Tuesday, November 18, 2014

(Notes & Audio) The 20 Types Of Men You Should Not Marry


The 20 Types Of Men You Should Not Marry
By Shaikh Abdullah Faisal
Monday 17th November 2014





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Marriage is half of the deen
It is important that you marry the right person
Because your marriage either makes or breaks you

Anas Ibn Malik narrated the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: “When a person gets married he has completed half of his religion, so let him fear Allah with regard to the other half.” [al-Bayhaqi narrated in Shu’ab al-Eemaan (7/340) No. 5100]

Anas Ibn Malik (RA) reported the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: "Whomever Allah blesses with a righteous wife, He has helped him with half of his religion, so let him fear Allah with regard to the other half." [Mustadrak al-Haakim (2/175) No. 2681 and Shu’ab al-Eemaan al-Bayhaqi (7/341) No. 5101]


WHO ARE THE 20 MEN YOU SHOULD NOT MARRY?

1. A MAN WHO IS UNABLE TO PROVIDE FOR HIS FAMILY

This man is called a deadbeat
He has no money and is unable to contribute to the financial upkeep of the home
Because men are the maintainers and protectors of the family,
It is important that a man is not a deadbeat

Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth... (An-Nisa 4:34) [Sahih International]

These men become house husbands
It's called switching roles

According to sharia law, if a woman does not obey her husband
She has lost all financial benefits
If the man doesn’t provide, he has lost his conjugal rights
Meaning he has lost the right to sleep with his wife (sexual intercourse)

…admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful), but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allah is Ever Most High, Most Great. (An-Nisa 4:34)


Thawban reported that the Prophet (SAW), said, "The best dinar a man spends is the dinar which he spends on his family, the dinar which he spends on his companions in the Way of Allah, and the dinar which he spends on his riding animal in the Way of Allah." One of the transmitters, Abu Qilaba, said, He began with the family, Who has a greater reward that the man who spends on small children until such time that Allah Almighty makes them able to support themselves." [Al-Adab al-Mufrad Al-Bukhari, #748]


2. A KAAFIR

And do not marry Al-Mushrikat (idolatresses, etc.) till they believe (worship Allah Alone). And indeed a slave woman who believes is better than a (free) Mushrikah (idolatress, etc.), even though she pleases you. And give not (your daughters) in marriage to Al-Mushrikun till they believe (in Allah Alone) and verily, a believing slave is better than a (free) Mushrik (idolater, etc.), even though he pleases you. Those (Al-Mushrikun) invite you to the Fire, but Allah invites (you) to Paradise and Forgiveness by His Leave, and makes His Ayat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) clear to mankind that they may remember. (Al-Baqarah 2:221)


Allah (swt) has commanded us not to marry pagans
Meaning the Hindu, Buddhist, Sikh, Rasta etc
The phrase ‘even though he pleases you’ means
You want your daughter to marry him because he is rich or handsome
If she marries a kaafir man she is living in sin and
The children produced from that marriage are illegitimate children
Allah (swt) says in 60:10 that muslims are haram for pagan men and vice versa

O you who believe! When believing women come to you as emigrants, examine them, Allah knows best as to their Faith, then if you ascertain that they are true believers, send them not back to the disbelievers, they are not lawful (wives) for the disbelievers nor are the disbelievers lawful (husbands) for them. But give the disbelievers that (amount of money) which they have spent [as their Mahr] to them. And there will be no sin on you to marry them if you have paid their Mahr to them. Likewise hold not the disbelieving women as wives, and ask for (the return of) that which you have spent (as Mahr) and let them (the disbelievers, etc.) ask back for that which they have spent. That is the Judgement of Allah. He judges between you. And Allah is All-Knowing, All-Wise. (Al-Mumtahinah 60:10)


3. A MUNAFIQ

A munafiq is worse than a kaafir
If a Muslim woman is not allowed to marry a kaafir, how can she marry a munafiq?

