY OF ZAYNAB BINT KHUZAIMA
1. ZAYNAB WAS KIND-HEARTED
-to the extent she was called the mother of the miskeen
2. THE MERITS OF LOOKING AFTER WAR WIDOWS
Abu Huraira reported that Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: One who makes efforts (for earning to be spent) on a widow and the destitute is like a striver in the cause of Allah, and I think he also said: He is like one who constantly stands for prayer and observes fast without breaking it. [Muslim 7107]
3. THE HOLY PROPHET (saws) LED BY EXAMPLE
-it is easy to preach marry the widows but not to practise it
-he married Umm Salamah who was a war widow
-and Zaynab bint Khuzaima
-The purpose of this marriage was to send a message to the sahabah
-that their family will not be abandoned if they should die on the battle field
-because a man will hesitate to go to jihad because they are worried who will look after their wives and children
When Ja'far died in the battle of Mut'a, Abu Bakr immediately married his widow after her iddah
-and looked after his kids like his own
4. NIKAH IN RAMADAN IS VALID
-the prophet married her in Ramadan
-it is valid but unwise
-for others other than the prophet (saws)
Aisha said the sunnah is to marry in shawwal
-and the prophet married her in shawwal
-so we are not supposed to encourage people to marry in Ramadan
Question: I want to know that a man loves a girl and want to marry her in the holy month of Ramadan he wants to talk to her. Are there any restrictions in Islam that says he can’t marry that girl in Ramadan? He loves that girl so much he want to marry that girl so give me the Shariah ruling about this matter.
Answer: Praise be to Allaah. - There is nothing in Islam to suggest that it is not allowed to get married during the month of Ramadan because it is Ramadan, or in any other month. Rather marriage is permitted on any day of the year. But the one who is fasting in Ramadan must refrain from eating, drinking and intercourse from dawn until sun set. So if he can control himself and there is no fear of him doing something that will break his fast, there is nothing wrong with him getting married in Ramadan. It seems that those who want to start married life in Ramadan usually cannot be patient and keep away from their new wives throughout the day, and there is the fear that they may do something that is forbidden and they may fall into grave sin, for which it is obligatory to make up that day’s fast and offer a severe expiation, which is freeing a slave; if that is not possible then they must fast for two consecutive months; if that is not possible then they must feed sixty poor persons. If intercourse happens repeatedly on a number of days, then this expiation must also be repeated for the same number. Our advice to this questioner is that if there is the fear that he may not be able to control himself, he should delay his marriage until just after Ramadan, and he should keep himself busy during Ramadan, with worship, reading Qur’aan, thikr, praying qiyaam, and other acts of worship.
5. THE PROPHET (saws) DID NOT MARRY WOMEN ONLY FROM HIS TRIBE
-because asabiyya is rife among the ummah
-Zaynab was beautiful and pious and not from Quraish
Abu Malik al-Ashari narrated the Prophet (SAWS) said: ”There are four matters of jaahiliyyah that exist among my ummah and they will not give them up: boasting about one’s forefathers, casting aspersions upon people’s lineages, seeking rain by the stars and wailing for the dead.” [Sahih Muslim (Vol. 2 pg. 644) No. 934]
Narrated Jubair ibn Mut’im: The Messenger of Allah (SAWS), said: "He is not one us who calls for 'Asabiyah, (nationalism/tribalism) or who fights for 'Asabiyah or who dies for 'Asabiyah." [Sunan Abu Dawud (Vol. 2, pg. 753) No. 5121]
'Aisha (Allah be pleased with her) reported: Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) contracted marriage with me in Shawwal and took me to his house as a bride during Shawwal. And who among the wives of Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) was dearer to him than I, and' 'Aisha liked that the women (of her family) should enter the houses as brides during the month of Shawwal. [Sahih Muslim, Book 8, Hadith 3312]