Verily, the hyprocrites will be in the lowest depths (grade) of the Fire; no helper will you find for them. (An-Nisa 4:145)

Allah (swt) also told you that you are not allowed to go to the grave of the munafiq
You should have nothing to with them
NOT even to go to their janazah

And never (O Muhammad SAW) pray (funeral prayer) for any of them (hypocrites) who dies, nor stand at his grave. Certainly they disbelieved in Allah and His Messenger, and died while they were Fasiqun (rebellious, - disobedient to Allah and His Messenger SAW). (At-Tawbah 9:84)

This Ayah was revealed when the Prophet (saw) prayed over a munafiq
Umar (ra) told him not to pray over him and Allah revealed this Ayah

How can you allow a Muslim woman be married to a munafiq?

O Prophet, fight against the disbelievers and the hypocrites and be harsh upon them. And their refuge is Hell, and wretched is the destination. (At-Tawbah 9:73) Sahih international

This includes the person who abandons salah
A debate took place between Imam Shafi (rh) and Imam Ahmad Ibn Hanbal (rh)
With regards a person who abandons salah
Imam Shafi said he is still a Muslim
Imam Ahmad Ibn Hanbal said he is a kaafir
Imam Ahmad used the following Quranic verse to win the debate

But if they repent, perform As-Salat (Iqamat-as-Salat) and give Zakat, then they are your brethren in religion. (In this way) We explain the Ayat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) in detail for a people who know. (At-Tawbah 9:11)

Why did Allah (swt) reveal 9:11?
Some Prisoners Of War began to take shahada
And some of the muslims were doubting their sincerity
So Allah (swt) sent down this ayah to give them the criteria
With which to ascertain that they are muslims
That they will become your brothers in deen if they repent, make salah and pay zakah
The rasul (saw) said in a famous hadith that
The difference between a Muslim and a Kaafir is his salah

The difference between a man (Muslim) and shirk and kufr is the abandoning of salaah.(Sahih Muslim: Kitab ul Iman: Book 001, Number 0147)

These hypocrites that do not pray say they are non-practicing Muslims
Why? Because they give themselves false hope
Kuffaar deny judgement day because they are evil

Then we bring them the following Quranic verse:
To refute the people who say we don't need to pray to be Muslims

What has caused you to enter Hell? They will say:  We were not of those who used to offer their Salat (prayers).  Nor we used to feed Al-Miskin (the poor). And we used to talk falsehood (all that which Allah hated) with vain talkers. And we used to belie the Day of Recompense. Until there came to us (the death) that is certain.  So no intercession of intercessors will be of any use to them. (Al-Muddaththir 74:42-48)

Many Muslim women live with these men and have children with them
Those who say they don't have to pray to be Muslims put a spin on the above ayah
They say in order to be in sakar you have to commit all the crimes mentioned
Meaning abandon salah, zakah (sadaqa) and deny the day of judgement
But if you are guilty of abandoning salah alone
You are still inside the fold of Islam
You refute them by saying
The first thing Allah (swt) will ask you about is your salah

The Messenger (S.A.W.) told us in an authentic hadith , “The first thing the people will be accountable for on the Day of Judgment is prayer, Allah will say to His angels (even though he already knows) : “Look at my servants prayers. Were they complete or not?” If they were complete It will be written as complete. If they were not fully complete Allah will say: “See if my servant has voluntary prayers, If he has them Allah will say: Complete his obligatory prayers shortage with his voluntary prayers.” Then the rest of his deeds will be dealt with in the same manner.” [Reported by Imams Ahmad, Abu Dawood, An-Nisa'i, and Al-Hakim]

If your salah is intact, Allah (swt) will look at your saum (fasting), zakah and hajj
Also the difference between a Muslim and a Kaafir is salah


Anas Ibn Malik narrated the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: “When a person gets married he has completed half of his religion, so let him fear Allah with regard to the other half.” [al-Bayhaqi narrated in Shu’ab al-Eemaan (7/340) No. 5100]

Anas Ibn Malik (RA) reported the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: "Whomever Allah blesses with a righteous wife, He has helped him with half of his religion, so let him fear Allah with regard to the other half." [Mustadrak al-Haakim (2/175) No. 2681 and Shu’ab al-Eemaan al-Bayhaqi (7/341) No. 5101]


This person who abandons salah is a Munafiq and haram for a Muslim woman
If you go to bed with him you are guilty of Zina
There is no such thing as a non-practicing Muslim


4. THE PSYCHOPATH

This person has no love to give; he cannot love
Love is an ingredient of marriage
Not to have love in a marriage is inappropriate
The very purpose of marriage is defeated then

And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect. (Ar-Rum 30:21)

Don’t live with a woman who cannot love you as well
It is haram to marry a jinn also, they have to be a species like you - human

The wife of Thabit (ra) did not love her husband
So she got divorce by khula (gave back the dowry)

The wife of Thabit bin Qais came to the Prophet and said, "O Allah's Apostle! I do not blame Thabit for defects in his character or his religion, but I, being a Muslim, dislike to behave in un-Islamic manner (if I remain with him)." On that Allah's Apostle said (to her) "Will you give back the garden which your husband has given you (as Mahr)?" She said, "Yes." Then the Prophet said to Thabit, "O Thabit! Accept your garden, and divorce her once." Bukhari, Volume 7, Book 63, Number 197

The Prophet (saw) told Thabit (ra) to divorce her
Because he knows that love is an important ingredient in a marriage
A psychopath cannot love you

Maybe he slept around in jahilliyyah with 50 women or more
Hence he is damaged goods
He may see you as a piece of meat
So for him to love you, he cannot


5. A PERSON WHO IS NOT A REAL MAN

He is feminine
Low sperm count could cause this too

The Disappearing Male - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GjYn-HwDQns

The food companies put chemicals deliberately in the food to cause men to become feminine
These evil kuffaar of the west are human devils
This documentary details this
You cannot live with a feminine man

Narrated Ibn 'Abbas: The Prophet cursed effeminate men; those men who are in the similitude (assume the manners of women) and those women who assume the manners of men, and he said, "Turn them out of your houses." The Prophet turned out such-and-such man, and 'Umar turned out such-and-such woman. [Sahih Bukhari : Vol 7, Chapter 72, No 774]

The Prophet (saw) said to drive them out of your homes in the above hadith
How can you marry such a man when you were commanded to drive out such a man?

Narrated Ibn Abbas: The Prophet cursed effeminate men and those women who assume the similitude (manners) of men. He also said said: "Turn them out of your houses." He turned such and such a person out, and Umar [a principal companion of Muhammad] also turned out such and such person. (Bukhari vol. 8, no. 6834; see vol. 7 nos. 5885 and 5886)

Also, the hadith says men who act like women and vice versa are cursed


7. THE MAN WHO IS OBNOXIOUS IN HIS CHARACTER

A person who is evil in his character
For example he is always telling lies or he is oppressive or very shady
Dodgy or he is very cruel - a wife beater
Maybe he always breaks his promises


8. A MAN WHO CANNOT LOVE YOU FOR THE SAKE OF ALLAH (SWT)

He can love you, but not for the sake of Allah (swt)
In a marriage, the spiritual love is important
Maybe he loves you because you are young, slim and pretty
But when you have kids and get fat he cannot love you
He can’t understand al wala wal bara
This man is different from the psychopath
He can love you, but not for the sake of Allah
Don’t confuse the two men
The psychopath cannot love you at all
This man can, but his love is for material things
Not for the sake of Allah
He cannot see your spiritual beauty
He himself is not spiritual

'A'isha reported: Never did I feel jealous of the wives of Allah's Apostle (SAW) but in case of Khadija, although I did no, (have the privilege to) see her. She further added that whenever Allah's Messenger (SAW) slaughtered a sheep, he said: Send it to the companions of Khadija I annoyed him one day and said: (It is) Khadija only who always prevails upon your mind. Thereupon Allah's Messenger (SAW) said: Her love had been nurtured in my heart by Allah Himself. [Sahih Muslim 2435 b : Book 31, Hadith 5972]


There are different types of love:
Divine Love - The love Allah (swt) has for His servants

Spiritual love – To love someone for the sake of Allah (swt)
Don't live with a man if he does not have that

Unconditional love – loving someone whether he is evil or good
E.g. a mother loving his son even if he apostates
Unconditional love is haram