6. THE TAWAKKUL and PIETY OF ZAYNAB
-she gave away the last morsel of food she had in her house
-and went to bed with no food
7. THE PROPHET WAS IMPRESSED WITH WHAT SHE DID AND EVEN MADE A SPEECH ABOUT IT.
Umar ibn Khattab reported that Allah’s Messenger said “If you trust in Allah observing a true trust in Him, then, indeed, He will give you provision as He provides the birds who emerge hungry in the morning and return with a full belly in the evening.” [Sunan Tirmidhi (4/573) 2344, Musnad Ahmad (1/30) No. 205, Sunan Ibn Majah (5/266) No. 4164]
8. THE IMPORTANCE OF CHARITY IN ISLAM
There follow some of the shar’i texts which you could quote in order to encourage giving in charity. We ask Allaah to benefit you thereby and decree reward for you.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “O you who believe! Spend of that with which We have provided for you, before a Day comes when there will be no bargaining, nor friendship, nor intercession. And it is the disbelievers who are the Zaalimoon (wrongdoers)” [al-Baqarah 2:254]
“The likeness of those who spend their wealth in the way of Allaah, is as the likeness of a grain (of corn); it grows seven ears, and each ear has a hundred grains. Allaah gives manifold increase to whom He wills. And Allaah is All-Sufficient for His creatures’ needs, All-Knower. 262. Those who spend their wealth in the Cause of Allaah, and do not follow up their gifts with reminders of their generosity or with injury, their reward is with their Lord. On them shall be no fear, nor shall they grieve” [al-Baqarah 2:261-262]
“O you who believe! Spend of the good things which you have (legally) earned, and of that which We have produced from the earth for you, and do not aim at that which is bad to spend from it, (though) you would not accept it save if you close your eyes and tolerate therein. And know that Allaah is Rich (Free of all needs), and Worthy of all praise”
“Believe in Allaah and His Messenger (Muhammad), and spend of that whereof He has made you trustees. And such of you as believe and spend (in Allaah’s way), theirs will be a great reward” [al-Hadeed 57:7]
It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever gives charity equal to a date from good (halal) earnings – for Allaah does not accept anything but that which is good – Allaah will take it in His right hand and tend it for the one who gave it as any one of you tends his foal, until it becomes like a mountain.” [Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1344; Muslim, 1014.]
It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “There is no day on which the people get up but two angels come down and one of them says, ‘O Allaah, give in compensation to the one who spends (in charity),’ and the other says, ‘O Allaah, destroy the one who withholds.’” [Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1374; Muslim, 1010.]
It was narrated that Abu Sa’eed al-Khudri (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) went out – on Eid al-Fitr or Eid al-Adha – to the prayer place, and when he had finished (the prayer) he preached to the people and enjoined them to give charity. He said, “O people, give in charity!” Then he went over to the women and said, “O women, give in charity for I have seen that you are the majority of the people of Hell.” When he went home, Zaynab the wife of Ibn Mas’ood came seeking permission to see him. It was said, “O Messenger of Allaah, here is Zaynab.” He said, “Which Zaynab?” It was said, “The wife of Ibn Mas’ood.” He said, “Yes, let her in.” So they let her in and she said, “O Prophet of Allaah, today you enjoined charity, and I have some jewelry which I wanted to give in charity, but Ibn Mas’ood claims that he and his child have more right to receive it in charity.” The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him [Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1393; Muslim, 80.]
It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah said: ‘Spend, O son of Adam, and I shall spend on you.’” [Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5073; Muslim, 993.]
- the reason why people withhold is because they fear poverty
- they are not convinced that Allah Will Give back to them
- They fear poverty
On the authority of Muadh bin Jabal (RA) who said: I said, "O Messenger of Allah, tell me of an act which will take me into Paradise and will keep me away from the Hellfire." He (SAWS) said, "You have asked me about a great matter, yet it is easy for him for whom Allah makes it easy: worship Allah, without associating any partners with Him; establish the prayer; pay the zakat ; fast in Ramadhan; and make the pilgrimage to the House."