Physical love – The love a husband has for his wife (sexually attracted to a person)

Emotional love - The love you have for your parents, siblings etc

Tainted love - The love got contaminated
Your spouse stopped loving you or is having an affair
If a woman changes her attitude towards you it means she is having an affair
A man can love two women
Because the Prophet (saw) loved his wives
But a woman cannot
There is no polyandry in Islam

A woman can love you for the sake of Allah (swt) only
Meaning she doesn't want to marry you and have your kids
This is spiritual love

If a man has three qualities he has tasted the sweetness of Imaan

Anas bin Malik (RA) reported: The Prophet (SAW) said, "There are three qualities whoever has them, will taste the sweetness of Iman (faith): To love Allah and His Messenger (SAW) more than anyone else; to love a slave (of Allah) only for (the sake of) Allah; and to abhor returning to infidelity after Allah has saved him from it as he would abhor to be thrown into the fire (of Hell).” [Al-Bukhari (21) and Muslim (43)]


9. A MAN WHO IS A DAYOUTH

A man who has no jealousy
He doesn’t care if his wife or daughter is having an affair
Allah (swt) will not look at him on judgement day
A dayouth will never enter the paradise

Abdullah ibn Umar reported that the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: "Three people will not enter paradise and Allah will not look to them on the Day of Judgment: the one who is disobedient to his parents, the woman who imitates men and the ad-Dayooth (cuckold, weak man who feels no jealousy over his womenfolk)..." [Musnad Ahmad (2/134) No. 6180, Musnad al-Bazzar (12/270) No. 6051, al-Sunnan al-Kubra al-Nasa'i (2/63) No. 2354, al-Mu’jam al-Awsat al-Tabarani (3/51) No. 2443]


10. THE MAN WHO SPILLS THE BEDROOM SECRETS

….They are Libas [i.e. body cover, or screen, or Sakan, (i.e. you enjoy the pleasure of living with her - as in Verse 7:189) Tafsir At-Tabari], for you and you are the same for them… [Al-Baqarah 2:187]

Allah (swt) calls you garments for each other
Hence, you should cover each other’s secrets

The Prophet SAW said: “Among the most evil of people before Allah on the Day of Resurrection will be a man who comes to his wife and has intercourse with her, then he spreads her secrets.” [Narrated by Muslim 4/157]

On the authority of Asmaa bint Yazid who narrated "that she was once in the presence of the Prophet and there were both men and women sitting. The Prophet then said: "Perhaps a man might discuss what he does with his wife, or perhaps a woman might inform someone what she did with her husband?" The people were silent Then I said: "O, Yes! O Messenger of Allaah verily both the women and men do that." Then the Prophet said: "Do not do that. It is like a male shaitaan who meets a female shaitaan along the way, and has sex with her while the people look on!" [Ahmad: Hasan or Saheeh due to supports]


11. THE PERSON WHO IS DISLOYAL, TREACHEROUS AND DECEPTIVE

Allah (swt) told us in the Quran that men are to be the protectors of women
So for you to be disloyal and treacherous
You have defeated the whole purpose of the marriage

Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means… (An-Nisa 4:34)

This man gangs up with others against his wife
If a man is disloyal to you, you are not allow to remain with him
Treacherous means he is a munafiq

'Abdullah ibn 'Amr narrated that the Prophet (SAW) said, "If anyone has four characteristics, he is a pure hypocrite, and if anyone has one of them, he has an aspect of hypocrisy until he gives it up: whenever he is trusted, he betrays his trust; whenever he speaks, he lies; when he makes an agreement, he breaks it; and when he quarrels, he deviates from the truth by speaking falsely." [al-Bukhari (34) and Muslim (58)]

Abu Hurayra (RA) reported that the Messenger of Allah (SAW), said, "Anyone who carries arms against us is not one of us. Anyone who cheats us is not one of us." [Sahih Muslim, Book 1, Hadith #182]

If he is treacherous then he is not marriage material

It was narrated that Abu Hurairah said:"The Messenger of Allah () passed by a man who was selling food. He put his hand in it and saw that there was something wrong with it. The Messenger of Allah () said, 'He is not one of us who cheats."' Book 12, Hadith 2309

12. THE MALE CHAUVINIST, BULLY, THE NARCISSIST AND THE CONTROL FREAK

O mankind! We have created you from a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that you may know one another. Verily, the most honourable of you with Allah is that (believer) who has At-Taqwa [i.e. one of the Muttaqun (pious - see V.2:2). Verily, Allah is All-Knowing, All-Aware. (Al-Hujurat 49:13)

This Ayah eradicates male chauvinist, narcissist, nationalist...
Don't be a narcissist because Allah doesn’t like this person
They look down on others

And do not turn your cheek [in contempt] toward people and do not walk through the earth exultantly. Indeed, Allah does not like everyone self-deluded and boastful. [31:18]

They will never take advice
The Prophet (saw) is talking about the narcissist in this hadith

From ‘Abdullaah Ibn Mas’ood radi-Allaahu ‘anhu who related that Allaah’s Messenger sal-Allaahu ‘alayhe wa sallam said: “Whoever has an atoms worth of kibr (pride) in his heart will not enter Paradise.” So a man said: What about a person who loves (i.e. takes pride in) wearing beautiful clothes and beautiful shoes? So he replied: “Indeed Allaah is beautiful and loves beauty. Kibr (pride) is to reject the truth, and to despise the people.”  [Sahīh Muslim (911)]

The narcissist has a foul character

The hadith below is fabricated even though is it famous

“Consult women and do the opposite” [Fabricated Hadith – Untraceable Chain]

The male chauvinist and narcissist support this hadith

The prophet (saw) acted upon the advice of umm salamah (ra) at the treaty of Hudaibiyyah

…….When the writing of the peace treaty was concluded, Allah's Apostle said to his companions, "Get up and' slaughter your sacrifices and get your head shaved." By Allah none of them got up, and the Prophet repeated his order thrice. When none of them got up, he left them and went to Um Salama and told her of the people's attitudes towards him. Um Salama said, "O the Prophet of Allah! Do you want your order to be carried out? Go out and don't say a word to anybody till you have slaughtered your sacrifice and call your barber to shave your head." So, the Prophet went out and did not talk to anyone of them till he did that, i.e. slaughtered the sacrifice and called his barber who shaved his head. Seeing that, the companions of the Prophet got up, slaughtered their sacrifices, and started shaving the heads of one another, and there was so much rush that there was a danger of killing each other. …… [Sahih Bukhari, Vol 3, Book 50, Hadith #891]


13. THE PERSON WHO IS UNHYGIENIC

Bad breath is unhygienic

…Truly, Allah loves those who turn unto Him in repentance and loves those who purify themselves (by taking a bath and cleaning and washing thoroughly their private parts, bodies, for their prayers, etc.). (Al-Baqarah 2:222)

The Prophet (saw) said in a hadith that purity is half of imaan:

On the authority of Abu Malik al-Harith bin al-Harith al-Asharee (RA) who said: The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said, "Purity is half of iman (faith)…." [Sahih Muslim (1/203) No. 223]

You are not allowed to live with such a person
It is fard to take a shower before Jumuah if you are a smelly person
This is the fatwa of ibn Tayimiyyah (ra)

Narrated Abu Huraira: Allah's Apostle said, "If I had not found it hard for my followers or the people, I would have ordered them to clean their teeth with Siwak for every prayer." (Bukhari: Book #13, Hadith 12)

Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah () said: He who eats of this plant (garlic) should not approach our mosque and should not harm us with the odour of garlic. Sahih Muslim 562 b

You offend the angels with bad breath like you offend humans

Jabir (RA) said: The Prophet (SAW) said, "He who has eaten garlic or onion should keep away from us or our mosques." [al-Bukhari (855) and Muslim (564)]


14. THE PERSON WITH A BAD TEMPER

These men kill women a lot
They have a very short fuse
They flare up quickly
Every week in the UK three women are killed
People complain Muslims kill women
But kuffaar kill women more
They are bullies
They want to be wrong and strong
They want to be strong with their wrongness
Like Bush and Blair started illegal wars and want you to support them


Abu Huraira reported Allah's Messenger (SAW) as saying: "The strong-man is not one who wrestles well but the strong man is one who controls himself when he is in a fit of rage." [Al-Bukhari (6114) and Muslim (2609)]

The Prophet (saw) was able to control his anger.