Then he (SAWS) said, "Shall I not guide you towards the means of goodness? Fasting is a shield; charity wipes away sin as water extinguishes fire; and the praying of a man in the depths of the night." Then he (SAWS) recited: "[Those] who forsake their beds, to invoke their Lord in fear and hope, and they spend (charity in Allah’s cause) out of what We have bestowed on them. No person knows what is kept hidden for them of joy as a reward for what they used to do." [as-Sajdah, 16-17]
Then he (SAWS) said, "Shall I not inform you of the head of the matter, its pillar and its peak?" I said, "Yes, O Messenger of Allah." He (SAWS) said, "The head of the matter is Islam, its pillar is the prayer and its peak is jihad." Then he (SAWS) said, "Shall I not tell you of the foundation of all of that?" I said, "Yes, O Messenger of Allah." So he took hold of his tongue and said, "Restrain this." I said, "O Prophet of Allah, will we be taken to account for what we say with it?" He (SAWS) said, "May your mother be bereaved of you, O Muadh! Is there anything that throws people into the Hellfire upon their faces — or: on their noses — except the harvests of their tongues?" [Sunan Tirmidhi (5/11) No. 2616, Sunan Ibn Majah (5/116) No. 3973, Musnad Ahmad (5/231) No. 22069]
CHARITY COOLS THE ANGER OF YOUR LORD
Anas bin Malik narrated that the Messenger of Allah (SAWS) said: "Indeed charity extinguishes the Lord's anger and it protects against the evil death." [Sunan Tirmidhi (3/43) No. 664] (Daeef)
Ali (RA) narrated that the Messenger of Allah (SAWS) said: ”Give charity without delay for it stands in the way of calamity.” [Mishkat al-Masabih (1/591) No. 1887] (Daeef)
And nothing prevents their contributions from being accepted from them except that they disbelieved in Allah and in His Messenger (Muhammad SAW); and that they came not to As-Salat (the prayer) except in a lazy state; and that they offer not contributions but unwillingly. (At-Tawbah 9:54)
Narrated By Zaynab bint Um Salama : When Um Habiba bint Abi Sufyan was informed of her father's death, she asked for perfume and rubbed it over her arms and said, "I am not in need of perfume, but I have heard the Prophet saying, "It is not lawful for a lady who believes in Allah and the Last Day to mourn for more than three days except for her husband for whom the (mourning) period is four months and ten days. [Sahih al Bukhari Vol. 7 No. 257]
- Zaynab bint Umm Salamah was the step daughter of the Prophet (pbuh)
- She grew up with the prophet and he, the prophet used to treat her like his own daughter.
- Abu Sufyan fought many battles, he fought in the battle of Yarmuk and lost one of his eyes.
- The Shia say that the Islam of Abu Sufyan was fake.
- Don't listen to the Shia.
...There is a lump of flesh in the body, the nature of which is that when it is sound, the entire body is sound, and when it is corrupt, the entire body is corrupt - it is the heart.'" [al-Bukhari (52) and Muslim (1599)]
You must TAKE CARE OF YOUR HEART:
- Avoid, harmful reading, listening, viewing, company.
- What the Shia believe is ideology, we don't call it aqeedah (creed).
- The widow doesn't have to spend all of her waiting period in the house of her husband.
Narrated By Mujahid : (Regarding the Verse): 'If any of you dies and leaves wives behind,' That was the period of the 'Iddah which the widow was obliged to spend in the house of the late husband. Then Allah revealed: And those of you who die and leave wives should bequeath for their wives a year's maintenance and residence without turning them out, but if they leave, there is no blame on you for what they do of themselves, provided it is honorable (i.e. lawful marriage) (2.240)
Mujahid said: Allah has ordered that a widow has the right to stay for seven months and twenty days with her husband's relatives through her husband's will and testament so that she will complete the period of one year (of 'Iddah). But the widow has the right to stay that extra period or go out of her husband's house as is indicated by the statement of Allah: 'But if they leave there is no blame on you... ' (2.240) Ibn 'Abbas said: The above Verse has cancelled the order of spending the period of the 'Iddah at her late husband's house, and so she could spend her period of the 'Iddah wherever she likes. And Allah says: 'Without turning them out.' 'Ata said: If she would, she could spend her period of the 'Iddah at her husband's house, and live there according to her (husband's) will and testament, and if she would, she could go out (of her husband's house) as Allah says: 'There is no blame on you for what they do of themselves.' (2.240) 'Ata added: Then the Verses of inheritance were revealed and the order of residence (for the widow) was cancelled, and she could spend her period of the 'Iddah wherever she would like, and she was no longer entitled to be accommodated by her husband's family. [Bukhari]