And by the Mercy of Allah, you dealt with them gently. And had you been severe and harsh ¬hearted, they would have broken away from about you; so pass over (their faults), and ask (Allah's) Forgiveness for them; and consult them in the affairs. Then when you have taken a decision, put your trust in Allah, certainly, Allah loves those who put their trust (in Him). (Aali Imran 3:159)


15. A MAN WITH ADDICTIONS

One addiction is enough for you to leave this person
Don’t wait for him to have multiple additions
These addictions include alcohol
- Drugs
- gambling
- sex addiction (zina) - he sleeps with everything that moves
This is promiscuity
I heard of Muslim women catching AIDS because their husband cheats
They have a sex addiction

Abdullah ibn Umar (RA) reported that Allah’s Messenger (SAW) said, “If anyone drinks wine then his salah over forty days are not approved. If he repents then Allah will relent to him. If he reverts (to it), then Allah will not approve his salah over forty days. If he repents, Allah will relent to him but if he reverts (to it) then Allah will not approve his salah over forty days. If he repents then Allah will relent to him. Again, if he reverts the fourth time, Allah will not approve his salah over forty days and if he repents then Allah will not relent to him and He will give him to drink from the river of Khabal.” Someone asked, “O Abu Abdur Rahman! what is the river of Khabal?’ He said, “The pus of the dwellers of the people of fire.” [Sunan Tirmidhi (4/290) No. 1862, Sunan Nasa'i (8/317) No. 5670, Musnad Ahmad (2/35) No. 4917, al-Mu’jam al-Kabir al-Tabarani (12/390) No. 13441]


O you who believe! Intoxicants (all kinds of alcoholic drinks), gambling, Al¬Ansab, and Al¬Azlam (arrows for seeking luck or decision) are an abomination of Shaitan's (Satan) handiwork. So avoid (strictly all) that (abomination) in order that you may be successful. (Al-Ma'idah 5:90)

Shaitan (Satan) wants only to excite enmity and hatred between you with intoxicants (alcoholic drinks) and gambling, and hinder you from the remembrance of Allah and from As-Salat (the prayer). So, will you not then abstain? (Al-Ma'idah 5:91)

A real Muslim should never be addicted to alcohol or drugs
And when they owe you money, they will never pay you back

Abdullah Ibn Umar (RA) narrated the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: "Khamr is the mother of all evils" [Sunan Daraqutni (5/444) No. 4613]

The following hadiths are about gambling

That the Messenger of Allah () said: "Whoever among you swears, saying in his oath: 'By Al-Lat! By Al-'Uzza!' Then let him say 'La ilaha illa Allah' And whoever says: 'Come let me gamble with you!' Then let him give in charity."  (Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1545)

. . . and whoever says to his companions, "Come let me gamble," then he must give something in charity (as an expiation of such a sin). (Good Manners, vol. 8, no. 6107; cf. Oaths and Vows, vol. 8, no. 6650; Asking Permission, vol. 8, no. 6301, which says, "Come, let us gamble!")

You have to make an expiation just by saying "come let us gamble"

Concerning zina, the Prophet (saw) said
The fornicating person is not a believer when he is in the act

The fornicator is not a believer (Mu’min) while he is fornicating; and the thief is not a believer while he is stealing; and the one who drinks alcohol is not a believer while he is drinking it.” (Saheeh Muslim, Book of Imaan, Chapter 24, Hadeeth no.57)

This means he is still a Muslim but not a Mu'min
He still has some imaan even though he is fornicating
The khawaarij say he is a kaafir when he is in the act
But we say to you he is a Muslim but not a Mu'min

Allah (swt) tells you not to even approach zina in the following Ayah

And come not near to the unlawful sexual intercourse. Verily, it is a Fahishah [i.e. anything that transgresses its limits (a great sin)], and an evil way (that leads one to Hell unless Allah forgives him). (Al-Isra 17:32)


16: A MAN WITH A SEXUAL PROBLEM

Because the purpose of marriage is for sex
This includes him being impotent
He cannot have an erection or he has a low libido
He only wants to make love once a week
And his wife wants to make love 3 times a week or more

The Prophet (PBUH) said: “And in a man’s sexual intercourse (with his wife) there is a Sadaqah (charity)” (Muslim, 1006)

The person with a libido problem is not marriage material
Because they are depriving you of barakah and sadaqah
Declare your problem if you have a libido problem
Before you get marry to a woman
These sexual problems also mean small genitalia
A woman can divorce her husband if his penis is too small
Declare your problem of having a small penis before you get married to a woman
Some men are only 3 inches when fully erected
Small genitalia is a strong reason for a divorce
Because the woman is not satisfied

Low sperm count is also a reason for divorce
He cannot impregnate a woman
Many men in UK and the US have this problem
Because the dajjal puts chemicals in the food for men to become gay
Darul harb is very dangerous
They tamper with the food

The Disappearing Male: http://vimeo.com/15346778

This also includes a selfish lover
A selfish lover will ejaculate but doesn’t care or want his wife to ejaculate
But some women will go further
A selfish lover will want his wife to perform certain acts
But doesn’t want to do the same with his wife
He wants to climax but doesn’t care if his wife climaxes

Woe to Al-Mutaffifin [those who give less in measure and weight (decrease the rights of others)], (Al-Mutaffifin 83:1)
Those who, when they have to receive by measure from men, demand full measure, (Al-Mutaffifin 83:2)
And when they have to give by measure or weight to men, give less than due. (Al-Mutaffifin 83:3)
Think they not that they will be resurrected (for reckoning), (Al-Mutaffifin 83:4)


Ibn Abbas (ra) used to dress up for his wife
When they asked why he did so
He said because they have rights over the men as they do over them
The selfish lover needs to understand that he is behaving the opposite of Quran and Sunnah.

......And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses, etc.) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect, etc.) to what is reasonable, but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them. And Allah is All-Mighty, All-Wise. (Al-Baqarah 2:228)


17. THE PERSON IS MORBIDLY OBESE

The worst vessel you can fill is your stomach

Miqdam ibn Ma’dikarib (RA) reported that he heard Allah’s Messenger say, “A man does not fill a vessel worse than his belly. Enough for the son of Adam are a few morsels to keep his back straight. But, if it is unavoidable then let him apportion one third for his food, one-third for his drink and one-third for his breath.” [Sunan Tirmidhi (4/590) No. 2380, Sunan Ibn Majah (4/448) No. 3349, Musnad Ahmad (4/132) No. 17225]

“The believer eats with one intestine and the disbeliever eats with seven intestines.’” Book 29, Hadith 3379

Ibn Umar (RA) reported that the Prophet (SAW) said, “The believer eats in one intestine, while the disbeliever eats in seven intestines.’ [al-Bukhari (5393) and Muslim (2061)]

….while those who disbelieve enjoy themselves and eat as cattle eat, and the Fire will be their abode. (Muhammad 47:12)

People who are morbidly obese should be taken into custody
So that they don't eat themselves to death
Their problem is called gluttony
They can't stop eating
Their disorder is call the prada willi syndrome

The body shock https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_Shock

The guy in this video weighed the same as a cow and looked like a cow
His name is Billy Robbins
Stay away from these people


18. A MAN WHO IS IN JAIL

Because the purpose of marriage is sex
And your conjugal rights are not being fulfilled

19. A MAN WHO IS CONFUSED

We call them confused.com
He is confused about his spirituality
He is not sure Allah (swt) exists
He is not sure Muhammad (saw) was a Prophet
He is not sure about kalaamullah of the Quran
He thinks hellfire is a myth
One of the conditions of the shahada is certainty
This is why you cannot marry such a man
A husband is a leader
How can you be a leader when you are confused.com?
One of the questions Allah asked you in the Quran is ‘where are you going?’

Then where are you going? (At-Takwir 81:26)

If you are confused.com you are not marriage material
This man is confused about his religiosity
He is not sure if the Shia, Saudi salafi, goofy soofy etc are right
Do not marry such men
He is not sure who is right

Paltalk is a double edged sword; you can get haqq here or misguidance
Don’t go to bad rooms so you don't become confused.com

But they (men) have broken their religion among them into sects, each group rejoicing in its belief. (Al-Mu'minun 23:53)

Allah (swt) said in the above ayah that everybody is happy with their aqeeda
Whether it is right or wrong, they are happy with their aqeeda
This man is confused about his sexuality
He is not sure if he is straight or gay
If I ask you where does Allah make takfir on gays in the Quran would you know the hujjah?

So We brought out from therein the believers. (Adh-Dhariyat 51:35)
But We found not there any household of the Muslims except one [i.e. Lout (Lot) and his two daughters]. (Adh-Dhariyat 51:36)

Usama Hassan led salah at a gay mosque in London
He is a madkhali imam

This person is confused about his identity
He is not sure if he is Muslim first or British first
He is confused.com

Dr Usama Hasan leads Eid prayers at controversial “inclusive” mosque. http://www.5pillarz.com/2014/10/08/dr-usama-hasan-leads-eid-prayers-at-controversial-inclusive-mosque/

Dr. Hasan also believes in Darwinism
Suhaib Webb is another clown who promotes gay marriages
Muslims are so evil that they take their deen from people who promote gay marriages

Don’t marry these men
They are human filth
Marry a man who is firm in deen


19. TOO MANY INCOMPATIBILITIES

You want your daughter to wear hijab because she's 12 and he says she is too young
You wake up your daughter to pray fajr because she is 10 and he wants her to sleep
Everything you do, he contradicts you
You want to go to the dawla and he wants to stay in the US
He cannot make hijrah
You are headed in one direction and he is headed in the other
He is not compatible with you
A wise woman ask for a sit down (interview) to see if they are compatible
Before getting married
She ask many questions during the interview

Allah spoke about incompatibilities in 24:26

Vile women are for vile men, and vile men for vile women. Good women are for good men, and good men for good women; such are innocent of that which people say: For them is pardon and a bountiful provision. Pickthall - (Surah Nur 24, V26)


20. A MAD MAN

Because the Prophet (saw) said the pen is lifted from three people
  
The Messenger of Allah said: “The Pen is lifted from three (i.e., their deeds are not recorded): 1 .a child until he reaches puberty; 2. an insane man until he comes to his senses; 3. one who is asleep until he wakes up.” [Recorded in Abu Dawud, 4403, and Ibn Majah, 2041]

If marriage is half of the deen, how can a mad man get married?
Sanity is a prerequisite for every act of ibada

Anas Ibn Malik narrated the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: “When a person gets married he has completed half of his religion, so let him fear Allah with regard to the other half.” [al-Bayhaqi narrated in Shu’ab al-Eemaan (7/340) No. 5100]


Question 1: Shaikh you mentioned that a muslim should not be addicted to things like alcohol, drugs and gambling. What about cigarette?

Answer 1: Cigarettes are haram
Smoking is suicide and makes you impotent as well
It makes you have a bad temper and bad breath
This is why it is completely banned in the Islamic State


Question 2: There are many brothers who want to spread the truth for the sake of Allah and forbid evil and they land in jail and are maybe married, does that mean that the sisters should divorce them?

Answer 2: She should divorce the man if he is serving a long sentence
Women have a biological clock
When a woman is old and gets pregnant the baby is born with down syndrome
Because the egg is old
Men don't have a biological clock


Question 3: Can we divorce a wife who is possessed by a Jinns?

Answer 3: Jinn possession is a reason for divorce
This falls into the category of a mad person
So Jinn possession is a reason for divorce

Question 4: Is masturbation halal?

Answer 4: Imam Malik said it is haram and his evidence is 23:5-7

And those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts, from illegal sexual acts) (Al-Mu'minun 23:5)
Except from their wives or (the captives and slaves) that their right hands possess, for then, they are free from blame; (Al-Mu'minun 23:6)
But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors; (Al-Mu'minun 23:7)

Imam Shafi said it is makrooh
Masturbation is halal if you fear zina
This is Hanbali opinion and is the correct opinion